精神出軌的10個危險信號-（zt) The 10 Red Flags of an Emotional Affair

精神出軌的10個危險信號-（zt) The 10 Red Flags of an Emotional Affair

(2013-10-21 10:42:07)

危險信號#1：你對自己說，“我們僅僅是朋友”
Red Flag #1: You Think or Say, "We're Just Friends."

當你發現自己這樣想，或這樣對自己說，“可我們僅僅是朋友”，你麻煩了。“可我們僅僅是朋友”是一段關係中最危險的4個詞之一。這些詞，通常用來合理解釋某些你明知不對的事。合理解釋有時可以理解為“合理的謊言”。If you have caught yourself thinking or saying, "but we're just friends," you are probably already in trouble. "But we're just friends" are four of the most dangerous words for a relationship. These words are usually said to rationalize something you know is wrong. Rationalize might also be spelled "rational lies."

危險信號#2：你對他或她陷入幻想中

Red Flag #2: You Daydream About Him or Her

這應該是一個呼嘯的信號。你對你的“平常的”朋友們也是這樣日思夜想嗎？This should be a loud, screaming clue. Do you think and daydream about your "regular" friends in this way?

危險信號#3：你盼望見到他或她

Red Flag #3: You Look Forward to Seeing Him or Her

若你為即將見到那個人感到興奮，期待，心跳加快，小心了。
If you feel excitement, anticipation, or a quickening of your pulse as you get ready to see the person, watch out.

危險信號#4：你最先想把消息告訴他或她

Red Flag #4: You Want to Tell Them News First

這意味著這個人已經成為你的主要精神知己。This means that this person has become your primary emotional confidant.

危險信號#5：你們分享親密的感情

Red Flag #5: You Share Intimate Emotions

精神知己的自然流露。由於精神出軌比身體出軌更難割舍，你可能就此陷進去。This flows naturally from this person being your primary emotional confidant. Because emotional affairs can be harder to break than purely physical ones, you can get trapped right here.

危險信號#6：你們分享私密的問題

Red Flag #6: You Share Intimate Problems

當你們分享婚姻中的問題時，事情會尤其危險了。This practice is especially dangerous if you are sharing problems in your marriage or relationship with the other person.

危險信號#7：你相信他或她比你的配偶更懂你

Red Flag #7: You Believe He or She Understands You More Than Your Spouse

當然是這樣。這是出軌的一部分。堅信這些會把你從你的配偶那裏把你推向另外那個人。Of course it looks like they do. That is part of the illusion of the affair. Believing this draws you away from your partner and toward the other person.

危險信號#8：你們有秘密，並且掩飾它

Red Flag #8: You Keep Secrets and Cover Up

秘密把兩個人綁在一起。而把第三個人撇開。Secrets bond two people together against a third person.

危險信號#9：你們互贈禮物

Red Flag #9: You Give Gifts