大山隨筆
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>> The 1 greatest measure of success in life:
Warren Buffett said: When you're nearing your end of life, your only measure of success should be the number of“people you want to have love you actually do love you,” he answered. “The problem with love is that it’s not for sale,” “The only way to get love is to be lovable. It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.”
>> The most important decision:
Buffett: “The most important for most people, in terms of that decision, is their spouse.”“You want to pick a spouse that's a little bit better than you are. Then he or she, you hope they don't figure it out too fast,”“You want to associate with people that are better than you are,” he says. “And you want to have the right heroes.”“You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you’d like to be. You’ll move in that direction,” he said. “And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can’t overemphasize how important that is.” “You're looking for three things, generally, in a person: intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don't have the last one, don't even bother with the first two.”
>> The most important investment:
Buffett says “Ultimately, there’s one investment that supersedes all others: Invest in yourself,” “Nobody can take away what you’ve got in yourself, and everybody has potential they haven’t used yet.” >> Invest in yourself, and in particular, try to improve your communication skills. “If you can't communicate to somebody, it's like winking at a girl in the dark,”1. Listen first. 2. Remember, it's not just what you say; it's how you say it. 3. Think before you speak (or write). 4. Strive for clarity. >> Take care of your mind and body. “You get exactly one mind and one body in this world. And you can't start taking care of it when you're 50,”
洪小蓮的37條規則
37 Rules that Helped Hung Siu-lin (Katherine)
from a high school graduate became
an independent non-executive director of CK Asset Holdings Limited and
a member of the Supervisory Board of Hong Kong Housing Society
(with English translation by Chan Ouyang)
01. 任何事情，隻要不是你親眼所見，就不要到處宣揚。
Don't spread rumors which you haven't seen with your own eyes.
02. 對不了解的事，直接說“我不知道”就好。
For things you don't know, just be straight and say "I don't know.”
03. 如果別人朝你扔石頭，使絆子，不用扔回去，讓那些石頭成為你成功的基石。
If someone throw a stone to you, don't throw it back; let it becomes one of your footing stones in your road to success.
04. 人紅是非多，如果你暫時還鬥不過“是非”，就先放棄“當紅”，以退為進有時候更管用。
Celebrities attract tattlers; if you cannot stand with tattlers for the time being, give up being a celebrity. Sometimes it works better to retreat in order to advance.
05. 忍得了就忍，忍不了就改變，改變不了就接受現實。
Endure it if you could; if could not endure, change it; if could not change, accept it.
06. 遇事不要急，說話慢一點，思路會更加清晰，處理問題也更得心應手。
Speak slower, and no need to hurry, so your mind will be clearer and you can handle things easier.
07. 發射自己的光，也不要吹滅別人的燈。
Emit your own light, however don't blow others candle out.
08. 不要和小人結仇，小人自然會有大把對頭，不需要多你一個。
Don't make enemy with scamps; they will have their own enemies, and no need one more of you.
09. 不要盲目驕傲，也不要刻意渺小。
Don't blindly be arrogant, or sedulously be humble.
10. 每個人總有不願意公開的秘密，別人不想告訴你的時候就不要到處打探了。
Everyone always has own secret; when they don't want to tell you, don't ask around.
11. 如果一件事很多人都在做，你不做，並不代表你錯了。
If many people are doing the same thing while you don't, it does not mean you are wrong.
12. 求神不如求人，求人不如求己，自己強大比什麽都管用。
Begging gods for help is no better than begging others; begging others for help is no better than begging self. Powerful self is more useful than all other means.
13. 成熟的果實才可以采摘，充分的思考才能更好的表達。
Fruits should only be harvested after they are ripe. Ideas can only be well expressed after they have been deliberated.
14. 簡單的事不需要計較，複雜的事不必要煩惱，發火時不能夠講話，生氣時不要去決策。
Simple things no need to weigh and balance; complex things no need to fret about. Don't talk when in mad; don't make a decision when in angry.
15. 向你伸出手的不一定是真心想救你，人還是要學會自救。
The hands reaching to you don't necessarily mean to really save you; one must learn how to save oneself.
16. 寧可像啞巴一樣保持沉默，也不要一開口就顯得自己是個傻瓜。
Would rather be silent like a dumb, don't want speak like a fool.
17. 沉默是反擊無恥的無聲風暴，憤怒是抗擊外辱的有效“自殘”。
Being silence is a muted storm in counterattack shameless; being anger is an effective self-destruction in beating back insult.
18. 別把自己不當人，也別把自己太當人。
Don't treat yourself not like a human; also don't dote yourself like a human.
19. 真正的領導不在於誰能領導多少君子，而在於誰能駕馭多少小人。
Real leader is not the one who can lead many gentlemen, but the one who can drive many scoundrel-men.
20. 欲勝人者先自勝，欲卑人者先自卑。
One who wants to win over others must first win over oneself; one who wants to embarrass others should first shame oneself.
21. 許多人在重組自己的偏見時，還以為自己是在思考。
Many people when they are reshuffling their bias believe they are thinking ideas.
22. 你無法判斷別人是好人還是壞人，但你自己可以做一個好人。
You are unable to judge whether others are good or bad person, however you can make yourself be a good person.
23. “沒有完人，隻有完蛋”，所以一定要有缺點。
“There is no perfect winner, only perfect loser.” So better not to be perfect.
24. 忍得一時風亦靜，容得萬事心自清。
Bearing a moment comes out calming winds; brooking all things makes self-quieting hearts.
25. 有招請亮招，沒招別出手。
Have a knack, show your knack; don't play a trick.
26. 人再傻，世界這麽大，最傻還輪不到你，別放心上，下次不犯就是了。
No matter how stupid, it will never be your turn to be the most stupid in such a big world; just don't repeat such a mistake next time.
27. 諾不輕信，故人不負我；諾不輕許，故我不負人。
If not blindly trust others, no one would disappoint me; if not promise anything without thinking, I would not disappoint anyone.
28. 一個人如果不識貨，隻是受騙一時，但是如果認人不清，則會受苦一世。
If not knowing much about the good, you may be deceived once; however, if not clearly aware of people, you will be suffered a whole life.
29. 說真話的最大好處就是你不必記得你都說些什麽。
The great benefit of speaking the truth is that you don't have to remember whatsoever you have said.
30. 笨人的自知之明在於——不去自作聰明。
A dolt knows own limitations – that is not to be a wiseacre.
31. 心中裝滿自己的看法與想法的人，永遠聽不見別人的心聲。
A man full of his own views and ideas would never hear others heartfelt voices.
32. 了解你的人未必是關心你的人，也許他隻是個善於觀察的聰明人。
People who understand you may not the one who would care for you; they may be just smart and good at observing others.
33. 滾水中看不到倒影，同樣的道理盛怒中也看不到真相。
No one can see reflection in boiling water; in the same way, no one can see the truth when in anger.
34. 人生的經曆就像鉛筆一樣，開始很尖，經曆的多了也就變得圓滑了，如果承受不了就會斷！
Experience in human life is like a pencil, starting with sharp, becoming round after more experience, would be broken when cannot bear.
35. 如果你想走到高處，一定要用自己的腿，不要讓別人把你抬上去，否則會摔得很慘。
If you want to be at a high place, must use your own feet; don't ask others to carry you to get there, otherwise you will fall down miserably.
36. 你可以不做君子，但千萬不要輕易地去做一個小人。
You may not want to be a gentleman, however never be ease to be a scoundrel-man.
37. 社交的累人之處在於，人們總是想展示自己並不具備的素質。
The tiresome piece of social life is that people always want to show some characters which they don't possess.
華為副總離開華為轉戰百度時寫給任正非的離職信，其中經驗和教訓要點：
一、“從小事做起，學會吃虧，與他人合作”
二、“心有多大，舞台就有多大”
三、“好好學習，天天向上”
四、勇於實踐，勇於犯錯，善於反思
五、要有方法、有套路，對問題係統思考、對解決方案有戰略性的設計
六、獨立思考，不人雲亦雲
七、少抱怨、少空談、積極主動，多幹實事
八、對職業負責、對目標負責，對自己負責，成功者往往自覺自律、信守承諾、心無旁騖
九、多點人文修養和審美情趣，看起來與工作不怎麽相關，其實太相關了
十、“大家好，才是真的好”，關注人，幫助人，真誠待人，厚道做人
1)對事不對人。2)與人為善。
十一、開放和分享的態度
十二、做好時間管理
