樸素的情感, 純真的愛

文革中及中華人民共和國成立以後, 大家一直在尋找和 Dreaming to 保持和 to Develop that 樸素的無產階級感情, which had been tasted and had lead 大家從一個勝利走向另外一個更加偉大的勝利 in the past, especially during the 艱苦的戰爭年代, as it has always been said when we were little.

However, the bond 無產階級建立的, while they were actually living as 無產階級, would naturally 退化, 變質 as 曆次運動 fighting for and trying so hard to maintain, while living in peaceful time 和平時期.  

So does money have done to our current 資本主義 system and people under it, perhaps, since we are so much into or 動感情 toward 起浮沉降 of the market. Some people can not say one single sentence without Money. Every person, every thing coming across, has to be 折合成 以"錢"為單位. I guess, may be because holding on and rigidly depending too much on the existing Monetary system, the financial Earthquake 才actually發生. 再看 each business owner, 不到倒閉了, 就不信自己的生益也會有不賺錢的一天. I guess, people already forget Where 錢 coming from (or should be coming from), and Why one should 賺錢 in the first place. Then, eventually 淪落為金錢的奴隸.

Human's 情感, lead to (你給我, 我就給你; 你對我好, 我就(才)對你好;)的功利型的 conditional human relationship, like tumbling in the circle of drunkenness, not until we practice True真, Pure純, 的 God's Love, we shall not be able to get out of such a mud of our own fate of perishing 毀滅.

Love to the world will surely lead us to destruction and death, since it's temporary, sinful and perishable by nature.

As Jesus said, the greatest commandment in the law is, "Love the Lord your God 愛主, 你的上帝 以 with all your heart 全心 and with all your soul 全部靈魂 and with all your mind 全意" (與源頭, 與所有 相聯) (Matthew 22:36). And the second is, 'Love your neighbor as yourself 愛人如己.' (So that 人際關係 才可望 透明) (Matthew 22:39).

Only 靠情感, 恩報, 來維持的 relationships 關係, wouldn't last 長久 either. It'll come and go by chance, and varying, changing according to the particular period of time and situations we are caught up with. It can be ended up just like how it appears from the beginning, without much growing or/and significant impact left on our life, if lucky enough not have pains, negative emotions or even resentment remaining inside. What a waste, after All!

Many Chinese 太太, 大部分也同時是媽媽, 都認為愛孩子要比愛丈夫 (作一個讓丈夫滿意的太太) 容易. Some even say, "If you can love your husband in the way you love your child, you'll have a happy marriage."

Looking into details, after a short survey, we found 太太認為丈夫要自己: 第一, 漂亮; 第二, 溫柔, 體帖; 第三, 做好飯, 帶好孩子; 少數加之, 能賺錢貼作家用. 而丈夫們確說, 希望自己的太太尊重自己是第一, 了解自己的心意最重要, and after bunch of other things, 最後一條是'打扮'.

一直感覺男人更深刻, 警省一些. 這裏發現我們中國的兄弟們更甚. 看來中國的文化和傳統並沒有把他們漫待了. 對女人也有 "賢慧(惠)" (Wise Like a Saint) 的要求.

這與基督教所要求的, 女人對自己的丈夫 (同樣看作是 "頭" -- 當家人), 首要的是要 "敬重", 然後是 "順服", 是很相仿的. It has little or even nothing to do with 他先對我怎麽樣, 說的好聽不好聽, 給我買花沒買, etc. 的 conditions. It has everything to do with, our believing in Him because of God, and for loving Him in the right way and doing right thing (much like loving our own children in principle, as far as the unconditional nature is concerned). 我們對 丈夫好, 接受他, 看重他, 就象對待上帝最初所造的那個最完美的男人一樣-- 給予他我們最由衷的讚美和愛戀. 

不是因為 他完美 我們才去愛他, 而是因著我們的愛 他才變得一天比一天 更加完美和快樂. 女人是創造愛的女神, if we go along with God, aren't we? 上帝的愛是最真, 最純, 沒有窮盡的. How can our love be limited? 而不是涓涓流淌永無盡頭.