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俺家老三，男孩。挺聰明的，按中文學校老師的話是“過目不忘”。考試成績都挺好，可是日常生活中，丟三落四、注意力不集中。做個作業吧，三請四催才開始，半個小時的作業，一邊做一邊玩，2個小時都做不完。俺覺得他有 mild autism or behavior disorder.要糾正，就得從小抓起。現在有俺天天念叨（nag)，養成自覺的習慣，也許就好了。

可是俺家LD一不同意俺的診斷，二不同意俺的療法。他堅信小三能學會自我控製，come through。他的建議是隨他去，比如作業，他不記得做，就讓老師批評他，後果自負。這樣他自然就學乖了。也就是說讓他從栽跟頭中學會生存。

俺的反駁是，這裏的學校不像國內，不交作業什麽懲罰也沒有，兒子哪能學乖呢？等到習慣成自然，以後要改也來不及了。

目前俺跟LD打成平局，誰也說服不了誰。

[taian12]

我兒小時也如您兒，那時我也有同樣的煩惱。我的經驗是大人稍加督促，樹大自直。一來大人有自己的事，精力有限，二來管多了他煩。大人要強調規則，具體事上給他自由度。我兒現在還算出色。

[laoyangdelp]

回複elly的評論:
Thanks for your suggestion. Actually I've realized that he is doing just fine without my nagging, #1 in his class for academics. Also his older brother is a very self disciplined boy who has a lot of positive influence on him.

[elly]

i actually support your LG.but it's really hard to make such a decision. my suggestion is that give your son some time, maybe half year, and just let him learn the lesson.