在冬天裏的夜話

冰天雪地裏的夜晚，如果有一爐幽幽燃起來的火紅的壁爐，讓熱浪慢慢彌漫開來；如果又碰巧遇到一群可以隨意的人在一起，熱烈的詞語，在空中飛舞盤旋，慢慢地走遠了，不久又回到了原點。一定是一件非常愜意的事情。

 

其實我們不必去在意彼此間的看法，無論對與錯，好與壞，紅與黑，都不重要，重要的是你可以擁有自己的東西，別人無需刻意去改變它們。在隨意的時刻，讓每個人都有一份抒發情感的舞台，無論有沒有人為此喝彩，都會是很精彩的演出。

 

在冬天裏的夜話。。。

 

[Night Talk in Winter] On a snowy night, if there is a flaming fireplace faintly burning, the heat wave will slowly diffuse; Lovely words hovered, walked away slowly, and soon returned to the original point. This must be a very pleasant thing  to experience in the night of winter.

 

In fact, we don't have to care about each other's opinions. It doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, good or bad, red or black. The important thing is that you can own your own things, and others don't need to deliberately change them. At relief moments, let everyone have a stage to express their emotions, no matter whether there are people applauding for it, it will be a wonderful performance.

 

Night talk in winter. . .

 

【生活裏的小秘蜜】在平淡生活裏，常常會想起曾經那些平淡的時光裏，那些微不足道的小事，它突然會觸動了你內心。

 

在南京讀書的時候，周末就常常會去姑姑家過周末，這似乎成為了一種習慣，當時沒有覺得特別，常常還會帶一些東西回去繼續獨自享受。

 

直到有一天，看到要離家的Lucy，很自然地會裝少量的東西，帶回去品味的時候，才意識到自己那個時候，是有多幸運，卻從未表達過我的感謝。

 

生活裏一定裝滿了很多小秘蜜，其實有時候我們需要讓她們知道我們的感受，無論是家人，還是朋友。
 

[Small secrets in life] In ordinary life, I often think of those insignificant little things in those ordinary times, which will suddenly touch your heart.
 

When I was student in Nanjing, I often went to my aunt’s house to spend weekends. This seemed to be a habit. I didn’t think it was special at the time, and I often brought some things back to enjoy it alone.

 

Until one day, when I saw Lucy who was leaving home, she would naturally pack a small amount of things and bring them back to taste. I realized how lucky I was at that time, but I never expressed my gratitude.

 

Life must be full of little secrets. In fact, sometimes we need to let them know how we feel, whether it is family or friends.

 

【在那些被遺忘的地方】在我來這裏讀書的早期時候，出於學語言的目的，選擇了幾個晚間節目，一直看了很久。其中的《Cheers》是我喜歡的節目之一，尤其喜歡演員Kirstie Alley，她是一位非常有特色的漂亮女演員，嗓音是沙啞，幽默搞笑的那種人。 後來眼見著她漸漸老去，如今離我們遠去，我還是挺喜歡她的。

 

[Memories In Those Forgotten Places] When I came here in the very early period of long time ago, for the purpose of learning the language, I chose a few evening shows and watched them for a long time. Among them, "Cheers" is one of my favorite shows, especially the actress Kirstie Alley. She is a very distinctive and beautiful actress with a husky voice and a humorous kind of person. Later, seeing her getting old and now far away from us, I still like her quite a lot.

 

 

【文明會是六親不認嗎】最近看到一個視頻，說文明進步的加速度，會讓社會裏的人，彼此之間加速進入了一種狀態 ，最典型的語言就是六親不認，主題思想就是不去幹預對方的生活，無論他（她）生活的好與不好，你都沒有權利去介入。

 

家庭父母兒女之間的疏遠關係，正在成為被認可推崇的一種行為方式。 愉快語言交流的體驗，隨著無聲的message 快速的傳遞，當直麵現實生活時，語言越來越無處安放，隻好沉默地麵對熟悉的環境。 在陽光明媚的日子裏，卻仿佛生活在無形的狹小空間裏，感受到了擠壓的氣息，眼前有一道看不見的城牆。 

 

在自然的眼裏，自然和諧關係是否會是，你在遠處遙望，我在遠方默默守護你，你我他在努力探尋中，讓彼此不斷成長，即便我們永遠不會知道前麵的路會是怎樣的艱難，而不是一群陌路天涯的人。

 

Y和W的一次有趣的對話

 

W：很有道理，特別是對文明的理解，人與人有可能就會遵循人與自然的文明發展進程。但也有些沒想通，我再想想。

 

Y：我覺得文明這個詞有些太抽象。你不能說3000年前的文明是落後的，我到覺得那個時候的文明非常的了不起，人和自然有一種和諧的氛圍。所有的一切，也許是社會前行中的一種自然現象，就像曾經輝煌的希臘，埃及，古羅馬文化。

 

W：我理解文明是人類向其目標的正向發展過程中某個狀態。但目標是什麽呢？

 

Y：如果那個目標恰恰不正向的，是什麽力量能讓文明回歸？也許文明的本質，就是人本身，在自然中的關係。奢華的物質追求不能說是文明進步的體現。人定勝天是荒謬了，與天鬥與地鬥是荒謬的，許多荒謬的事情在侵嗜著人與自然之間的關係。

 

W：是，終點可能就是一起完蛋。也就沒什麽大不了的了。因此不再尋找終極目標，隻體會過程中的讓自己心動的美好，也就是回到人本身。

 

Y：遠大目標就是所有的一切都會歸於塵土，在千萬年後，隻有石頭會在這個世界上存下來。人在自然裏是一個渺小的存在，隻是一瞬間的事兒。回歸自然裏的那個人，活在當下的日子裏才是真實的。

 

W：恐龍一兩億年都沒了。搞過古生物的境界不一樣

 

Y：[握手][握手]和你的對話很受益。

 

【Civilization will not recognize relatives】I saw a video recently, saying that the acceleration of civilization progress will make people in the society accelerate into an very loose state with each other. The most typical language is not to recognize the relatives. The main idea is not to interfere . You have no right to intervene in the life of the other party, no matter whether he (she) lives well or not.

 

The estranged relationship between parents and children in the family is becoming a recognized and respected behavior. With the  little experience of pleasant language communication,  and with the rapid transmission of silent messages, when we are facing real life, language has no place to rest, so we have to face the familiar environment silently. On a sunny day, it seems to be living in an invisible small space, feeling the squeezed atmosphere, and there is an invisible city wall in front of you.

 

In the eyes of nature, will the natural harmonious relationship be that you are watching from a distance, and I will silently guard you from a distance?  you and I are working hard to explore and let each other grow continuously, even if we will never know what the road ahead will be and how difficult it is. Just don’t be a group of strangers.

 

An interesting conversation between Y and W

 

W: Very reasonable, especially for the understanding of civilization, people may follow the development process of civilization between people and nature. But there are some things I can't figure out, let me think again.

 

Y: I think the word civilization is too abstract. You can't say that civilization 3,000 years ago was backward. I think the civilization at that time was very remarkable, and there was a harmonious atmosphere between man and nature. Everything may be a natural phenomenon in the progress of society, just like the once glorious Greek, Egyptian, and ancient Roman cultures.

 

W: I understand civilization as a certain state in the positive development of human beings toward their goals. But what is the goal?

 

Y: If that goal is just not positive, what power can bring civilization back? Perhaps the essence of civilization is the relationship between man himself and nature. Luxurious material pursuits cannot be said to be the embodiment of civilization and progress. It is absurd that man will conquer the sky, it is absurd to fight against the sky and the earth, and many absurd things are encroaching on the relationship between man and nature.

 

W: Yes, the end point may be to end up together. It's no big deal. Therefore, I no longer look for the ultimate goal, but only experience the beauty that makes my heart beat in the process, that is, to return to the human being.

 

Y: The lofty goal is that everything will return to dust. After thousands of years, only stones will survive in this world. Man is an insignificant existence in nature, just a momentary thing. The person who returns to nature and lives in the present is real.

 

W: Dinosaurs are gone for 100 to 200 million years. The realm of paleontology is different

 

Y: [Shake hands] [Shake hands] It's very beneficial to have a conversation with you.

 

【寒冷的夜晚需要溫暖】寒冷的冬天，記得出門的時候，穿上防寒的衣服。 在告別陰鬱雜亂不堪的日子時，不要忘了給自己一個溫暖擁抱，你的家人朋友需要你的快樂。 記得這個星期日，將是世界杯的冠軍爭奪戰，一定不要錯過，因為他們的故事都太精彩了。 

 

周末愉快。

 

 

[Cold nights need warmth] In cold winter, remember to wear cold-proof clothes when you go out. Don't forget to give yourself a warm hug as you bid farewell to the gloomy and messy days. Your family and friends need your happiness. Remember that this Sunday will be the World Cup championship game ，so don't miss it, because their stories are so exciting. 

 

Happy weekend!