致已經走遠的二姑父

從我們出生開始，我們每個人就都行在了漸行漸遠的路上。在這個路上有我們所有的遇見，快樂的和悲傷的，開心的和煩惱的，得到的和失落的，它們總是隨影相伴，構成了我們的一生的故事。但有一天它們會被留在某個瞬間，成為了曾經的唯一。

 

在很多的時候，我們其實並沒有準備好要和您說再見，一直覺得這路上的風景，這風景裏的您，還有許多的故事將會一直繼續。就像您每年生日裏的那個開心的壽星，佳節裏熱鬧的四代同堂時的那個心滿意足的長者，熱愛了大半輩子門球運動的老球員。

 

您的人生一直活的都很精彩，因為您讓您的熱情融在了它們裏麵，是實實在在的生活，是與權利地位金錢無關的最真實的生活。

 

在半個世紀前，您走進了我們的視野。在那個不是很輕鬆的時光裏，您和大姑父成為了我們仨家最親近的家庭關係，在那個年代還保持一直不斷的書信互訪走動。現在看看其實真的很不容易，有多少的家庭離開去了天涯海角，從此不再相見，而成為了陌路人。

 

在老爸過世之後的日子裏，您讓我老媽來到您家，每日拿出自己珍藏的好酒，與老媽一起慢慢的品嚐。

 

有一年夏天我們來您家，為了減少夏天熱浪的的不適，您即刻安上了空調，其實我們僅僅隻待了兩天。

 

您的寬容待人一直讓我難忘，對我後來的成長也都有很多的影響。那一年我上大學，火車經過您家的附近，您來車站接我，可我卻不願意離開，您望著我遠去的火車，希望您一定原諒了我的無理。後來的寒假裏，你們家和大姑家很自然地成為了我的常去的家。 

 

成年之後才明白， 對我們許多人來說，接納並不是容易做到的，尤其是要接納對方的情緒和行為，依然還能平實相待就更不易了。 

 

在疫情肆虐的洪水裏，您每天依然堅持打您的門球，卻未能幸免於它，匆匆告別了這個世界。

 

望著您已經走遠的身影，我想告訴您，您一直都是我們非常敬重的家人，在逆境裏，在風調雨順的日子裏，您一直都在我們的生活中。

 

 

[Say goodbye to the second uncle] Since we were born, each of us has been walking on the road that is getting farther and farther away. On this road, there are all our encounters, happy and sad, joyful and troubled, gained and lost, and they always accompany each other, forming the story of our life. But one day they will be left in a certain moment and become the only ones ever.

 

In many cases, we are not ready to say goodbye to you. We always feel that the scenery on the road, you in this scenery, and many stories will continue. Just like the happy birthday star on your birthday every year, the contented elder when the four generations live together in the festive season, the old player who has loved gateball for most of his life.

 

Your life has always been wonderful, because you let your enthusiasm melt into them. It is a real life, the most joyful life that has nothing to do with power, status and money.

 

You came into our field of vision half a century ago. During that difficult time, you and elder uncle became the closest family relationship among the three families, and we still kept exchanging letters and visits at that time. Now looking at the fact that it is really not easy, how many families have left to the ends of the earth, never see each other again, and become strangers.

 

In the days after my father passed away, you asked my mother to come to your house, take out the good wine you collected every day, and slowly taste it with my mother.

 

One summer we came to your house, in order to reduce the discomfort of the summer heat wave, you immediately installed the air conditioner, but we only stayed for two days.

 

Your tolerance towards others has always been unforgettable to me, and it also had a lot of influence on my later growth. That year when I was in college, the train passed near your home. You came to pick me up at the station, but I was unwilling to leave. You looked at the train I was leaving, and I hope you will forgive me for my unreasonableness. Later in the winter vacation, your house and my aunt's house naturally became my frequent home.

 

As an adult, I realized that for many of us, acceptance is not easy to do, especially to accept the other person's emotions and behaviors, and still be fair to each other.

 

In the raging flood of the epidemic Covid-19, you still insisted on playing your croquet every day, but you were not spared from it, and bid farewell to this world in a hurry.

 

Looking at your figure that has gone away, I want to tell you that you have always been a family member we respect very much. In times of bad and good periods you have always been in our lives.