也當一把知心姐姐,嘿嘿
(2008-09-16 16:05:48)
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I spent some time here because I would like to help just as our marriage consulting instructor helps us.
But I found that those people don't really know what love is, or what kind of person they really want, or what responsibility they should take in the relationship.
Always taking instead of giving, complaining instead of supporting, and expecting a lot from others instead of being considerate.
Kind of discouraging, but make me cherish much more about my marriage and mysoulmate as well.
But I have to say, whatever they have in their mind now, they will take the consequence in the future. Therefore, the more holes we fill now, the better life we will have later.
When I look for a boyfriend, I am pretty sure I would like to find a soulmate, and wanna experience and grow up with him for the rest of my life.
First of all, become very independent...thus I can make sure the reason I wanna be with him is just because who he is, other than what he has :-)
(When I watched the movie "Juno", I found that Juno's father said the similar words.)
When I was single, I enjoyed single life, because I think each stage of life is a reward if we put efforts on it. People with same pursue with you will come along on your way sooner or later, it is a mutual affinity.
Love is a whole package, if you accept one person as your spouse, we need to accept all the good and bad as well.
When I got married, I enjoy it too, although the relationship is really complicated because two families get involved. My father always copied my favorite sentence, " Who Pa Who ", face it and communicate with spouse, even argue, as long as we can solve the problems.
Then when we have interviews, we can say we are excellent problem solvers.
Haha
life is short, and I try my best to have a peaceful and optimistic attitude toward it because I know I want a happy life.
I am not a consultant...hehe, but don't mind if you wanna pay for some advice, haha~~~