Jiu-Jitsu And Life (1)

I watched "Jiu-jitsu vs The World" another time and by 
chance watched this video. The guy must be in his 50s 
or 60s and here's part of what he said: 

    What do I mean by "A lot of Jiu-jitsu will change your 
    life"? When I was younger, I didn't know how to fight. 
    And you know boys being boys. You know. And in
    high-school, even a little bit afterwards, people tend 
    to assert themselves like, bullies tend to kind of assert
    themselves. They would assert themselves on me in a  
    physical manner, not always beating me up but they would 
    push me, you know, like teasing here and there, always
    with the threat of beating me up. 

    I was very very good in using my words to kind of get
    myself out of the fight. I could use self-deprecating
    humor and laugh it off. I was very good at staying out
    of the fight. 

    But I hated the way they made me feel. When I walked
    away, I wished I had that power to fight them. I hated
    what they took from me. I hated the feeling of 
    helplessness I had inside.

    And when I started to learn the stuff (Jiu-Jitsu), it  
    started to change. It changed how I walk, how I dealt 
    with people on a daily basis. It was powerful, to the 
    point where today, if somebody tries to assert 
    themselves on me in that way, trying to dominate me, not 
    necessarily physically but verbally with the threat of 
    violence I could use the same tactics but I could walk 
    away feeling fantastic. 

    There is a certain kind of tranquility that comes with
    that ability to defend yourself. Truly know how to 
    defend yourself. That's powerful. That's just one 
    example. There are many many things that Jiu-jitsu can 
    give you to help change your life.

Bullies show up not just on the streets. J. Peterson was 
right when he said that real conversations between men  
contained an underlying threat of physicality. At the  
workplace, it is rare that conversations are simply about 
exchanging views and seeking truth, even in computer  
programming. When talking with a manager or even the  
engineers who try to dominate (Such people are not rare), it  
is the underlying threat of your livelihood. Anyone born 
with an iota of survival instinct can feel it and I know it  
all too well. 

I was not innocent. A few times, I tried to be a bully but
it never felt good even when I won. Overall, however, I felt
sure I sinned much less than was sinned against.

It got me misty-eyed watching this old guy talking about
exactly the same experiences and feelings I had. And I could
testify that strength and BJJ training did change the way I
looked, walked, and handled people at work or home.

                

[7grizzly]

Thank you, 暖冬, for reading and your comments.

Yes. That was a recurring sentiment in my life. Luckily, I have Stoicism and Jiu-Jitsu to fight it now.

[暖冬cool夏]

But I hated the way they made me feel. When I walked away, I wished I had that power to fight them. I hated what they took from me. I hated the feeling of?helplessness I had inside.

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So I am not alone. Thank you for writing this post, my friend, and for introducing Jiu -Jitsu.