貓貓， 有空了看看“PREPHET”by Kahlil Gibran。很美的詩，充滿了智慧，讀了你
心裏會湧動著溫柔而又無畏無懼的愛-對人對工作對孩子。我在澳洲讀書過第一個生
日時另一位導師送我的生日禮物就是這本詩集。剛開始的時候，人生地不熟，實驗
做到半夜，獨自走過黑黑的小山回家，還有野狗在叫，手裏握把做實驗用的長尖的
剪刀給自己壯膽。膽戰心驚的回到家，吃點東西讀會詩，心情就有恢複了。
“When love beckons to you follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the
garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your
growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that
quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the
earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread
for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of
your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart”
(I post this poem in my Blog)
貓貓，別著急，先靜一靜再說。我也有好長時間找不著方向，身邊也沒高人指點，迷惑、彷徨，你此刻的心情我懂啊。我不知風兄說的關鍵點是什麽，覺得這個關鍵點應該是自己的特點。別考慮太多：“畢了業， 該做什麽，不知道， 做生意（小本買賣), 做學者（大學裏麵誤人子弟），混到政府裏麵（誤國誤民）”，想得太多反而容易糊塗。先仔細地分析一下自己的長、短處是什麽，愛做什麽，佩服道悟導師說的這句話："Find what you love, then embrance it fully and unconditionally“ ，把自己搞明白了，方向就自然有了，自然知道想幹什麽和怎麽去愛自己和想愛的人了。當然，有的時候也必須向現實低頭，做些自己並非很樂意幹的事兒，但一定別放棄自己的本心，本性，想辦法找到它，這樣才能得到長久的快樂。不好意思，這隻是我自己的一點體會，並不一定合適你，供你參考吧。
多嘴貓, Take a look at Weifeng's earlier post <女人的四個角色>, I think it is really to the point. Especially the following sessions give a good insight into how to have a loving, healthy relationship with your 男人
貓兒，無需擔心擾了風兄這片佛門清淨地，這個後院渡化的就是有緣人。一個想說，人人都有這麽一個過程，女子更感性一些，無可厚非。我和妻子大學時，一個人掌方向，就像是騎自行車，方向明確，慢是慢點，但情趣自在；後來乍有方向感，就像初學開汽車，一個方向盤，一個說左一個說右，一驚一炸中，錯了車道，亂了天下。現在好了，一個開車，一個閉嘴，方向原則兩不誤，天下太平。另一個是有人說過，我們這輩子就是要"find who I am, and do it"，至所以這麽說，可見摸不著北的大有其人啊，但終究會找著的。
b3706 發表評論於
喔，原來多嘴貓是美妹，還一直誤以為是帥哥。祝你以後好緣好運！
微風這兒真好，楊成排，柳成蔭。
dogwood 發表評論於
知道自己想走的方向就好辦了。很久以前我的一位導師對我說：
"Find what you love, then embrance it fully and unconditionally"
