choice

I am faced with choices:

1. a teaching Bschool in Californa, $100K+

2. a price b school in Beijing, $250K

personal situatation: in US since 98, green card last August

with choice 1, careerwise, it would be hard to advance. I have been on faculty in a midwest research U for 6 years and know myself that I wouldn't like teaching a heavey load. Location is superb.

With choice 2, I have to make big adjustments both in life and in work. I like both work and life simple. So US seems suits me well. Careerwise, 2 is a better choice. Most colleagues are professors returning from US. I guess work politics wouldn't be as bad?  living cost is high. i would have to purchase apts if staying for good. It would be hard to keep green card.

While my career goes fairly well, my personal life stays stagnant. Although I consider myself good-looking and attractive, I am still single at age 41. perhaps,this is because I focus too much on career, living in the midwest all these years , or just in my fate. I heard california is more mixed and people are more easy going. Perhaps it would be good as far as my personal life is concerned? How about Beijing in this aspect of my life?

By the way, choice 2 also has an office in NY. the school is planning to offer EMBA program in the future. Could i use this so I can apply for reentry permit multiple times? 

Any suggestions and comments are welcome. Thank you in advance.

所有跟帖： 

• STAY! -Icat- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:48:02

• GO！ -用戶名被占用了- ♂ (159 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:51:02

• “age 41” ♀ -┴- ♀ (25 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:51:40

• CO：。。。“age 41” GOOD LOOKING ， ATTRACTIVE ， ♀... -Icat- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:53:29

• 來美時27歲的 GOOD LOOKING ， ATTRACTIVE ♀“age 41”還沒有♂，同情一下 -┴- ♀ (21 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:59:59

• i heard california has the highest men to women ratio in the US. -趙飛燕- ♀ (49 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:52:25

• 我聽說是因為矽工太多。;p -趙飛燕- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:56:49

• 單身還猶豫啥，歸吧 -850580- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:00:23

• 還得看看是幾年的合同啊？ -有些話不得不說- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:02:04

• 回複：choice -北國之夢- ♂ (194 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:01:08

• 選1，中國人慣於給你一個高薪，然後把你的東西竊走後，第二年炒了你。合同都不算數的 -有些話不得不說- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:03:35

• 可能。想看看實例 -halfdummy- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:41:44

• girl, what are you talking about? 好男人到處是， -happychoir- ♀ (69 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:04:25

• 相信一個好男人，別相信中國人。哈哈。 -有些話不得不說- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:05:16

• 來美時27歲的 GOOD LOOKING ， ATTRACTIVE ♀也許在飛機場錯過了好男人 -┴- ♀ (164 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:11:33

• 不GOOD LOOKING ，照樣可以ATTRACTIVE 有性格有自信。。。魅力無窮，但是 -Happychoir- ♀ (31 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:20:08

• Go home. More choice of men or a white guy here. Seems that -FHZM- ♂ (92 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:06:13

• 真的不要回去，想一下當你身邊的人都是25萬人民幣年薪的時候，你會招來多少嫉妒和中傷。 -有些話不得不說- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:08:16

• 尤其是你還喜歡冒點英文之類的。哈哈。 -有些話不得不說- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:08:41

• 在商學院裏不一樣的。周圍都是這樣的海龜或海鷗。 -FHZM- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:10:49

• Teaching B school offers 100K is a good deal. However, at this s -FHZM- ♂ (60 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:09:30

• 你肯定不想找外國人結婚, 不然不會等到41還單身, 還是回吧, marriage 可能不是主要的. -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:15:59

• 不過, 單身女人回去可能會麵對來自家庭和周圍環境更大的壓力,要有思想準備 -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:18:23

• 非誠上38的都找不到 -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:23:46

• 國產影星還行, 象張子怡那樣的土洋接合都夠嗆, 哈哈, 你知道的中國男人都那個什麽, 嘿嘿嘿 -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:38:07

• 但按錢來說, $25W在中國, 要比10W在加洲要好不老少, 過的肯定更滋潤, 對吧, 哈哈哈 -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:25:27

• $25W在加州也要比10W在加洲要好不老少, 過的肯定更滋潤 -有些話不得不說- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:28:40

• 關健是在加洲拿不到$25W不是? -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:39:06

• Is the Bschool in Californa a tenured position? -aChineseBostonian- ♂ (280 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:27:23

• 思想狹隘！或者說很歧視！哈 -用戶名被占用了- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:30:58

• 真是的葉, 人家沒說是男是女, 我們怎麽就認定是女的呢, 紛特! 哈哈哈 -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:35:10

• 叫cherry的我認為不可能是男人，而且人家提到自己good-looking, attractive etc... -納蘭- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:42:47

• 絕對是猜測, 沒有任何hard evidence :) -清清涼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:46:31

• 樓主字裏行間就是這個意思，當然可能是找勞工 :-) -aChineseBostonian- ♂ (145 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:38:07

• “回北京唯一的原因是找老婆好找。” “祝你好運!” 哈哈！ -┴- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:32:39

• 看在錢的份上要麽就歸吧，不過要是個人終身大事，我覺得美國機會多 -納蘭- ♀ (81 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:44:52

• 這個要看你個人更看重什麽吧.隻說說我的看法. -999朵玫瑰- ♀ (218 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:45:43

• 你犯了跟我一樣的錯，她好像是找勞工 :-D -aChineseBostonian- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:48:13

• Oops,沒搞清楚性別哦,那也回吧,國內帥哥很多哦.至於說目的是找老公,估計在美國現實點. -999朵玫瑰- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:50:31

• 41歲了，還是來灣區吧 -I751- ♂ (34 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:37:14

• 也難說哦.也許教EMBA一下撞上個億萬富豪呢,不是沒可能啊. -999朵玫瑰- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:43:32

• 太假了 -jzc- ♂ (19 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:25:32