從《恰似你的溫柔》一路走來的蔡琴至今被眾多 歌迷喜愛，仍以她低沉優雅的嗓音在歌壇一枝獨秀。我最喜歡蔡琴妙語如珠的口才和韻味十足的歌聲。
蔡琴人生路坎坷, 她曾與台灣著名導演， 因肝癌已經離世的前夫楊德昌有過整整10年的無性婚姻。
1984年，楊德昌因拍攝電影《青梅竹馬》結識蔡琴，一年後兩人喜結良緣。楊德昌在結婚時提出“無性婚姻”的想法， 蔡琴也同意了。兩人同居一室，卻不同床而臥，有夫妻之名，卻無夫妻之實。婚後，蔡琴做了楊德昌的沙龍女主人，把文學藝術圈子裏的能人們招為座上客，為楊德昌的電影事業做了充分準備，並時不時在他的電影裏客串個小角色、唱首主題歌，甚至擔任美工。於是有了作為 “台灣新電影”主將的楊德昌。期間，楊德 昌不時有緋聞傳出。10年的無性的婚姻後，楊德昌終於向蔡琴攤牌：他有了外遇。1995年，蔡琴和楊德昌結束了10年的婚姻。
有記者問楊德昌，結婚十年，你應該說點什麽，楊德昌說就兩個字“空白”，蔡琴聽到他說出這兩個字淚如雨下，“我不覺得是一片空白，我有全部的付出。”而此後曾有記者問蔡琴還會不會結婚，蔡琴斷然答道：“我蔡琴此生不會再給任何其他男人當太太！”
2007年7yue, 楊德昌逝世的消息傳來後，蔡琴發表公開信，字裏行間流露出對前夫離世的不舍及悲痛：“電視播了一整天，我也看了一整天；楊德昌就這麽走了……
這個時候，叫我說什麽？說什麽也說不清楚我的五味雜陳……一陣強烈而尖銳的刺痛，才刺醒了我的感 覺！深埋在我心底，長久不願再去回想曾經對他的記憶，突地襲上來；我脫口輕喊出一句：楊德昌，你怎麽可以這樣就走了呢？” “讓他活在我的歌裏吧！
Sorry I cannot type Chinese at this moment, can only copy pieces of message from internet and put them together to complete the story above. Cai Qin is my favorite Taiwan female singer. I love her voice and personality, she is perfect as a singer and as a girl. She was and has been smart, and wise, why did she love that a man who made use of her reputation and help to develop his professional career, but did not love her? As a female, how precious it is between 27 and 37 years old?
In his last years, Yang suffered from cancer. Some people said, Cai Qin still loved him until he died. “當知道今生的摯愛楊德昌已經去了天國，蔡琴默默的在心裏說，昌哥，如果可以重來，我不要無性婚姻 !”
Not loving a girl is nothing wrong, however, making use of her reputation and help, and wasting her 10 years youth is definitely a big shame. Unfortunately, some girls can never get out of the illusion they made for themselves, locking themselves in the illusion, and live miserably all the life. If a man does not love a woman, there is no way to change his mind in most cases. So don't try to change him, change yourself once you find out you can never walk into his love castle.
