The Best way to honor your parents is to follow your true passion. To take the path you’re called to rather than the path they choose for you. You’ll be disappoint them to first. But you’ll be happy. They’ll come around, naturally.
孝敬父母的最好方式就是追隨自己真正的熱情。走你被召喚的道路，而不是他們為你選擇的道路。你首先會讓他們失望的。但你會很高興。他們自然會回心轉意
Some people just deny reality. They cope with life’s issues through being 100% positive at all times. Here’s why: A common form of dissociation is chronic positivity. This looks like:
• Telling others how to feel
• Ignoring any “dark issues of feelings
• Being in denial
• Blocking out things that make you feel uncomfortable
• Telling others to “just get over it”
有些人隻是否認現實。他們始終以 100% 的積極態度來應對生活中的問題。 原因如下：慣常積極性是一種常見的脫離自己脫離現實的形式。 舉幾個例子：
• 告訴別人應該如何感受
• 忽略任何“感情上的黑暗問題”
• 否認現實
• 完全忽視自己感到的不舒服
• 告訴別人“克服它”
These people appear to be positive and upbeat. It seems like nothing bothers them, but underneath this is severe repression. They can’t hear anything that makes them uncomfortable. They also can’t deal with conflict.
People who cope with chronic positivity can be frustrating to be around.
This is because they:
- Refuse to talk about issues
- Shut down often
- Invalidate people’s emotions
- Want others to also avoid issues
這些人看起來很積極、樂觀。表麵上似乎沒有什麽事情困擾他們，但背後卻是嚴重的壓抑。他們不聽任何讓他們不舒服的聲音。他們不解決衝突。 那些長期處於積極情緒狀態的人會讓他們周圍的人感到沮喪。 這是因為他們： • 拒絕談論問題 • 經常不聽任何意見• 否認別人的情緒 • 希望其他人避免異議
The goal of someone who copes with chronic positivity is to have as little conflict as possible.Because they struggle with conflict resolution, they attempt to keep themselves safe.
This can cause a lot of resentment in relationships because the other person doesn’t feel heard and is often dismissed.
Being around someone who only has space for “happy” or positive emotions can also be confusing.
慣常隻有積極情緒的人， 他們的目標是盡可能不讓衝突發生。因為他們在解決衝突方麵遇到困難，所以他們試圖保證自己的安全。 這可能會在人際關係中引起很多怨恨，因為對方感覺自己沒有被傾聽，並且經常被忽視。 和一個隻有“快樂”或隻允許積極情緒的人在一起，也會讓人感到很困惑不舒服。
