其實隨著年齡漸長,我們都有過破滅的夢想,出賣我們的朋友,不公平的上司,以及生活中種種其他的挫折。不過人過的快樂與否,最重要的其實是心態。高官大亨們未必快樂,屢受挫折的,仍然在努力的小人物們,未必不快樂。既然都是這麽一生,幹嗎不調整好自己的心態,快樂的過呢?況且,機會總是被有準備的人抓住。即便經濟低迷,即便看不到黑暗的盡頭,為那一天做準備的人,才會在來到的時候,終於做到自己想要做的事。頹廢低迷,是對任何人都沒有任何好處的,不是嗎?與大家共勉。:)
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一年前看了這本書,以前提過,Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl.
http://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014265/ref=pd_bbs_sr_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1228086779&sr=8-3
這裏是wikipedia.org的Viktor Frankl介紹
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viktor_Frankl
Viktor Frankl(1905 - 1997)是一個心理學家,集中營的幸存者,以及戰後四十年logotheropy的創始人和倡導者。Logos means "meaning" in Greek. Frankl's theory holds that our primary drive in life is not pleasure, as freud maintained, but the discovery and pursuit of what we personally find meaningful.
1942年,當危險籠罩歐洲的猶太人的時候,他生活在維也納,結婚不久,年輕的妻子剛剛懷孕。他剛剛完成了關於心理治療的Logotheropy的手稿。也因為出色的學術成就得到了美國簽證。但是因為擔心年邁的父母,他決定留下來。
1942年九月25日,他們全家都被關進集中營。他與母親和妻子分離,但是仍然可以偷偷的關照父親,因為他們一開始被關在同一個集中營裏。到1945年4月27日,德國戰敗,集中營被解放,他經曆了900多個黑暗的日子,隨時都有死亡的危險,天天看到跟自己同樣處境的人被處死,或是消沉而至放棄,或是變得搖尾乞憐,有點機會就仗勢欺人。他三次被轉送到別的集中營,其中有臭名昭著的Auschwitz集中營,就在被解放的前一天,他還差點送命。這些日子裏,他一直不知道親人的生死。
可他活過來了,因為他堅信樂觀的對待痛苦是他唯一僅剩的自由。生命中的痛苦如果無可避免,那麽堅強的戰勝痛苦就給未來不痛苦的生命帶來了意義。當他自由的走出集中營,他發現他的父母妻子都死了。他仍然要活下去,他重寫了Logotheropy,然後出版了Man's Search for Meaning, 這本書幫助了很多人,他的工作治療了很多人。1997年,他去世的時候,是92歲高齡,他的一生給很多人帶來好的影響。他的書,他的工作,會繼續影響未來的人們。
想想看,拋除幸運的成分,如果他不是很堅強的告訴自己要忍耐,要渡過困境以求新生,他的生命也許就結束在1942。這本書,讓我留著淚讀完,也讓我會心的微笑。他的一生,是給人啟發的一生。讓人可以看淡自己生活中的一些困難,心中的一些鬱悶,而去思考:我的人生的意義是什麽?我要用盡所有力量追求的是什麽?
在讀過這本書一年以後,我更加快樂了。:) 再次推薦,希望你們也更加快樂。
Quotations from Man's Search for Meaning
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
"Nietzsche's words, 'He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.'"
"Fundamentally, therefore, any man can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him - mentally and spiritually. he may retain his human dignity even in a concentration camp."
"It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life - daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual."
"Man is capable of changing the world for the better if possible, and of changing himself for the better if necessary."
"We have come to know man as he really is. After all, man is that being who invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz; however, he is also that being who entered those gas chambers upright, with the Lord's prayer or the Shema Yisreal on his lips."