I'm a reader of this forum for a long time, and from time, would share my experience and opinion with those who come here to seek help. I do not expect others to treat my post as royal decree, everyone can disagree with me. That's fine.
Let me get something perfectly clear, 單身老貓, I repect your long time contribuation to this forum, and I do learn a lot from your advice. But reading your post over time, I sense a significant change in your attitude. Some of your recent posts make me suspect whether your onine identify has been stolen. Another friend posted his opinion a few days ago, I'll just post the link here so I don't take any of his credit, except to say, I agree with him totally.
http://web.wenxuecity.com/BBSView.php?SubID=law&MsgID=33383
And I say this without hostile intention (yet, 忠言逆耳), your ego has started cashing checks on your contribuation and credibility, it won't be long before you reach a deficit.