Infatuation vs. Love
Infatuation is impulse, urgent, excited, unable to restrain itself. It is filled with overwhelming need, desire and painful longing to take and possess. Love is calm, rich, full, emotionally overflowing joy of rich feeling. Even the thought of the beloved in their absence fills the heart with happy joy like a beautiful picture pleases the mental senses. Infatuation can be hurt, angry, resentful, lonely, needy almost like an addiction. Love is strong, expansive, positive, cheerful, self-sustaining and self-fulfilling. Between these two extremes all shades and variations and admixtures are possible because human personality is so complex that it can feel both at once or feel them simultaneously in different parts of our being.
Infatuation, like attachment, possessiveness and desire can be rejected because it claims and demands from the other person. Love cannot be rejected because it asks for nothing but the joy of love.
Just as selfishness can be converted into self-giving, infatuation can be converted into love, as both consist of intense energy. The direction of the movement is different -- love gives, infaturation wants to take. The depth is different. Infatuation is on the surface, love comes from the depths. The movement is different. Love is calm, strong, consistent, patient. Infatuation is excited, nervous and impatient. By going inside, concentrating in the heart, converting selfish thoughts of need to selfless thoughts of joy in the happiness of others, by refusing to act or even to think about the issue, but rather to nurture the emotion and purify it of all contamination, the energy of infatuation can be transformed into the depths of love. It is an act that elevates one's whole personality.
Whether it is reciprocated by the object depends on that person, but it can never fail to be reciprocated by LIFE, which brings the right person to receive love.
