Single can be wonderful——把單身過成一種境界(英文版）

把單身過成一種境界(英文版）

Cathly has a big mission: get married before the end of next year!

“Too much pressure from all the people around! Sherry, you are lucky that you can hide there!” She complained.

Actually, I feel a bit pressure anyway. Girls my age are all in a relationship or between relationships—got ride of the ex and look for the next. I’m an abnormal human: I don’t want a boyfriend! Some people are starting to believe that I am gay!

Well, I won’t end my single life to prove if I’m lesbian or not. I hope Cathly won’t get married just to end her single life! Why do we let other people decide what we are and how we live our lives?! Happiness is not a one-way street!

Finding your man is like shopping for clothes. When you think that you have to buy one today, for sure you’ll get one at the end of the day, but probably it’s not the one that you looking for, you don’t really like it, so it ends up hanging in the closet, and becomes a garbage in your life. When we are anxious searching for something, we don’t check very carefully and we lower our requirements, plus friends aside keep telling you: it’s nice on you, it fits you well! So you decide to take it, but don’t ignore the hesitation in your heart, do you really like it? Don’t listen to what others say—they are not the one who pay for it, they are not the one who wear it; listen to yourself!

It’s enjoyable to shop alone sometimes, I can take time to look for what I want, and the importance is too much company means too many opinions, it confuses you, actually you are the one knows your style and your own fashion.

So why do we care about what others think of our life? That’s great if we meet a nice guy! But if not, then just enjoy the single life at this moment, why not?! Single is innocent; Single could be even better!

Being single doesn’t mean to be lonely, solitary, poor, ugly, sad… No! Being single doesn’t affect us to live an optimistic and positive life! We have even more self-love, self-confidence, self-respect, independence; we have all the time to perfect ourselves; we have family and real friends; we have a warm and peaceful heart, and sunny smile must of time.

But it’s very important that we organize our lives well:

First, it’s extremely important that you have a good job—not necessarily a big job, but a job that you like that supports a good life. Income is the basic of independence!

It’s also very important that you have some good friends—ones that understand you, care about you, love you.

Buy insurance. Insurance is necessary even if you have a boyfriend--believe me, when you’re sick, when you’re getting old, that’s something you can count on. It’s good that we can’t insure for love, otherwise all the insurance company would bankrupt.

Buy a house if possible. Single doesn’t mean homeless, and a house is much more reliable than a man. Psychically, it will make you feel more confidence and safe; practically, it’s an investment with economic benefits.

List study and travel on your schedule. There are so many things on the world for us to learn and to see, what a lucky thing that we have all the time to improve ourselves!

Entertain and take care of yourself. Going out with friends, gym, cooking, shopping… Single is not about suffering, it’s about being happy, being beautiful, being wonderful!

Single maybe just a short period in your life or perhaps it’s your choice for the rest of the life. No matter what, we are on a different train going to happiness, the view outside the windows is also wonderful!