You must find something beyond love, something that will support your feet on this earth. You must find a way to support yourself—it is not too late to consider that now. I never considered diplomas to be most important. Most geniuses did not graduate from top schools, yet without formal schooling, sometimes it would be hard for you to handle normal things.
You must gradually transform those fleeting thoughts into a clear way of thinking through simple words of expression. Pompousness and gaudiness will never last. You should know, it is not enough to make your words pleasurable to read; what is more important is its content, thought, realm, soul, spirit and wisdom. Do not read too much written by those writers who have views similar to yours. Don’t be trivial; don’t moan and groan without being ill. Don't give pen to all your thoughts. Don’t be sentimental and emotional for petty things.
My dear sister, you should trust warmth, benevolence, confidence, and respect – these ancient words. I don’t want you to be decadent, nihilistic, confused, self-inflicted nor to hurt others.
I do not want you to mess up your own life. Constrain your own feelings. Not all people can be your buddies. To taste real life is quite another story. It doesn’t mean that you can be decadent and undisciplined. Do not pursue these things for the sake of "coolness" or something of the sort. They are only the excuses of those who have nothing to do other than to indulge themselves. The true coolness is inside your heart. You should have a very big and strong heart, with unyielding belief that will never wane with the time. Don’t say that you love this world because you are inside an ivory tower. You should continue to say these words after you see the dark, the filthy, and the ugly in the world.
Sister, learn to love and live. Youth is short, but do not complain of its shortness. Sometimes you should pause and rest, but do not squat down and look around. When you take a road, please do not look back.
Often ask yourself: what are you doing?
When you feel sad and wronged, you should cry out loudly. When you finish crying, go wash and pat your face, then put a smile on it. Do not rub your eyes, or you will have swollen eyes the next day.
Set great goals and high expectations for yourself.
Please remember you should often look at the sky. Also remember to look at the road under your feet from time to time.
At any time, when you are asked by anyone, how many love experiences you have, the answer is twice.
One time, he loved me and I did not love him.
The other time, I love him, but he did not love me.
The good love is always the next time.
Never give the same man two opportunities to hurt you. Never trust his vows on the bed.
Don’t overprice virginity, but retain chastity.
Don’t be ashamed of your desires. Enjoy your life, but never tolerate insults and indolence from men.
Believe me, sister, there are plenty of men, more than the three-legged frogs. Never easily say out the word "love".
Trust your own intuition.
Never bother with other men, unless you really love him and that he deserves your love.
Never bother with a man who is looking for someone who is similar to his former girlfriend, his mother or his sisters.
Never bother with a loafer, an artistic youth or a middle-aged man. Do not bother a man who is too pure for the love.
Don’t get together with seemingly careless guys. Degrading yourself is not true love.
Never be moved when a man demean himself in order to please you. You should know if he burns himself with cigarette butts by now, he will do the same thing to you in the future.
Observe the man’s friends, especially how they treat ladies.
Do not believe in a man who won’t introduce you to his friends.
When a man can only call you "Baby", you should persist in asking him to call you by your name.
When a man comes to you no more, do not go after him. Do not believe in anyone who employ strategic maneuvers in love.
When you have to separate with the man, do not use ugly words. Learn a lesson from it but do not feel regret. Regret is futile.
Never commit third-class petty things like tearing pictures, burning letters, destroy journals that often appear in soap operas.
Trust in love; believe that there is a good man out there, unmarried and looking for you in the sea of people. Don’t say that "no man under the sun is good," from which other people might think you are too experienced in love.
Listen to me: never be a woman who in the middle of night takes her luggage from one boyfriend’s home and moves to another one.
Love materials properly. You should know non-material stuff is more important. The more beautiful thing is you yourself: you are better than expensive watches, name brands and fashion stuff.
Never look down upon working people, never be ashamed of working. The earth is not dirty at all, and the smell of sweat is not too bad. Always respect those people whose living conditions are below you. This way is the way to respect you own self. Always be considerate and compassionate with those people who live in the bottom of the society because our relatives are among them.
We are not enervated.
Don’t look down upon one penny. Go try to make it.
When you are hurt by your friends, do not doubt friendship, but beware of the people who may betray you.
Always forgive, but never forget.
Keep you your own pure of heart from childhood, and be chivalrous to your friends.
Be happy, open-minded, firm but warm. This has nothing to do with your character.
I worry you are too meek. Sometimes, you should be strong. When you are bullied, you should stand up and fight back.
But you should never bear grudges, no matter what petty things people might say.
Pity and compassion will make you a noble lady.
Please excuse this world and yourself. Tell yourself that you deserve the best in the world.
Love,
Your brother
親愛的妹妹，我要告訴你一些話，這些都來自我心∶
你必須找到除了愛情之外，能夠使你用雙腳堅強站在大地上的東西。你要找到謀生的方式，現在考慮不晚了。我從來不以為學曆有什麽重要，天才都不是科班，但，不是科班，連龍套都跑不了。
你必須把那些浮如飄絮的思緒，漸漸轉化為清晰的思路和簡單的文字。華麗和漂浮都不易長久。你要知道，給予文字閱讀快感不夠的，內容，思想，境界，靈魂，精神和智慧，這些才重要。不要多看那些和你一個路數的女作家的文字。不要瑣碎，無病呻吟。不要想到什麽就寫。不要流於小感傷和小感動。
妹妹，我要你相信溫暖，美好，信任，尊嚴，堅強這些老掉牙的字眼。
我不要你頹廢，空虛，迷茫，糟踐自己，傷害別人。
我不要你把自己處理得一團糟。節製自己的感情。不是任何人都能要。體驗生活，
是另外一回事，並不意味著墮落和放縱。千萬不要認同那些偽裝的酷和另類。
他們是無事可做的人找出來放任自己無事可做的藉口。真正的酷是在內心。
你要有強大的內心。要有任憑時間流逝，不會磨折和屈服的信念。
不是因為在象牙塔中，才說出我愛世界這樣的話。
是知道外麵的黑，髒，醜陋之後，還要說出這樣的話。
妹妹，好好去愛，去生活。青春如此短暫，不要歎老。偶爾可以停下來休息，但是別蹲下來張望。走了一條路的時候，記得別回頭看。
時不時問問自己，自己在幹麽。
傷心和委屈的時候，要嚎啕大哭，哭完洗完臉，拍拍自己的臉，擠出一個微笑給自己看。不要揉，否則第二天早上會眼楮腫。
給自己一個遠大的前程和目標。
記得常常仰望天空，記住仰望天空的時候也看看腳下。
任何時候，任何人問你，有過多少次戀愛，答案是兩次。
一次是他愛我，我不愛他。
一次是我愛他，他不愛我。
好的愛情永遠在下一次。
別給同一個男人兩次傷害你的機會。別相信床上的誓言。
別看重處女，但保持純潔。
不要為欲望羞恥，好好享受，但絕不忍受男人的侮辱和怠慢。
相信我，妹妹，男人多的是，比三條腿的青蛙多得多。別輕易說出“愛”。
相信你的直覺。
不要招惹別人的男人，除非你非常非常愛他，並且，他非常非常值得愛。
不要招惹尋找與前女友相似，和他母親，姐姐相似女人的男人。
不要招惹浪子，文藝青年和中年男子。別招惹太清純的男人。
別和沒心沒肺的人在一起。別把犯賤當真愛。
一個男人作踐自己來取悅你的時候，千萬不要因此感動。
這個煙頭燙在他身上，下一個就可能燙在你身上。
看看一個男人的朋友們是什麽樣的，注意他的朋友們對待女人的態度。
還有，千萬別相信一個不準備將你介紹給他的朋友圈子的男人。
一個男人隻肯喊你“寶貝”的時候，堅持要他喊你的名字。
一個男人不再來找你的時候，就不要再去找他。不要相信在戀愛上用手段的人。
分手時不要口出惡言。吸取教訓，但不要後悔。
後悔沒有用。
別幹撕照片，燒信，撕日記這樣一類三流愛情電視劇中才有人幹的事。
相信愛情，相信好男人還存在，還未婚，還在茫茫人海中尋覓你。
別說“男人沒一個好東西”這樣使別人誤以為你閱人無數的話。
答應我，永遠不要去做那種午夜背著行李，從一個男朋友家，流落到另一個男朋友家的女人。
愛物質，適當地。永遠知道精神更重要。比那些名表，名牌，時裝，更加美麗的是你自己。
別瞧不起勞動人民，不要為勞動羞恥。土地不髒，汗味不難聞。
請尊重那些似乎生活狀況不如你的人，因為這樣才是尊重自己。
永遠體恤那些生活在底層的人們，因為我們的親人就是在這些人群中。
我們不嬌貴。
不要小看一分錢。不妨自己去掙掙看。
被朋友傷害了的時候，別懷疑友情，但提防背叛你的人。
原諒，但並不遺忘。
做人存幾分天真童心，對朋友保持一些俠義之情。
要快樂，要開朗，要堅韌，要溫暖，這和性格無關。
我擔心你太低調，有時要強悍一點，被欺負的時候，一定要討回來！
但是不要記恨。小人之見，隨他們去好了。
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要原諒這世界和自己。要告訴自己，我值得擁有最好的一切.....
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May this be a gift for your sister, and hope every woman in earth enjoy health, and understand they are source of love not a helpless beggar.
Blessing to you and your sister