請教這種情況下我該怎麽做 NY custody interference

我在這裏發過帖子，我和我前妻去年6月分局，今年1月份簽了separation agreement。 我自願把primary physical custody給我前妻，並且付贍養費，並且我放棄了很多有爭議的財產（例如marital debt，本該兩個人共同負擔，我一個人承擔下來了），協議規定我每個星期六都有探視權。

後來因為一些原因，我前妻和我鬧僵，開始拒絕給我探視權，我公司有picnic，我特意提前兩個兩個星期email通知，並且得到應允回複。當天我去找孩子，她缺帶著孩子消失。我報警，警察致電前妻，前妻說visitation agreement是invalid的，我可以去法院申請visitation/custody。Quote from police report:
Also conducted a phone interview with s/o who stated the visitation agreement is not legal and if he wants to see his son, he has to file for custody/visitation from court.

於是我立刻去family court申請custody/visitation，於此期間，我email前妻，要求她讓我見兒子，她email回，要求我簽下一份不平等的agreement, 否則不會讓我見兒子。 Quote from her email:
If I don’t receive the agreement by tonight, I’ll assume that you are not interested in seeing [my son's name] anymore.

昨天家庭法庭開庭，光2分鍾就結束了，原因我前妻在supreme court提出離婚訴訟，案子上提。開庭結束後她很得意。至此我已經一個多月沒見我兒子了。

之後我又email她，提出我一月沒見兒子，希望她能給我帶一個周末，我想帶他去Zoo玩。我前妻回複說，Zoo一天就夠了，所以能給我一天，而且先決條件是我簽了那個不平等協議。Quote from her email:
Then one day is enough. So, if you sign the paper that I sent you before, I’ll let you see [my son's name] on this Saturday from 9 to 6 or 7.

不料2分鍾後她馬上又反悔，提出開庭之前不會讓我見兒子, Quote:
I can’t let you see [my son's name] w/o court order. You can file for the motion at the supreme court.
Thanks
我reply:
Hey, the last time I saw him is June 12th. if I wait until supreme court, it's going to be more than 2 months that he wouldn't have seen me.
Just let me see [my son's name] this weekend. I can sign that paper, but let [my son's name] stay with me for both saturday and sunday this weekend.
He wants to see me too.

她開始fully ignore我。

至此我的想法很簡單了，我不單要爭財產，我還會爭孩子的primary custody。前妻女權主義很強，可能她認為孩子一定判給她的，認為我一點機會都沒有。但是她這個樣子，我覺得我爭小孩的可能性大多了。另外，她可能根本意識不到我會爭兒子

所以我的問題就是，我該怎麽做，才能把前妻的這種abusive的behavior更加顯露出來，並且取證為我所用。

另外我也想見兒子，兒子和我感情很好，每次在我這裏玩都不想回去。但是supreme court要8月25才開庭。

另外，具體說鬧僵的原因，前妻要求修改協議，而且修改的地方完全是beneficial to her。 我覺得不合理，當然不同意。她提出要去法院告我，我說你要去我隻能奉陪。她還威脅我說如果她去了法院，我失去的肯定比她要求的多得多。我說你不是法官，如果我們答不成agreement，我們的事隻能法院來解決。她就開始罵我無賴，諷刺我是個8歲孩童。

所有跟帖： 

• 另外，我兒子隻有3歲半 -EXu- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 04:21:37

• 回複：請教這種情況下我該怎麽做 NY custody interference (圖) -EXu- ♂ (133 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 04:27:43

• 這種用孩子當武器的女人最缺德了。你是被她拿了軟肋。 -老恐龍- ♀ (74 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 04:29:42

• CO：這種用孩子當武器的女人最缺德了。Really sorry for the kid -jojo1971- ♀ (79 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 06:55:59

• 我自己做了很多research，我覺得我贏custody有機會 -EXu- ♂ (32 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 04:45:43

• 還有一個問題，這些email到時候能不能拿出來作證據？ -EXu- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 04:59:33

• 回複：還有一個問題，這些email到時候能不能拿出來作證據？ -usaguy- ♂ (542 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 06:35:23

• 回複：還有一個問題，這些email到時候能不能拿出來作證據？ -usaguy- ♂ (210 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 06:39:50

• which state are you in? -EXu- ♂ (324 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 07:22:38

• 回複：which state are you in? -usaguy- ♂ (117 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 07:39:46

• I will see my attorney this Saturday. -EXu- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 07:54:02

• 回複：which state are you in? -lhxlch- ♂ (47 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 08:58:02

• i talked to my lawyer before, she said this -EXu- ♂ (23 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 09:39:55

• Can single old cat give some highlight or suggestions? -EXu- ♂ (31 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 08:30:24

• For your child, try your bes to negotiate with your wife... -Comfort.- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 08:53:55

• I did my best. -EXu- ♂ (255 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 09:39:11

• 你不找律師嗎？ -lhxlch- ♂ (42 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 09:09:43

• already had one. -EXu- ♂ (53 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 09:37:26

• 回複：請教這種情況下我該怎麽做 NY custody interference -sotired- ♂ (439 bytes) () 07/16/2010 postreply 20:11:36

• Thanks, i'm going to talk to my lawyer this afternoon -Exu- ♂ (218 bytes) () 07/17/2010 postreply 06:11:28