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   灣區今日好大的風雨，聲勢嚇人。原想在本地的新聞網站上查找一下關於這場風雨的時事，不想看到一則頭條新聞。看完，不勝唏噓。口中無言而心潮翻湧。

Sunnyvale's 'Guitar Man' dies; he was hit by car along Highway 101
By Lisa Fernandez
lfernandez@mercurynews.com

Posted: 01/19/2010 01:49:34 PM PST
Updated: 01/19/2010 09:52:26 PM PST
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Guy Myers worked for Hewlett-Packard for 19 years.

But later in life, his family said, the 58-year-old Sunnyvale man drank too much. He lost his job. He lost his home. And Sunday, he lost his life.

For some reason, Myers ran along Highway 101 south of Lawrence Expressway about 10 p.m., and was killed when a Dodge Neon struck him.

His family wonders if drinking had anything to do with Myers' behavior.

"He liked to drink," said Myers' son, Aaron. "He was a musician and had his guitar with him. The driver said he held up his guitar over his head right before he died. In fact, the guitar made it, even though my father didn't."

The Santa Clara County coroner's office typically takes about six weeks for a toxicology report to come back to determine the cause of death, including what was inside someone's system before death. The California Highway Patrol did not arrest the driver of the Dodge.

"I feel sorry for the man," Aaron Myers said of the driver. "I'd like to let him know that."

Similar sentiments are shared by Myers' other two children and four grandchildren. Aaron Myers said he kept a "good relationship" with his father despite his life choices.

Myers was twice divorced and homeless, and frequented the 7-Eleven on Wildwood Avenue, next to one of his other favorite spots, Bogart's Lounge, his son said.

Myers earned a small living through tips from playing his guitar outside the convenience store.

"People called him the Guitar Man," Aaron Myers said. "Everyone loved him."

Myers was let go from HP about 10 years ago, his son said, when the company offered to pay for a substance abuse rehabilitation program and his father declined. He said his father had worked in the shipping and die-casting departments.

Myers slept in several spots. Often, he camped out at a Sunnyvale park near Cat Smith's home, and the legal secretary said Myers had a friend who sometimes lived along the freeway where he was killed.

Over the five years that she knew him, Smith said, she bought Myers cat food for his pets, and sometimes ordered pizzas for him and his friends. She and her neighbors occasionally paid Myers to move furniture or help string Christmas lights. She said he watched out for her kids when they played outside.

"He never panhandled," she said. "And if you hired him for a job, he was there on time and did the work."

She, too, enjoyed Myers' guitar playing on the weekends in front of 7-Eleven.

"He played and sang for people," she said. "We all watched out of him. He was family to everyone in the neighborhood."

     做為中國人，有一點硬是搞不明白：為什麽美國人不贍養父母？被撞死的的Guy Myers 並非孤家寡人一個，他有三個孩子，四個孫子孫女。在中國人的眼裏可謂兒孫滿堂。每個子女隻要稍稍出力，至少也可以把他們的父親在廉價的老人公寓安頓下來，不用無家可歸了。僅僅是因為父親失業，酗酒，就可以把他扔在街上，置之不理嗎？那十幾年的生養之恩到哪裏去了？這對他們的孫輩又會帶來什麽樣的影響呢？

     美國人對家庭的觀念可以說是相當看重的。我們時常可以在電影，電視以及各種媒介，看到父母親和子女之間愛的關連。但有時我認為那種無比感人的愛僅僅局限於父母和年幼的孩子之間。從來沒有看到什麽電影描述關於子女和他們已經年邁父母有什麽深切的愛。美國人老了，要麽和老伴相依為命，萬一老伴不幸死了，就隻能養幾隻寵物解悶。愛幼但是不敬老，難道這真是地道的美國文化嗎？

    美國是以基督教精神立國的一個國家。在上帝給摩西頒布的十誡裏，第五條誡命如下：

    " Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which The Lord your God gives you.”

“當孝敬父母，使你的日子在耶和華－你上帝所賜你的土地上得以長久."

這條誡命超越了不可殺人，不可奸淫，不可偷盜，不可做假見證陷害人，不可貪戀人的房屋；也不可貪戀人的妻子、仆婢、牛驢，並他一切所有的。成為除不允許拜別神以外最大的誡命。聖經又說“ 要孝敬父母，使你得福，在世長壽。這是第一條帶應許的誡命 << 弗 6:3>>”。上帝對孝敬父母這一點是相當看重的。他一定認為，父母盡管不完美，但養育之恩不能忘，否則天打雷劈！

相信兩百年前的新移民對自己的父母是相當照顧的，美國也因而成為一個強國。但看看近些年來一些美國人的作為：亂倫，遺棄父母，甚而由同性戀發展到想立法。除非美國人重拾當年喬治. 華盛頓在立國時按手於聖經上宣誓時的莊嚴聖潔，上帝的榮耀不會再回到美國來。真的是欣賞中國人，或是亞洲人對待父母的態度。孝敬父母的思想，是儒家流傳下來的，也是碩果謹存的一個傳統美德。如果東西方人都按照自己的本位文化來遵循，街上就不會有那麽多無家可歸的老人了。其實，他們都是有家的，隻是，不肖子孫把他們遺棄了。