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我家背麵的fence在聖誕期間被吹倒了。以前背麵鄰居是個高高大大的美國人。Fence 以前到過一次，他二話沒說，把fence豎了起來。我想這次他也會這樣做。我一點也不操心。
算盤打錯了。那個高高大大，勤勤快快的鄰居幾個月前搬走了。一個年輕的單身女人買了他的房子，成了我的背麵鄰居。我到了這個年輕女人的媽跨過到下的fence, 敲我家的後門，才知道我有了新鄰居。
這個年輕女人的媽敲開我家的後門，對我說：We talked to HOA. HOA said the fence is the responsibility of whoever the fence is facing. 我馬上說：No, it’s common sense. We share the fence. We share the responsibility. 我還進一步說：The fence on my left isn’t fencing me. I took care of it after IKE. 她說：No, it should be their responsibility since the fence is facing them. 我說：It doesn’t work that way. Both parties need privacy.
So we should share the responsibility.
最後她同意她和我各找個報價，我們share the responsibility (cost). 我們彼此留了電話。過了幾天，我打電話給她，問她有沒有報價。她說她這幾天很忙。她又開始說 HOA 說是我的責任，並說我應該要那個鄰居來承擔cost since last time they didn’t pay. 我有點茫然，我那個鄰居不相幹。我說:it’s between me and them. Now we are talking about us, the fence between us. 她又堅持根據HOA是我的責任。我說：If you have that page, I would like to take a look. 她說：You can call HOA. 我說：I don’t need to. Commen sense tells me we share the fence. We share the responsibility. 然後我告訴她我得到的報價。她說：That’s too high. 我說：I know. You are welcome to get another cost. I would like to have a better cost,too. 她說：It’s your responsibility. You should get the cost.
交涉無果，我意識到她就是不願承擔責任。我決定隻做minimum repair. 昨天上午叫了倆個人做簡單的修複。不久接到她的電話。從ID看是她，不太想接電話。估計她有話說。她既然不出錢，也就無須聽她的。但最後還是接了。
她說她在她女兒的家幫她打掃衛生。我應付地說她是個好媽媽。她又說她剛和我的兩個工人談過。他們同意replace the whole fence for 500。我說：That’s awesome. 她又說：It’s really your responsibility. 我說：No, everyone I talked to, they say it’s shared responsibility. Some people even went to court for this. Charge also says it’s shared responsibility. 今天她不是那麽fighting. 她說：If that’s Ok with you, I pay 250, you pay 250, do you want to replace the whole fence? 我說：I would love to. 我本來就是這樣打算的，何況她的cost 比我的好得多。她又說：Let me talk to my daughter, see what she says, then I’ll let you know.
幾分鍾後，她又打回來說： My daughter said since the pretty side)smooth side) of the fence faces you, you should pay more. 我說：it really doesn’t bother pretty or urgly. All I care is privacy. If it’s big deal to her, she can have the pretty side. She sounds like a pretty little girl. 很快地她說：OK。 Let me talk to the guys.
我沒介入他們的negociation.因為既然是她在和the guys work out the deal , 那兩個工人知道她對他們負責。最後我被告知兩個工人第二天上午開工， 也就是今天
上午。 她會在今天上午9：30到現場。
倆個工人今天上午打電話給我，說是去買材料。等他們把材料運到，正好下大雨。他們決定明天在幹。到了11：00她沒到，也沒電話。 我給兩個工人大電話。要他們明天沒收到她的payment 之前不要開工。希望她不要再change mind. 文章結尾時，我還沒接到她的電話。希望我的預感是錯的。
Things can be so easy if we are all reasonable and work together.
算盤打錯了。那個高高大大，勤勤快快的鄰居幾個月前搬走了。一個年輕的單身女人買了他的房子，成了我的背麵鄰居。我到了這個年輕女人的媽跨過到下的fence, 敲我家的後門，才知道我有了新鄰居。
這個年輕女人的媽敲開我家的後門，對我說：We talked to HOA. HOA said the fence is the responsibility of whoever the fence is facing. 我馬上說：No, it’s common sense. We share the fence. We share the responsibility. 我還進一步說：The fence on my left isn’t fencing me. I took care of it after IKE. 她說：No, it should be their responsibility since the fence is facing them. 我說：It doesn’t work that way. Both parties need privacy.
So we should share the responsibility.
最後她同意她和我各找個報價，我們share the responsibility (cost). 我們彼此留了電話。過了幾天，我打電話給她，問她有沒有報價。她說她這幾天很忙。她又開始說 HOA 說是我的責任，並說我應該要那個鄰居來承擔cost since last time they didn’t pay. 我有點茫然，我那個鄰居不相幹。我說:it’s between me and them. Now we are talking about us, the fence between us. 她又堅持根據HOA是我的責任。我說：If you have that page, I would like to take a look. 她說：You can call HOA. 我說：I don’t need to. Commen sense tells me we share the fence. We share the responsibility. 然後我告訴她我得到的報價。她說：That’s too high. 我說：I know. You are welcome to get another cost. I would like to have a better cost,too. 她說：It’s your responsibility. You should get the cost.
交涉無果，我意識到她就是不願承擔責任。我決定隻做minimum repair. 昨天上午叫了倆個人做簡單的修複。不久接到她的電話。從ID看是她，不太想接電話。估計她有話說。她既然不出錢，也就無須聽她的。但最後還是接了。
她說她在她女兒的家幫她打掃衛生。我應付地說她是個好媽媽。她又說她剛和我的兩個工人談過。他們同意replace the whole fence for 500。我說：That’s awesome. 她又說：It’s really your responsibility. 我說：No, everyone I talked to, they say it’s shared responsibility. Some people even went to court for this. Charge also says it’s shared responsibility. 今天她不是那麽fighting. 她說：If that’s Ok with you, I pay 250, you pay 250, do you want to replace the whole fence? 我說：I would love to. 我本來就是這樣打算的，何況她的cost 比我的好得多。她又說：Let me talk to my daughter, see what she says, then I’ll let you know.
幾分鍾後，她又打回來說： My daughter said since the pretty side)smooth side) of the fence faces you, you should pay more. 我說：it really doesn’t bother pretty or urgly. All I care is privacy. If it’s big deal to her, she can have the pretty side. She sounds like a pretty little girl. 很快地她說：OK。 Let me talk to the guys.
我沒介入他們的negociation.因為既然是她在和the guys work out the deal , 那兩個工人知道她對他們負責。最後我被告知兩個工人第二天上午開工， 也就是今天
上午。 她會在今天上午9：30到現場。
倆個工人今天上午打電話給我，說是去買材料。等他們把材料運到，正好下大雨。他們決定明天在幹。到了11：00她沒到，也沒電話。 我給兩個工人大電話。要他們明天沒收到她的payment 之前不要開工。希望她不要再change mind. 文章結尾時，我還沒接到她的電話。希望我的預感是錯的。
Things can be so easy if we are all reasonable and work together.
Of course, I paid every thing.