回複：老貓，可以在撫養權這個問題上說更具體些嗎？謝謝！

原則上NJ 對於監護權有兩個不同的類型,一個是 Legal Custody,一個是 Residential Custody,原則上孩子住在誰家,是屬於 Residential Custody 的範圍,因此依據您們協商的情況,這個部份是屬於 Shared Residential Custody. 如果這是你們唯一能夠取得協議的方式,這可能是您的選擇,良心說您應該與您的律師好好談一談.

老貓所談的是 "Sole Legal Custody",(authority vested in the parents to make decisions of a non-routine nature, which affect the child's health education or welfare.),這個部份給予您做決有關孩子的教育與日常生活的安排,(例如暑假時短期去與您在加州的家人團聚,不需要您先生的同意)

下麵是有關這個東西的一個簡單的說明,資料參考來源 (這個資料寫得相當清楚,值得您仔細讀)

New New Jersey Divorce, Child Custody & Family Lawyer
NJ Divorce & NJ Child Custody Law
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http://www.divorcenewjersey.com/faqs.html

In a Sole Legal Custody situation, one parent is the Legal Custodian and does not have to consult with the other in making important non-routine decisions. The other parent, conversely, has a duty to request the custodial parent's permission or consent to every non-routine parenting decision. If the non-custodial parent, for example, decides to pull a child out of school for a week to go for a surprise trip to Disney World without the express permission of the custodial parent, the objecting parent can file a motion to prevent the unplanned vacation from happening. Once again, a Judge is left to decide the motion on a case-by-case basis.

The Sole Legal Custodial Parent, however, must act responsibly in making decisions that are in the child's best interests. If the other parent is concerned that the custodial parent is about to make or has made a decision inimical to the child's best interests, that parent can make an appropriate motion to the Judge, who will decide the case either way.

希望這個資料與老貓的補充說明可以給予您一個比較明確的了解.