The Look of Love ( 2 )

I can hardly wait to hold you,

Feel my arms around you.

How long I have waited,

Waited just to love you,

Now that I have found you,

Don't ever go. (Diana Krall)
  

Knowing that dating site was because of YM; knowing YM was because of Wenxuecity. She once left a message on my blog that she is a single mom in Montreal with a little girl and maybe we can become friends. I added her to my MSN, and then we started to chat online, online only and became friends indeed.

One day, she was very happy and told me that she had met someone known from a dating site. He was the second man she met from that website, and he satisfied her completely. She continually encouraged me to register there as well.

One night after chatting with her, I went to visit that website. As always, there are some fields asking for the basic information, such as City, Sign, Height, Age, Ethnicity, Body Type, Religion,  Smoke or not, Want kids or not,  Man or Woman you are seeking to, What relationship is looking for, etc. Then come Interest and About You section.

Not sure energized by what, I was in such a good mood to open a profile immediately and found myself no difficulties to write the following directly there at once (God knows that I always feel headache to write those kind of self introduction).  I only did some minor editions afterwards.
 
Interest: Traveling, Photographing, Dancing, Writing and Sports

Nowadays, almost everyone might say that he/she likes to travel, likes to take pictures and likes whatever I have claimed as my interests above. However, when I said it, I really meant it. I haven't traveled to many countries, but most of those countries that I have ever been are very big. Therefore, in terms of area, I've been more than 1/3 of the global continents. My goal is to reach 1/2 and more; of course, 100% is only an unrealizable dream. :)

I like to write, most of time in my mother language, Chinese. I like to dance, but haven't danced for a long time, especially for those ballroom dances. I like lots of sports, e.g. badminton, bowling, bicycling, tennis, rock climbing, swimming, etc, however, unfortunately, due to the physical constrainers (not tall and strong), I'm not professional at any of them. :(

Moreover, I like to take pictures, not only using a nice camera, but also using my eyes and my heart. So my pictures show my values, attitude and style toward the world, people and life.

ohoh...I have said so much, but nothing about my personality yet. It's easy to put a lot of descriptive words here. But, I think, it might be better for you to figure out by yourself later on. Don't you think so? :))

因為校園戀情戀出來的是一個極想結婚的小孩，所以，婚姻有得算是蠻早的，可惜是很短命。之後的十多年裏，當然也有這樣那樣的故事，不過全是失敗收場，傷的體無完膚。有很長一段時間，雖然因為好強的性格，表麵上一如既往的風風光光，心裏疼得無以複加；人前照例活潑開朗，人後日日以淚洗麵。這也是當初突然毅然決定出國的緣由之一。

出國前去了一趟西藏，悟了不少。待出到外麵，發現了自己想要的生活，心裏也越來越平靜。後來有了小朋友，就更是安安心心地一個人過日子了。其實本身我就不是一個可以把找另一半當任務來完成的人，所以，一直都並沒有真正去 ——找 —— 過。不過，以前雖然也是個很獨立的人，精神和感情上卻總是很渴求依賴，以歌兒的話說，就是總覺得自己是為愛而生。後來的領悟引來了我的放棄，放棄了心裏對感情依賴的期盼，於是，心就安了。心安了，日子也就快樂起來；日子快樂起來，生活也就精彩起來。除了很偶然很偶然的時候，完全沒有了一個人的失落。

很長一段時間，直到現在，我MSN的留言一直掛著這麽一句話：If a woman lives for love, she will eventually lose it; if she lives for a life, she will eventually get what she wants most –love. 掛上去的時候隻是為了鼓勵自己，因為那時候我根本看不到我的愛會在哪裏. 不過，就一直相信，他會在那裏，就等我們可以相遇的那天。現在繼續掛在那裏，是為了鼓勵朋友們，因為至少有一個活生生的例子驗證了它。

[longhair]

- "放棄了心裏對感情依賴的期盼，於是，心就安了",確實如此 -sansemao- ♀ (68 bytes) (142 reads) 3/31/09
真正的獨立和快樂從這開始。
勇敢那，單親媽媽。很佩服長發妹妹。

- 真正的對立和快樂從這開始, 色貓英明! -longhair- ♀ (36 bytes) (34 reads) 3/31/09

- 古人說“無欲則剛”，人就是有欲望，有所求，才會失落呀。。。 -guaiwolf- ♀ (0 bytes) (9 reads) 3/31/09


- 回複：古人說“無欲則剛”，人就是有欲望，有所求，才會失落呀。。。 -longhair- ♀ (40 bytes) (26 reads) 3/31/09


- 嗬嗬 是啊 不過要是完全失去欲望 生活也毫無希望和樂趣可言 把握重點 -guaiwolf- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 3/31/09


- 回複：嘿嘿...是呀, 就是個度的問題,... -longhair- ♀ (55 bytes) (19 reads) 3/31/09

- 1.Emotional independence is more important for an -asd_123- ♀ (88 bytes) (67 reads) 3/31/09
adult woman.2.To love is to give, so being needy is not a way to show one is in love. :)

- 回複：1.Emotional independence is more important for an -longhair- ♀ (73 bytes) (29 reads) 3/31/09


- 大頂長發姑娘，也大頂這句話。快寫啊，加油。很有趣的寫法。 -nature17- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 3/31/09


- 謝謝! 很不倫不類的寫法. :) -longhair- ♀ (48 bytes) (12 reads) 3/31/09


- very true! The key to happiness and good opportunity is in our o -紅紅的秋楓- ♀ (0 bytes) (10 reads) 3/31/09


- 很精彩，期待下文！ -guaiwolf- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 3/31/09


- 回複：很精彩，期待下文！ -檀香橄欖- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 4/1/09


- 俺這大老粗，有點看不懂，誰給翻譯一下 :-| -ne0987- (0 bytes) (8 reads) 3/31/09

- 沒關係, 看中文的部分就行了. :) -longhair- ♀ (35 bytes) (20 reads) 3/31/09

- 回複：沒關係, 看中文的部分就行了. :) -longhair- ♀ (58 bytes) (21 reads) 3/31/09

- 中文俺也看不懂， MM太小資樂 :)) -ne0987- (0 bytes) (3 reads) 3/31/09


- 現在還稱得上太小資呀, 受寵若驚呢 :)) -longhair- ♀ (63 bytes) (13 reads) 3/31/09

- ? 俺這大老粗，有點看不懂，誰給翻譯一下 :-| -黛諾公主- ♀ (40 bytes) (29 reads) 3/31/09

- 公主也看不懂? 哦, 這問題大了. :) -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 3/31/09

- 跟著瞎起哄。喜歡姐姐的生活態度。re:公主也看不懂? 哦, 這問題大了. -黛諾公主- ♀ (38 bytes) (13 reads) 3/31/09


- 頂好文! 女人不應為愛活著, 才能得到愛, 很好的體驗! -試霜- ♀ (0 bytes) (9 reads) 3/31/09

- 的確是很好的領悟, 不過, -longhair- ♀ (97 bytes) (65 reads) 3/31/09


- 出國前沒去西藏是我的錯，現在真是難排時間。 -糖果果- ♀ (40 bytes) (18 reads) 3/31/09

- 回複：嘿嘿...別說, 那還真是個讓人悟的好地方 -longhair- ♀ (42 bytes) (25 reads) 3/31/09

- 開場白，確實比較長。（當然是對俺這種習慣快節奏的） -adacat- ♀ (0 bytes) (3 reads) 3/31/09

- 這篇已經不是開場白了，是故事的一部分。。嘿嘿。。。 -longhair- ♀ (95 bytes) (17 reads) 4/1/09


- 頂長法！文革時說的不破不立其實蠻有哲理的。‘破’的是不必要的自我 -seasickyetdocked- ♀ (0 bytes) (26 reads) 3/31/09

- 謝謝。不破不立其實蠻有哲理的...可惜那時候被人濫用了。 ：） -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 4/1/09


8226; 喜歡你的生活態度。期待你的網戀故事 -小葡萄媽媽- ♀ (0 bytes) (3 reads) 4/1/09

[longhairr]

回複素月-2006-的評論:
很高興能有MM的共鳴. MM關於兩個人生活的那些感悟,我很多也很有同感的.

[素月-2006-]

回想過去的日子，深有同感

[longhairr]

回複南山鬆的評論:
hehe....looking forward to seeing their profiles then. :)

[longhairr]

回複warmginger and xpHan的評論:

No problem, this I will mention in my travelling notes, which is not complicated. However, I still have long jouney to finish my pictures.

[xpHan]

回複warmginger的評論:
把大男人的旅遊觀都順道改變了一下--這也是很好的話題。。 上旅遊的片片時，有空的話，也可以順便講講啊。。。----期待中ing.(給長發JJ的功課挺多哈.:)) 能者多勞哈.:))

[南山鬆]

寫的不錯。
歌兒，暖薑快去注冊吧。

[warmginger]

把大男人的旅遊觀都順道改變了一下--這也是很好的話題。。 上旅遊的片片時，有空的話，也可以順便講講啊。。。

[longhairr]

回複mycereal的評論:
麥片MM,JJ哪裏好了?...那天MSN大會還剛坦白過,我就頭發一樣東西好的..嘿嘿...

[longhairr]

回複xpHan的評論:
GER寫的應該是差不多的意思吧,所以我說她開始悟了呀...嘿嘿..

MM對那POROFILE的評價也太高了點吧,僅次於一人呀(不是DAN)...我汗ing...其實也就是一通大白話嘛.

[longhairr]

回複warmginger的評論:
MM說的極是,的確要有自己喜歡的東西來給自己的生活帶來真的質感.而這東西是什麽, 並不總是顯而易見. 有時侯,是很不容易明白知道的...其實人並不是一開始就完全了解自己的.

對我來說,沒RR之前那東西是旅行,後了有了RR,當然RR就成了主角.不過,就一直在努力統一兩者.這點上循序漸進,成績斐然呀..嘿嘿...這次一行下來,把大男人的旅遊觀都順道改變了一下. :)

[longhairr]

回複阿貝的評論:
希望每個SS都活得精彩,一個人的也好,兩個的也好,拖小尾巴的也好,不拖的也好...這樣,我們的阿貝MM就不用心疼得睡不著了. :)

[longhairr]

回複陳默的評論:
JJ那裏有很多的心情故事,而且還有很多時尚貼士,才是好看得緊呢.

旅行的PP正在整理中,出來了一定告訴JJ.

[longhairr]

回複歌兒的評論:
你媽媽就要回國了? 那你可要失落一陣子了. 那個網站應該全世界都有吧.

不過,就象你說的,一個站賣了一張中大獎的,大家都去買,結果再沒人中了.所以,那個網站隻是一個可能而已,我因為它成了,所以推薦這個.我那個女朋友是在吧撞到的,所以,他們倆就多次鼓動甚至陪我去吧.去了,也認識了人,不過,不是對的那個.結果來自一個以前從不知道的網站.

所以說吧, 其實緣分到了,再哪都可能的,大馬路上碰上也可能的. GER安心等就是了..嘿嘿..

[longhairr]

回複Liketoread的評論:
謝謝愛讀多次光臨...名人堂

嘿嘿..瞧瞧,我這是給根竿就順著爬了....杆別太多哦,想爬都爬不過來了.

[longhairr]

回複我就是的評論:
以前聽人說"愛自己,再愛別人"很不以為然,覺得自己應該全心愛別人,自己也需要別人那樣來愛...後來明白了,自己是需要愛自己的,不能全指望別人來愛...(聽起來怎麽這麽饒口..嘿嘿..)

[punny]

期待下文。你們那幾個，快快行動起來哦，別讓我們跟著阿貝姐姐一起心疼 ：）

[Liketoread]

自我介紹寫的好風趣， 好可愛！

這裏跟名人堂是的！

陳默，大才女。在此幸會。“南京的大羅卜”讓人流鼻血：=）。

[mycereal]

長發姐姐真好啊。

[xpHan]

你在dating site 的自我介紹太精彩樂,文字生動,引人入勝.不愧是個好寫手啊!而且還利用了人類的好奇心,讓人想入非非,高!:)))
歌兒,暖薑快去注冊啊.你們也都是好寫手耶.加油!

[xpHan]

長發JJ真棒!
'後來的領悟引來了我的放棄，放棄了心裏對感情依賴的期盼，於是，心就安了。心安了，日子也就快樂起來；日子快樂起來，生活也就精彩起來。除了很偶然很偶然的時候，完全沒有了一個人的失落。'=歌兒的那篇文裏的放棄,應該是表達同樣的意思哈?
稀飯!很稀飯!

[warmginger]

也很認同這句話:-) 但是還要真真切切的付諸行動。 我的心得：要確實有自己喜歡的東西。。。 這些東西給自己的生活帶來真的質感。。。

想去找長發JJ學跳舞！

[阿貝]

"If a woman lives for love, she will eventually lose it; if she lives for a life, she will eventually get what she wants most –love. "

-- 很喜歡很認同這句話。：）
長發妹妹活得精彩。

[陳默]

長發妹，喜歡你的故事。很好的開始。

還等著看你旅行的PP啊。

祝好！

[歌兒]

你的例子，真的讓我覺得很安心呢。:))
我先歇段日子，等我媽媽回國了，我就去那個網站注冊一下看看。那裏在澳洲的人多嗎？

[Liketoread]

以為能POWER READ。 發現需要時間慢慢看。有時間在回來。

[我就是]

沙發
喜歡這個真正的開始！
其實女人就是該為自己活著