女人味，職場，網上約會

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http://blog.wenxuecity.com/blogview.php?date=200708&postID=35058
http://blog.wenxuecity.com/blogview.php?date=200710&postID=1441
http://blog.wenxuecity.com/blogview.php?date=200711&postID=4605

職場處事必備之原則


    職場上的同事們都希望能在辦公室裏獲得重視，從而得到提升和加薪。但並不是一味的引人注意就可以獲得
重視和大家的尊敬，很多時候都要講究原則。

1.  Know what you believe in and stick to it. Nothing loses other's respect quicker than inconsistency.
    清楚並堅持自己的想法。左右搖擺會讓你在別人心目中的形象大打折扣。

2.  Keep your distance. Be friendly but not over-familiar. Don't confide intimate details to your colleagues.
    保持距離，友好卻不要太親近，不要向同事袒露太私人的生活細節。

3.  Keep your business to yourself. Don't share all your problems. Even if you resolve them you'll have left 
       the impression that you're indecisive or unable to cope with pressure.
    自己的事情自己做，不要事無巨細都向同事請教。因為即使你已經解決了問題，你還是會給人優柔寡斷或
    無法麵對壓力的不良印象。

4.  Don't ask anyone to do anything you wouldn't do yourself.
    連自己都不想做的事情就不要麻煩別人去做。

5.  Communicate-simply and often.
    經常與同事進行簡單的溝通。

6.  Keep your eyes on the objective.
    一直盯住你的目標。

7.  Don't get drawn into colleagues' personal lives.
    不要糾纏於同事的私人生活中。

8.  Keep cool. Don't respond instantly or say yes to everything.
    保持冷靜，對聽到的任何事情不要立刻表態。

9.  Keep your head. A calm presence is an invaluable asset.
    保持理智，鎮定是你工作製勝的法寶。

10. Be good at your job. Know that you're good. Self-respect is the key. It'll show up in the way people deal 
       with you.
    做好你的工作，相信自己能勝任。自信是關鍵，這也會影響到人們對你的態度。

11. Accept that you can't please all the people all the time-or even some of the people all of the time. 
    承認這個事實：你不能總是讓所有的人滿意，甚至是總讓一部分人滿意都很難。

七細節提升100%女人味


    男人在抱怨女人的女人味流失，而極大概率的女性也在為自己的女人味發愁，雖說“中性風”正盛行，但是說到
底，女人味還是女人的正宗，如何才能讓自己的女性魅力百分之百？


 

細節一：矜持

　  大咧咧永遠隻會讓人對你產生性別錯亂的印象，而含蓄矜持卻能為你帶來某種神秘感，也更能激發人的探索和親
近的欲望。

細節二：漂亮並不一定有魅力

　  漂亮的女人不一定有女人味，但有女人味的女人卻一定很美。漂亮隻是外在的框架，女人味才是真正的魅力本質。
單純追求漂亮莫不如悉心修煉品位、涵養、氣度與胸懷。

細節三：生動的個性

　  個性永遠是一個女人魅力的源泉，無論衣著、氣質、談吐、行為方式，都有自己的一套的女人，才會給人帶來生
動又深刻的印象，因為她是獨一無二的。

細節四：適當的性感

　  一件能充分顯示線條美的裙子，或是略顯性感的短裙套裝，加上搖曳生姿的高跟鞋、濃淡相宜的妝容，都是能為
性感加分的元素。當然性感並不是過度地裸露，其實說到底，帶女人魅力的性感，還是需要修煉才能得到。

細節五：建立異性友誼

    有女性魅力的女人一般都很有男人緣，她們不介意和值得交朋友的男性保持得體的肢體接觸，她們不過分保守，
卻也不是打情罵俏，她們的好男人緣建立在與男人有共同的話題，並且有足夠的智慧去與他們親密地像朋友般相處。

細節六：學會讚美別人

　  讚美是一個人最優良的品德，尤其是善於讚美別人的美女，她的魅力更會十足迸發。寬容而不挑剔、永遠看到別
人的優點，這是女人最美最有魅力的所在。

細節七：溫柔、含蓄與幽默

　  徐誌摩的詩裏有“最是那一低頭的嬌羞”的句子，想來這便是女性最溫柔的體現；而幽默更是難得的品質，幽默
代表一個女人爽利與遊刃有餘的氣度，一個幽默的女人永遠都不會嘮叨八卦，她既感性又兼備理性，女人味悠長雋永。

10 Classic Online Dating Mistakes That Women Make

For every valuable tip out there on how to date online, there are probably two mistakes to avoid. Keep away from the 10 listed here and you'll boost your success rate considerably.

Mistake #10: Thinking That Your Great Date Actually Meant Something

Have you ever had a man say how much he likes you, how sexy you are, and how he's serious about finding a long-term relationship? Ever have an amazing date where the chemistry was great, the conversation flowed, and you hooked up with him afterwards?

Have you ever had a man do all of these things and then NOT call?

No, you're not crazy or delusional. Your mistake is thinking that what a man says on a date actually means something. It doesn't. It means he's being in the moment. So don't put too much weight on a great date. The only way you can tell how a man REALLY feels about you is by how quickly he follows up for another date.

Mistake #9: Ignoring Your Own Intuition

How many times have you been across a table from some guy, wishing that you'd rather be anywhere else on earth? How many times have you felt deceived, angered, manipulated, or just plain turned off by the man in front of you?

Now, how many times have you considered that it was actually your fault that he was sitting there?

I'm not blaming you. I've been there myself. But the common denominator in all your bad dates is not the awful men themselves, but YOU. If you find yourself losing hope that there are any great guys out there, do yourself a favor and only go out with men who truly interest you. Instead of meeting total strangers, filter out men by email and phone. This strategy will prevent most bad dates before they happen.

Mistake #8: Waiting for Men to Write You First

Have you ever sat in front of your computer, reading emails from losers, and asked yourself why the winners never write to you? You look at your favorites list and wish you could say hi to them, but you know better. It's tradition: men approach women. And you wouldn't want to come across as desperate. After all, what guy wants a woman who's so needy that she has to write to him first?

Actually, all men do. We love it. If you have a good photo, an original profile and you write a confident email, most guys will drop everything they're doing to talk to you.

Mistake #7: Expecting Him to Tell the Truth in His Profile

You don't like to be lied to. Nobody does. And once you've gone out with a man who claimed to be 5'9" but is really 5'5", it's hard to keep dating. But haven't you ever done the same thing? The typical woman exaggerates her height by one inch and lowers her weight by 20 pounds. And it's not just a coincidence that the most popular ages for women on dating sites are 29, 39, 44 and 49.

You want to be given a chance. You don't want to be judged before you meet. And you're insecure that telling the truth won't get you in the door against younger, thinner women. So if there are good reasons why an honest woman might be tempted to misrepresent herself, wouldn't it make sense that an honest man might be tempted to do the same thing?

Mistake #6: Thinking You're Now Dating the Man You've Met Online

Have you ever gone on an amazing date and saw that he was online right afterwards? Have you ever emailed a man who seemed interested then suddenly disappeared? Have you ever gotten intimate with a man who never called again?

You're not alone. All of these things are common in the world of online dating. So instead of taking it as a personal rejection each time a man comes and goes, take a step back. Think of all the guys who have written to you that you weren't interested in. Imagine all of them taking it personally. It's ridiculous.

It's easy to forget how many choices men have. It's easy to forget how many other women they're contacting. And if you think that you're exclusive with every new guy that gets you excited, you're in for a lot of disappointment.

Mistake #5: Meeting for a Coffee Date to Save Time

Have you ever spent a month getting to know someone online and discovered on the date that they were a real-life dud? I have. I remember vowing not to waste that kind of time on a stranger ever again. You probably did, too. You probably started meeting guys right away to make sure that you had that "in-person chemistry." And at some point, on your tenth (or twentieth) bad date, you probably asked yourself, "Why do I even bother?"

Online dating is NOT about meeting men as quickly as possible. Moving quickly means there is no screening. There is no getting-to-know-you process. You might as well have cute men at a bar pick a number to meet you. The ONLY way to enjoy online dating is by going out with fewer men. It's far better to go on one comfortable date on a Friday night than five blind coffee dates during the week.

Mistake #4: Expecting That You'll Succeed Online Because You're a Catch

You're sweet. You're fun. You're attractive. You have no trouble meeting men in real life. You figure that with all your good qualities, online dating should be a piece of cake. Except that's not how it's worked out. The only guys contacting you look like they've been let out of jail or a retirement home. There have to be better men out there. Then how come they aren't writing?

Simple. Any man who you think is a great catch has hundreds of options. And when a guy has that many choices, he's often going to search for younger women. Why? Because he can. So forget these guys and their unrealistic Playboy fantasies. Mr. Right is the man who wants YOU. Focus your attentions on the men who are searching for you, instead of the ones who aren't, and you'll have far greater success.

Mistake #3: Trying to Stop the "Wrong" Men From Writing to You

Have you ever had a profile that just seemed to attract all the wrong men? You want a man who is attractive, successful and honest, and all you get are ugly unemployed guys who lie about their height. So, to stop them from wasting your time, you decide to spell it out in your profile: "If you're over the age of 50, live in another state, or have a substance abuse problem, don't even bother writing". And yet they STILL keep on contacting you! What can you possibly do to stop these annoying men who can't read?

Nothing. Ignore them. But don't try to stop them. After all, if you have any standards, most of your emails are going to be from the "wrong" guys. That's okay. They're allowed to write to you. And you're allowed to delete their email. As a quality woman, you're going to get all sorts of men who are interested in you. Your job isn't to scare away the bad guys, it's to attract the good ones. And profiles with negative warnings to the "wrong" men only make YOU sound bad.

Mistake #2: Signing Up for a One-Month Subscription

Even though you know how difficult it is to find a soul mate, you signed up for a one-month subscription on a dating site. One month! You're going to fall in love before you get your next phone bill! Clearly, you've created an unrealistic timetable. So while you may not want to date online forever, you're shortchanging yourself if you act as if you have only 30 days to find a husband.

Remind yourself why you started dating online -- it's hard to meet people in real life.And quitting is not an option.

Mistake #1: Searching for the Right Dating Site

If a girlfriend told you that her biggest problem in losing weight was that she couldn't find the right gym, you'd probably shake your head. You know that it's not the gym but your friend's dedication to using the gym that makes all the difference. Yet you may think that you can cure your dating blues just by choosing the right website. Newsflash: ANY website with lots of single men can be the right website; your success is ultimately determined by how you use that site.

You can use Yahoo! to search all day long to find a place that is populated with tall, honest, successful men. But at the end of the day, it's not the site that will determine your fate. It's you. The question is how committed you are to turning yourself into a success story.

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