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The Note

Issue 64?—?How To Start Getting Through The Worst Thing That Has Ever Happened To You

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Hey,

Before I start with today’s letter. The offer on the course I launched last week is ending today. Only today use of 59now gives you instant access to the course for $59 instead of the full price of $75. Click to learn more.

Now.

I wished to share with you the reason why we created the course.

Now that I can.

Here you go.

Why create the course?

1.

We believe you deserve a fresh start.

Instead of staying stuck in pain, disappointment, and frustration.

You can enjoy the life before you.

2.

What is a Fresh Start?

First, let us be clear about the things we are not proposing as a fresh start.

What a fresh start is not-
• It’s not starting over.
• It’s not striving for perfection.
• It’s not having all the right answers.
• It’s not trying to change everything at once.
• It’s not forgetting what has happened (even if you could figure
out how).

A fresh start is simply putting things in order so that you can take one step at a time.

On the path of healing and freedom.

3.

Are there any lessons to lead us to a Fresh Start?

Yes.

• Lesson 1.
  There is a difference between thinking about doing something and actually doing it. Change comes not in “thinking about it” but in doing it. Talking about it forever won’t make it happen. To change. You must do that which you think and talk about.
• Lesson 2.
  Words alone are not enough. Words must be rooted in images to have a lasting impact. You think in pictures before you form the words that follow. It is most often the images you hold in your mind that lead to change (or keep you stuck).
• Lesson 3.
  Situations that trigger old habits come fast. When faced with such circumstances, you need a quick way to react differently to change your course. Acronyms with verbs help you retrieve images and form new habits in real time.

4.

We believe these important tasks need not be complicated,
overwhelming or time-consuming.

All that’s required to get started is
• an open mind
• a posture of kindness
• a willingness to look within

5.

5 Phases of a Fresh Start

• Phase 1.
  To begin to heal, it’s essential to put the past in its proper place.
  In this phase, you learn how to file things so that life has an
  orderly flow.
• Phase 2.
  To loosen your grip on the things you’ve held too tightly or for too long. Helps tremendously.
  In this phase, you learn how to relax your hold to let things flow
  more naturally.
• Phase 3.
  You can change your current direction by owning the power you
  have to choose what will be next.
  In this phase, you learn how you can embrace that power.
• Phase 4.
  You deserve this fresh start and you are the only one who can give yourself permission to take it.
  In this phase, you learn how to separate yourself from others in a healthy way.
• Phase 5.
  You are not your emotions. Your emotions are to be acknowledged and respected but not given the throne to rule in tyranny.
  In this phase, you learn how to hierarchize your emotions so that
  they take their proper and subsidiary place in your life.

Now that you know all this.

Where you are is the perfect place.

Check out what the fresh start can do for you.

Only today use of 59now gives you instant access to the course for $59 instead of the full price of $75.

Until Next Tuesday.

— Joel

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1.

There is no third door
After one of the first recovery meetings I attended a woman said to me, “You never have to drink again.”
I thought, is that supposed to be comforting? Because it makes me want to die

2.

Dear Girl Who Appears to Work Everywhere
You are frequently my check-out person when I buy a loaf of bread at the corner store. Then, once in a while, you’re waiting tables at the little cafe with those greasy eggs I secretly love.

3.

How To Start Getting Through The Worst Thing That Has Ever Happened To You
For a few years now, I’ve been working hard to get through. Very, very hard. And to a lot of people on the outside looking in, it looks like I’ve Got My Shit Together and am doing well.

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Quotes

I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
― Marilyn Monroe

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Oh Hello, I’m Joel Mwakasege, and I write this letter for you. I curate engaging, practical, and personal stories. To make your day a little more pleasant since 2012.