When you are critical of yourself,

 

you feel secure.

In your childhood, there might be someone (like your parents) who was critical.  You developed a reflex of being critical toward yourself in order to gain approval from that person thus feeling secure.

 

 

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• 我父母是典型東亞父母，比較critical.但是我並不感覺舒服啊，感覺無助和虛弱。 -DoraDora2008- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2024 postreply 19:20:16

• One can feel powerless but secure. -One1618- ♂ (379 bytes) () 04/30/2024 postreply 19:49:44

• 我對別人挺寬容的，對自己還是比較苛刻吧 -DoraDora2008- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2024 postreply 21:24:32