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Love is to let the loved one win - when a couple is in conflict...
Is it simply winning? ...
Love is such a complexed human emotion, it should be the central topic of the education, family and society. Unfortunately none of us are "told" to love.
To teach kids, you need certificate. To love someone, we don't. To drive a car, we need to check our eye sight and physical capability (height, for example in China). To love, we don't. To go to university, we need to be checked to have the right background and appititute.
To love, we don't. WHY NOT?
Surely it's not because it is not important. Maybe it is because to love is a right God given to all of us? But to love in the right way in the humanly society, is a hugely ignored field. The consequences of wrong "love" are more damaging than AIDS and Drunkness caused combined...
May we have true "right" love to give" and "the reasons being loved are born with"?
Is it simply winning? ...
Love is such a complexed human emotion, it should be the central topic of the education, family and society. Unfortunately none of us are "told" to love.
To teach kids, you need certificate. To love someone, we don't. To drive a car, we need to check our eye sight and physical capability (height, for example in China). To love, we don't. To go to university, we need to be checked to have the right background and appititute.
To love, we don't. WHY NOT?
Surely it's not because it is not important. Maybe it is because to love is a right God given to all of us? But to love in the right way in the humanly society, is a hugely ignored field. The consequences of wrong "love" are more damaging than AIDS and Drunkness caused combined...
May we have true "right" love to give" and "the reasons being loved are born with"?
By your animal nature, u will love, and you will want to be loved. So you search for love, consciously and unconsciously.
When there is a conflicts, you give up for two reasons. 1) you know that you are not the winner; 2) you don't care.
If you don't care, that is another story.
but why you would know that you are not the winner? because even if you win the conflict, you still win nothing but damages. So you give up winning that small battle.
Do you need to be taught to love? I don't think so. But you may need to be taught how to love, how to take care of the one you love, how to make her happy and how to win her love.
Some people say that true love is unselfish and giving unconditionally. I don't buy it.
True love is most selfish. You would want the ownership to the love, and to the one you love. You take care of her, because you want her to know your importance; you make her happy, because you want happiness in return; you love because you want her loving you. If she loves other man, you failed. If you don't feel bad enough for being a loser, you don't lover her.
Love is symbolic, there is no exact amount or even definitions. It is just your nature that you love, and you just know it when you love.