進程日誌14: 2008 年5月11日

2008年5月11日

 

早上一起來就給爸爸媽媽打電話。他們旅行剛回來。媽媽每周和我在網上談話的時候都要問安妮的事。我每次都說，“你別管了，有消息自然會告訴你們。”我能說什麽呢？何必讓他們徒增煩憂。表哥們也是這個意思。我很早以前就意識到，當發現不再能把自己點點滴滴的煩惱與不快都向父母訴說的那一天就是自己長大的一天。父母年紀都大了，是我們護著寵著他們的時候了。

 昨天晚上在讀一本書，裏麵的一個案子引起了我的注意。開始給兩個報紙打電話，要找以前跟蹤采訪這個案子的兩個記者。第一個報社好像是很敬業的樣子，周六的晚上11點還有正經八擺的編輯在。不過我要找的那個記者多年以前在那裏工作過，現在已不知去向了，但他答應替我打聽。第二個報社除了管發行的人在，沒有別人在。你想一個靠新聞吃飯，又是發行日報的人，難道不知道事情不會因為是周末就不發生了？怎麽會連一個人都沒有。也許新聞專業的人士能解答這個問題吧。

居然找到了寫書的人的聯係信息！！！還有他的名言：

The Winner's Attitude
The winner is always part of the answer; the loser is always part of the problem.

• The winner always has a program; the loser always has an excuse.
• The winner says, "Let me do it for you;" the loser says, "That's not my job."
• The winner sees an answer for every problem; the loser sees a problem for every answer.
• The winner sees a green near every sand trap; the loser sees two or three sand traps near every green.
• The winner says, "It may be difficult, but it is possible;" the loser says, "It may be possible, but it's too difficult."

By his definition, I have always been a loser in my life, although a happy one, I may add. But this time, I really, really want to be a winner.

[helene2007]

Best wishes for your cousin, if she is safe, she should have contacted her family. Deepest sympathy for your situation and hope my advice can help u somehow.

[helene2007]

我覺得你太相信你表姐在美國的這個未婚夫，有幾個疑點
1。
如果他說曾經給你表姐定機票，請讓他出示買票記錄，問他是在哪家航空買的，公司會有定票記錄。如果你表姐是在準備考試，而又打算私奔，試問怎麽會讓丈夫混給她定票，而且她要回國怎麽可能不和家人說？

2。應該拿報案記錄或者請警方協助查看你表姐電子郵箱和最後通話記錄，如果她有情人，會留有痕跡。
3。就算真是私奔，你表姐肯定不會不和家人聯係，讓家人擔心。她沒必要私奔，她已經有綠卡，完全可以光明正當離婚。除非她的離婚會影響她綠卡身份，所以她寧可躲著其他人在美國黑下去。我不清楚美國這方麵規定，你自己判斷有無這可能。
4。有可能受到某種威脅以致不敢露麵。
5。已經......
6.find out who is lying about the truth, if someone is saying something which it seems unreasonable, so it means he is trying to hide something.U should ask a warrant of investigation to search her house. u are too easy to trust other people and reveal too much details of your investigation steps in public, which maybe help the bad person escape.Be more cautious and ask for more legal help from the authority and chiense ambassy.