（去年 9 月我曾寫了一篇我以前的同事 + 朋友佩吉領養孩子的事，參看下麵的鏈接。）
http://blog.wenxuecity.com/blogview.php?date=200909&postID=3173
真沒想到領養還孩子還挺難的，比自己生一個還難，且費用極高！
去年 11 月份訂好機票的佩吉和老公吉米沒去成烏克蘭，她被告知，沒有符合她們要求的孩子待領養。
接下來是安排今年1 月 22 日去烏克蘭，那天早晨是我開車送佩吉和她老公吉米去機場的，計劃一個月後回來，哪知 10 來天後，我接到一個電話，號碼顯示是本城佩吉的家，我非常納悶，心想誰這個時候會從佩吉家打電話給我？幫她照看房子的朋友？還沒想出名堂，就從電話裏聽出是佩吉的聲音。我急切地問：“這麽快，帶孩子回來沒有？我過來看看？”結果她說，沒有領養成功，去看的孩子都不合要求，這其間的失望就可想而知了。
這領養孩子還挺多規定的，佩吉原想領養一個烏克蘭男孩，在一歲以下，但她們的年齡隻允許她們領養三歲以上的孩子，且性別上沒太大的選擇，除非你慢慢等。這次看到的孩子都有些殘疾，可她們隻被允許領養健康的，不能有殘疾的孩子，所以隻好無功而返，再行安排。
接下來她們倆口子是 2 月 23 日又飛過去的，那天我上班，沒送她們去機場，不過在她們走之前的周末，我和佩吉在我家附近的咖啡店見麵了的。我們聊了一個多小時，她還展示我看一套小衣服，是她用 20 多年前，她婆婆給她的一條法蘭絨長裙，改做的小男孩大衣，有小圍巾小帽子配套，全是她手工縫製的，真讓我感動啊，直後悔忘帶相機。佩吉還告訴我，確定領養的孩子後，要安排上 Court ，法官向全國發出告示，這個孩子要被人領養，有沒有異議? 十天後，如果全國範圍內沒有任何異議，才可以辦理正式合法的領養手續。
這次去終於遇到合適的孩子，是個小男孩，很可愛，因要等上 Court ，佩吉的老公回來過一次，上了兩周班，又飛過去，再想回來時，又有冰島火山。。。
下麵是我們通的幾個 email ， 她們住的地方不能上網，要到附近的郵局上網查電郵，所以有時是發給我和她另外的幾個朋友，有時是發給我的，原以為 4 月底可返回來的，後推遲到5月15號 ，現在又推遲到5月21號，如果5月21號能回來，佩吉在那個地方Donestsk就差不多呆了三個月。
大家為她祈禱吧，希望她這次順利帶著領養的孩子回來。
佩吉發回來的那個待領養的小男孩的照片。
March 30, 2010
Hi ladies:
It is a beautiful warm afternoon here in Donetsk. The babaskas are out cleaning the parks, boulevards (trimming back rose bushes) in preparation for this coming weekend. The whole town is getting a "spit polish". Everything is greening up....tulips are pushing themselves up out of the ground.
Had a great little visit with wee Roman today. His nanny dresses him in a wee coat, chopka (Russian Cossack hat with the front brim that turns up and ear flaps) and today he had bright red boots on. His age group is on the second floor of the orphanage. So a nanny (caretaker)....brings him to the top of the stairs...and when he sees Moma he is fairly vibrating. I wait at the bottom and call out to Roman:
Priveet Roman (Hi Roman)
Dava igrat (Let's play). Piedome na oolizoo Romanchik (Let's go outside Romanchick)
His little hand grabs the hand rail so fast...and his little legs can't get down the steps fast enough to grab my ha nd and then out the door we go.
We stop and say "Paka"...Hi to Dima our driver...Roman is fascinated with "machinos"....cars.
Roman was born Dec 20, 2006.
His name will be Roman J????? S???. Roman is his given name and although we had originally thought about using another name...this little guy is a real Ukrainian Russian speaking cossack...he has a strong name...and it matches his character. Our court date is Apr 14th here in Donetsk and the judge (providing he/she is in agreement with the adoption) will issue a 10 day adoption decree (so that makes it Apr 25) then wee Roman will be in our care. Interesting thing, this court house is back of the orphanage.
The orphanage is well run: it is cheery & spotless, loving women care for the children...has several doctors on staff, a head instructor Irena...(I love her), a dentist who makes regular visits. Playgrounds have plenty of sandboxes, swings, climbing bars and has tons of spring flowers coming up! Wow, we couldn't be more blessed. Roman was in the words of Irena "royalty" to them and Roman is in their "White books"....good books. He is very aware of his surroundings, has a great little memory, is responsive to music, sings little songs when we are outside (of course I have no idea what he is singing) loves to find out how things work, has great energy and a wee appetite to match. He loves his Pi-chin-kas (cookies) after he has been running around outside. No chocolate is allowed as treats for the children at the orphanage...so we will keep this up at home too.
J?? ( Peggie’s husband) had to fly home and will return for our court date (wee man is missing Papa...mama is missing Papa too...no one to fight with). Our sunny apartment is about 17 kms from the orphange. My driver Dima (husband to Viktoria our translator)...picks me up at 9:45 and we go to the orphanage and I visit with Roman from 10 to 11:30 daily. Dima then drops me off at the Orthodox Cathedral and I go in there for about an hour and then walk to a Xata (like a Sunterra) and have a bowl of borsh, some type of root salad (beet or carrot) and Cava (coffee), I then check emails at the local Internet at the Post Office, then stroll back through a beautiful park to our apartment. So I'm getting plenty of fresh air everyday....but I need to....the bread is so fantastic....I could eat 3 loves everyday....J?? will have to buy 4 return seats for us....2 just for my rear!!!
I'll send you a picture right after this email.
Well that is about it for now.
Thanks for all your prayers...they are always heard....send me an email when you can.
Love to all,
Paka (bye)
Peggie
April 1, 2010
I just had to send you folks an update today.
I can't begin to thank you folks for all your kind wishes, good thoughts and prayer...we wouldn't have made it this far without them.
We still have a court hearing set for Apr 14th and then waiting out the 10 Day Adoption Decree...but here is a picture of our little guy taken on the second visit.
Roman (pronounced ro-mAhn) J???? S??? was born Dec 20, 2006...and as our Ukrainian adoption paper say, "we want to adopt a little child so we can be a successful family".
Happy Easter to all. I'll visit wee Roman on Saturday and take a Paska from Papa and Mama...the orphanage is closed Sunday and Monday...so Mama is going with Viktoria and Dima (our translator and driver ) and their 2.5 yr old twins Elewshka and Sonia to Stravnagorst by the Azov Sea for 2 nights.
We have another Canadian couple...arrived yesterday...they are visiting a wee 2 yr old girl...so I have anothe r couple to speak English with.
Anyways, Have a wonder Easter.
Natasha...can you please forward to Susan and Mary-Anne please? And also to Jean, Pam, Natasha, and the rest of the DA's. Thank you.
Bruce ... can you send to Don Skoreyko & David Luft, Collin Mills, Ken Stark, Frank Hutchins,
S????? ( my name) ...can you please forward to Ying, Leo, Sam
Leslie...can you send to Deb in payroll for the her and the ladies...thank you.
April 8, 2010
Hi S????? ( my name) ...it is a colder morning here...they brought Roman to the play room at the orphange so that I could play with him there.
He ran into my arms..and just wanted to be hugged and cuddled for about 10 minut es....he is a sweet little boy.
We have a court appearance next Wednesday (J?? flys back here on Saturday)....and then another court date after that.
I hope to be home May 2nd...but we will see.
Yesterday marks 7 weeks for me in Ukraine. I know have an appreciation of how you folks felt here in Canada for the first time...the language is strange, people don't understand you, the food is different, can't find a T.V. station you understand...everything sounds like ballaballaballa....money is different.
Anyways...the food is good, they eat a lot of Sushi here, I can usually find someone who speaks English....or my Russian is so bad...they just feel sorry for me...and help me out.
This is a very safe city to be in...and people are very kind and courteous.
Pass a hi to Ying.
How is the job going? Are you having fun?
Love to you S?????
April 9, 2010
I'm glad you are keeping up the RAPG tradition! I miss you guys and will kiss you guys when I get back.
Do you like being back at the office? What are you doing?
Hi to M (my husband) and A ( my daughter). Tell them I'm learning Russian as fast as I can . And I'm not very good at it!
Love to you S?????!
PS...I'm really missing Chinese food!
April 18,2010
They liked us so much in court...they want us to come back again. Keep your fingers crossed that we can get Apr 22nd as our next court date.
J?? was trying to fly home to Canada...no such luck...he got as far as Kyiv...stayed overnight...couldn't fly out to Frankfurt...due to the ash cloud...so he returned to Donetsk via overnight train.
Can't wait for Chinese Food S?????...hope to be flying home around May 15th!
Love Peggie
April 26, 2010
Hi folks - well tomorrow is our final court appearance...and God
willing we hope to be able to adopt Roman. It has been a long
process. I've been in Ukraine since Feb 24th...and if the adoption is
succesful...we will fly home May 21st (almost 3 months).
We will take all the positive vibes and prayers you can send!
When you are having a double double (geez I miss those)....and think of us!
We will let you know how we make out!
God bless you all...
Peggie
佩吉是委托領養機構幫忙做這事的，昨天她來電話：領養失敗！一會我去和她見麵，再告知祥情，她現在很傷心，電話說象剛做了一次心髒手術。。。
謝謝5弟！
有些時候,一切都是天意,一切的波折,都是為了一個相遇...
謝啦！
我也衷心祝願她們這次心想事成！
謝阿鬆！
我一直為他們夫妻祈禱：盡快帶那個可愛的小男孩返加！。。。
我和佩吉認識整10年，她是一個很有愛心耐心，且對各種膚色的人都很友好的人，我一直為她和她的老公吉米祈禱，讓他們如願吧，他們會很好地照料那個孩子的，那個孩子會很幸福的！
抱抱優優貓！
抱抱優優貓！