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父親的遺憾 -- 懷念母親 (5)

(2008-01-28 09:01:31) 下一個

母親走後 , 一日 , 我們姐妹幾個圍著父親 , 坐在一起聊天 . 父親說 , 他收藏了一篇文章 , 一直想讀給母親聽 , 幾次話到嘴邊 , 都咽了回去 . 擔心母親傷心 , 擔心母親誤會 . 現在想來 , 還是覺得後悔 , 應當在她活著的時候讀給他聽 .

我請他老人家拿出來 , 給我們看看 . 父親拿出了這篇文章 “ 隻能陪你一程 ”. 它是遊宇明於2004發表在《讀者》上的. 我大聲郎誦給大家聽.


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隻能陪你一程

春天的雨夜,好友提出告辭,我堅持要送他到車站。

最終,他攔住了我:"送君千裏,終須一別。你反正隻能陪我一程,就在門口止步吧。"

我尊重他的意見。

每一個人都隻是穿插在他人生活中的一個片斷,這注定永遠隻能陪人一程。你愛自己的父母,希望他們長命百歲,但你再孝順他們,他們也會走在你前麵,你隻能陪父母一程;你喜歡自己的兒女,時刻夢想用自己的身軀為他們遮風擋雨,然而,你再高大,總有一天你也要走在他們前麵,你隻能陪兒女一程;你擁有一個心心相印的妻子,但是,她前麵二十多年屬於父母,後麵幾十年會被兒女、命運分割,你隻能陪妻子一程;你看重朋友之間兩肋插刀的友誼,然而,不是朋友離開你,就是你離開朋友,你隻能陪朋友一程 ……
因為隻能陪人一程,你應該學會珍惜。他們饑餓時,你的關愛要成為一隻蘋果;他們寒冷時,你的嗬護要變成一件棉衣;他們快樂時,你的笑容應該是最燦爛的;他們傷心時,你的撫慰應該是最真摯的 …… 生活反複印證著:黑夜可以因為篝火的加入而變得明亮,冰雪卻無法因為寒風的參與而化作溫暖。

因為隻能陪人一程,你也應該學會放棄。你父母隻能撫養你長大,你不要期望他們是你永遠的拐杖,可以支撐你全部的人生;兒女隻是與你血肉相連的孩子,而不是你的奴隸,你要懂得尊重他們的人生選擇;妻子向你奉獻了愛情,但她的生命不是愛情的抵押品,你應該給她必要的私人空間;朋友可以溫暖你,但這種溫暖應該是開放的,你不能強行獨占他人的友誼 ……

你隻是別人生命中的過客,隻能與人共走一段路,這注定了你給予別人的有限性,又怎能要求別人無限付出? ***************************************************************************************************************************
附上英文翻譯如下:

Each person can only interludes in the lives of others in a fragment, which were destined to accompany only one way. Your love their parents, I hope they have a long life-years old, but you will filial piety them, and they will take your front of you like their children, and always dream of using their bodies as they Zhefengdangyu, however, you can tall, one day you go in front; affiliated you have a wife, but she is more than 20 years ahead parents, after several decades will be the sons and daughters of `separate destiny, you can only accompany his wife one way; Liangjinchadao you value the friendship, but not your friends leave, you leave a friend, you can only way to accompany a friend .. ..... because only one way to accompany people, should learn to treasure. their hunger, your care and concern should be to become an apple; them cold, your love to become a cotton; them happy, you laugh most brilliant they feel sad when your console is the most sincere ....... repeatedly proven the life: bonfire night because of the addition of becoming bright, but not because of ice and snow, the weather is warm into the involvement of .

Because the only way to accompany a person, you should learn to give up. Your parents could only train you grow up, you do not always expect them to the crutches, you can support all the life you create only the sons and daughters of the blood linkage friends, is not your slaves, must know how to respect their life choices; wife for the dedication you love, but her love life is not collateral, she should be given the necessary private space; friends can warm you, but this should be a glorious opening , and can not be forcibly monopolize their friendship ........

You are in the lives of others, freight, and people can only take a total of the section, you are bound to the limited nature of others, how can we ask others to pay unlimited?

我理解 父親為什麽最終沒有念給母親 . 作為父親來講 , 他很想親自講給她聽 , 讓她安心離去 , 不要再牽掛親人 . 但在母親臨終告訴她這一事實 , 仍是殘忍的 .

父親 , 您不必感到遺憾 , 您已做到了最好 ! 攜妻之手 , 您們共度過了 57 載 . 由其是在最後幾年 , 您對母親無微不至的照顧 , 我們看在眼裏 , 記在心裏 , 您是我們學習的好榜樣 .

既然隻能陪人一程 , 那就珍惜夫妻 , 父母 , 兒女 , 兄弟姐妹 , 朋友 ,…, 在一起的時光 , 輕鬆快樂的度過這一程吧 !

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