嗟來之食! that is why I'm trying to ask him to be a real father;not let my kid to ask for money from him. My kid has the right to have the parents help,not 嗟來之食.
By the way, I didn't talk about 當年如何對他好, I have my better life than him now. If my kid uses other's money which will be 嗟來之食.