totally agree both of you. We are in different shoes...

I am a mother of 7 years old boy. I need to pay $500 for his afterschool care + transportation fee, and at least another $300 for other enrichment classes. Oh, not mention filed trips, vacations, birthday party, etc, etc...go figure~~~

Whatever it is, my heart goes to this little girl. Under any circumstances, parents' battle should NEVER NEVER involve their children. All kids deserve their parents love, and love is not just a lip service. My impression is the father did not really involved with his girl's life, and he did not trust the girl's mother either. As someone suggested above, he could sent new clothes, batteries, toyes to his daughter. He could also at least communicate with his EX before bad words her in front of his daughter. If he is going to do that, I can repect him and apology for what I said before.

You sound like a very good and responsible father:)
God bless you and your family!

PS. IMHO, the examples you giving out is quite interesting. How about compare The percentage of a father doesn't support his children VS the % of mother kill her own children? Which one would yield a higher rate?