Single can be wonderful—把單身過成一種境界(中文版在後麵)zt

Cathly has a big mission: get married before the end of next year!

 

  “Too much pressure from all the people around! Sherry, you are lucky that you can hide there!” She complained.

 

  Actually, I feel a bit pressure anyway. Girls my age are all in a relationship or between relationships—got ride of the ex and look for the next. I’m an abnormal human: I don’t want a boyfriend! Some people are starting to believe that I am gay!

 

  Well, I won’t end my single life to prove if I’m lesbian or not. I hope Cathly won’t get married just to end her single life! Why do we let other people decide what we are and how we live our lives?! Happiness is not a one-way street!

 

  Finding your man is like shopping for clothes. When you think that you have to buy one today, for sure you’ll get one at the end of the day, but probably it’s not the one that you looking for, you don’t really like it, so it ends up hanging in the closet, and becomes a garbage in your life. When we are anxious searching for something, we don’t check very carefully and we lower our requirements, plus friends aside keep telling you: it’s nice on you, it fits you well! So you decide to take it, but don’t ignore the hesitation in your heart, do you really like it? Don’t listen to what others say—they are not the one who pay for it, they are not the one who wear it; listen to yourself!

 

  It’s enjoyable to shop alone sometimes, I can take time to look for what I want, and the importance is too much company means too many opinions, it confuses you, actually you are the one knows your style and your own fashion.

 

  So why do we care about what others think of our life? That’s great if we meet a nice guy! But if not, then just enjoy the single life at this moment, why not?! Single is innocent; Single could be even better!

 

  Being single doesn’t mean to be lonely, solitary, poor, ugly, sad… No! Being single doesn’t affect us to live an optimistic and positive life! We have even more self-love, self-confidence, self-respect, independence; we have all the time to perfect ourselves; we have family and real friends; we have a warm and peaceful heart, and sunny smile must of time.

 

  But it’s very important that we organize our lives well:

 

  First, it’s extremely important that you have a good job—not necessarily a big job, but a job that you like that supports a good life. Income is the basic of independence!

 

  It’s also very important that you have some good friends—ones that understand you, care about you, love you.

 

  Buy insurance. Insurance is necessary even if you have a boyfriend--believe me, when you’re sick, when you’re getting old, that’s something you can count on. It’s good that we can’t insure for love, otherwise all the insurance company would bankrupt.

 

  Buy a house if possible. Single doesn’t mean homeless, and a house is much more reliable than a man. Psychically, it will make you feel more confidence and safe; practically, it’s an investment with economic benefits.

 

  List study and travel on your schedule. There are so many things on the world for us to learn and to see, what a lucky thing that we have all the time to improve ourselves!

 

  Entertain and take care of yourself. Going out with friends, gym, cooking, shopping… Single is not about suffering, it’s about being happy, being beautiful, being wonderful!

 

  Single maybe just a short period in your life or perhaps it’s your choice for the rest of the life. No matter what, we are on a different train going to happiness, the view outside the windows is also wonderful!

 

  Cathly的老爸老媽下了最後通牒：明年一定要把自己嫁掉！

  “頂不住了呀，壓力太大了！哪像你這麽幸運啊，一個人躲在國外逍遙!”她語氣裏有咬牙切齒的無奈。

  事實上，我也不是沒有壓力的。在我這個年紀的女孩都有了男朋友,或著離開了前一個正在尋覓下一個。我被歸於異類，因為我根本不想找－－好不容易重獲自由（婚字怎麽寫啊：女人昏了頭）。可怕的是已經有人開始相信我是同性戀了，唉！

  我不會去找個男友來證明我是否同性戀，也不希望看到Cathly為了結束單身而嫁人。幹嘛要讓別人來決定我們的生活呢！幸福不是隻有一種形式的呀！

  男人說女人如衣，舊不如新。其實嫁人倒如逛街選衣，要尋尋覓覓！在你很想今天一定要買一件的時候，你是買下了一件，但是那件往往不是你最喜歡的衣服，甚至到了後來可能是棄之可惜，留著又不穿的衣服。要知道在我們急著找尋的時候，往往會少了平時精挑細選的心境，放低了自己的要求，再加上旁邊一起陪你選衣服的人一聲聲的催促：這不是挺好的嘛，很配你呀... 你也就買下了，但是別忽視了你心裏一閃而過的一絲遲疑，別人說什麽都不算數的，又不是他們買也不是他們穿，有時甚至是瞎說說的。

  我有時喜歡一個人逛街，可以花時間慢慢看。人多意見就多了，有時倒真能影響你的選擇。其實我們才是自己時尚的創造者，何必讓別人來決定呢。

  既然你願嫁的男人不出現，苦苦尋覓不如幹脆好好享受單身生活——不僅單身，而且，尤其，更要“貴族”！

  單身其實未必離群索居；單身其實未必是痛苦、悲傷、氣餒。單身的女人擁有自信、自愛、自尊和自立自強，擁有真心相待的閨中密友，擁有永遠熱情、恬淡、年輕的心和絕大部分時候燦爛的笑容。

  單身生活可以自由出彩，但是也需要我們的努力經營：

  首先，一定要有一份工作。經濟基礎決定上層建築，一個人的獨立，首先是經濟上的獨立。如果選擇了單身，努力賺錢吧，讓你的荷包能夠承擔得起你精致的單身生活。

  其次，要有一些真正的好朋友。單身不是要做獨孤大俠，紅顏也好藍顏也罷，一定要有幾個生死知交；單身不是要做滅絕師太，紅塵有愛——愛自己，愛家人，愛朋友…

  買份保險吧。在年輕的時候就要有保險的觀念，在你生病，在你垂老的時候，什麽男朋友都沒有保險指望得上。保險可以免除很多後顧之憂。好在愛情不能保，否則保險公司統統賠到破產。

  可能的話計劃買房吧。愛情易碎，買房萬歲。單身並不意味著沒有家。對於單身女性來說，買下自己的房子，在心理層麵等同於自尊、獨立、安全感；在現實層麵，則等同於投資意向、經濟收益。

  把學習和旅遊列入人生計劃。有那麽多的知識可以養性，那麽多的美麗景色去養心，各地的美食來養胃，漂亮的衣衣又養眼，既然我們有的是大把的時間給自己，為什麽不呢！

  還要娛樂自己照顧自己。選擇單身是為了自由為了享受，那麽單身生活必須豐富多彩、有聲有色，才不辜負自己。單身女人要快樂要美麗要精彩！做“單身貴族“、“懶嫁一族“也沒什麽大驚小怪的。

  單身是一種狀態，是一種選擇，也是一種宣言。單身可能是暫時也可能是永恒，不管如何，正在單身著的朋友讓我們把單身過成一種境界吧！