安靜內向的孩子申請大學真吃虧，看了一段A is for Admission,

Let me give an example that took place at Dartmouth during a reading retreat, when the whole admissions office gets together, discusses strategies and priorities for the upcoming year, and then reads through actual case studies from the current year's class. All thirteen of us prepared the five case studies the night before so we could read our write-ups aloud and then see how people voted. The biggest disagreement concerned an extremely subtle case of a girl who came from a very humble background. She knew early on that she wanted to be a veterinarian, and she had started working ten hours a week and all summer for two years in a vet's office to obtain firsthand experience. Veterinary medicine was her passion, and you could see throughout all her class work and activities that she was preparing for a career in the field. All her recommendations stressed that she was very quiet but that when she did contribute to class, she almost always offered a tremendous and insightful thought that really turned the classroom into a live arena for debate. One even referred to her as something like a "creative whirlwind of ideas." Though all her teachers said she was modest and quiet, no one said that she was a low impact person who just blended in with the scenery. On the contrary, they all pointed to the fact that she just didn't blather on and on about what she knew, as some students did, but, rather, that her idea was to follow the discussion intently and then to interject her point as things became more interesting.

What became immediately evident in our follow-up discussion was that nearly all the old-guard people in the office immediately latched onto her teachers' remarks about the quiet aspect of her character, stressing that she would be a low-impact person at Dartmouth and would never add to class discussion because she'd be afraid to speak up. In other words, they totally ignored the body of the recommendations, which stressed that she always had meaningful contributions and that she just waited until the right moment to share her thoughts. Based on this information, only two out of thirteen people voted to accept her.

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• 在社會上也是 -tibuko- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:26:46

• quiet是敏感詞，在推薦信裏殺傷力極大 -skyport- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:27:56

• 讀了這個，更看好你家開朗健談的老二。 -數與形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:30:32

• 他有兩大弱勢：加州，小中男：（ -skyport- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:34:52

• 應該主要是你們校內同學間的競爭 -數與形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:54:23

• 對了，昨天還讓大家建議你去讀這本書，給大家一個總結。 -吹著吹著就牛了- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:30:53

• 我讀了一個chapter，除了這段讓人氣憤外，別的沒啥新東西。 -數與形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:32:17

• 大部頭的俺恐怕啃不動：） -skyport- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:33:39

• 你不覺得美國文化就是喜歡trump 這種上來就為自己說的嗎 -545f- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:28:09

• 西方文化如此。 -Rockeymountain- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:29:40

• 可大學應該包容各方麵的人才，不能要求數學家也個個都是social butterfly吧， -數與形- ♀ (136 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:34:41

• LOL：“party上大家一起做數學題”。確實也需要。 -N.- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 11:42:34

• 那正是他憧憬的party，哈哈 -數與形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 13:18:39

• 真正被認為有潛力的數學家還是會收的一些的，學校裏有什麽social活動都不參加的大牛。隻是這個女學生沒被認為是那一類的吧。 -MMMMM06- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/27/2019 postreply 07:04:33

• 好像考慮重點是孩子是否能在上課討論時做貢獻。推debate 吧。 -greenoasis- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:40:57

• 千萬別，最後氣壞家長就慘了。 -Rockeymountain- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:47:58

• 說起推debate, 孩子組織裏全是小印。不知道中國孩子都哪裏去了 -545f- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:52:17

• 我們這裏是對半。小印是真能砍嘴上沒把門的。小中是要說就是言之有物。這個不特指debate. 是泛泛觀察。 -greenoasis- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:54:58

• 我這裏Plano算華人比例很高了，一到這類活動全是小印，不可思議 -545f- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:09:39

• 俺這裏對半，小中比較熱衷 -白色非色- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:12:57

• 你們那裏也是高壓鍋啊，各種競賽辯論牛娃 -dengGGdeng- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:24:28

• 學校資金充裕吧 -545f- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:03:39

• 都是扯淡的門道 -lzh0007- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 17:23:00

• 扯蛋但出來可以混CEO做做 -Helloooo- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/27/2019 postreply 05:30:11

• 此處不留人 自有留人處，藤校看不上，their lost,你娃也沒必要看上它們。 -白色非色- ♀ (252 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:41:43

• 動腦，也要動嘴, 蠱惑人心，造勢 。。。 -uncwu- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:53:22

• 內向和安靜是兩回事，你可以看一下各類研究。內向完全不是問題，但安靜的確是個問題 -糖果果- ♀ (845 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 09:55:28

• 我咋覺得這是好事？說明大貓不適合她，真去了也難受 -dengGGdeng- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:00:07

• 如果所有學校的AO都用這個標準，這孩子隻能進州大了 -數與形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:01:29

• 不會都這樣的：）我們選學校也有傾向性啊，我們就不喜歡大貓 -dengGGdeng- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:02:24

• 這個作者認為他講的是普遍現象。 -數與形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:03:42

• 鼓勵孩子多表達，大了變化很大的 -dengGGdeng- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:12:07

• 我倒覺得安靜內向娃也沒必要非糾結自己的安靜內向，woo那類的也都是天生的 -Bachbwv- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:26:00

• 應該利用自身的長處，而不是跟風。當然，多多鼓勵娃去多交朋友，多參與各種活動。上大學，本就是個學習與交友參半的事情。 -白色非色- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 10:53:28

• 大私校沒這麽矯情，沒辦法我娃也是這樣 -新年好運- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 11:02:00

• 大貓 理工科不強，他們更喜歡能說會道的人，有沒有思想 不在考慮範圍之內，這種學校不去也罷 -w12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 11:14:45

• 這本書我也看過，再加上天港貼的那個tufts 的錄取視頻 -紅蘭花花- ♀ (383 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:05:18

• 我也覺得AO群體首先就不多元化。現在的確黑人西裔AO多了，但是還是都是軟專業出身。思路也差不多 -greenoasis- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:07:53

• 的確如此。他們錄取的case都要集體投票。 -紅蘭花花- ♀ (142 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:37:13

• 能說下書名嗎 -JT20871- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:07:56

• 就是A is for Admission -古代的事物- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:27:11

• 另外我覺得有很多AO不知道是本來數學就不太好，還是被熱情蒙蔽了眼睛 -紅蘭花花- ♀ (942 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 12:32:06

• Dartmouth招的人不是這樣的profile，所以還是不要去。她應該去一個真正搞學術的學校。 -出門在外7788- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 16:20:42

• 這種學校不去也罷 -雖然- ♀ (145 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 18:09:01

• 那個州大？我喜歡這個 -jinhui20- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 21:08:06

• 內向就搞學術吧，就算學校收了，工作之後怎麽辦？ -sap200- ♂ (145 bytes) () 10/26/2019 postreply 18:28:58