要求孩子改變之前,大人必須先改變。
我已經在改掉我一生氣就怒斥他們的習慣,我盡量輕言細語地表達我
昨天,哥哥放學有活動,打電話回家讓接他,弟弟接的電話,因為沒
回到今早的事情上來,當我明確表示不送他之後,他把早餐一丟就衝
我麵無表情地說,如果你錯過了校車就自己走去學校吧。從家走到學
他的行為都是我慣出來的,我總是提醒他要上某大學。他隻要把那些
他會覺得上個好大學是為了我。而我也應該滿足他所有要求。
孩子眼裏父母對他唯一的要求就是好好學習上個好大學。不!上好大
我開始改變我對他的要求,我希望你健康成長,除了身體健康,心靈
最後他隻好跟著弟弟去趕弟弟的校車,弟弟的校車7:30才到,從
我開車出去的時候,他們還在那裏等,雨一直下著。我還是停下來送
但這不是妥協。我告訴他,我會取消他的一項活動,既然你連上課時
他很生氣。
我不生氣了。
我放學回家,一邊吃午飯一邊拿出日曆看我們的聖誕假期。
哥哥已經不願意和我們一起去度假了。我也不想強行拉他一起,最後弄得假期裏誰都不開心,該度假的沒玩好,不願度假的人也沒玩好。
不去算了,但我不想把他留在家裏。於是,追加一個限製條款給他。聖誕節不能獨自呆在家裏,要去爸爸家。
好了,他迅速回信給我了。信的內容如下:
You never reflect what you do wrong and try to fix them but only try to tear other people apart. I wrote you an email about things Im going to fix and then you write me an email about things i wrote about previously and added a bunch of false accusations. Before assuming things, you should get it clear, One I did not take away 弟弟s coat because i was cold, I just needed it for the hood so I can smuggle myself on the 弟弟學校(此信的中文是我換上來的) bus. Not because I was cold. Second I only spend 5 - 10 minute every morning on my hair because im a teenager. I care about how I look when going out to public and so your telling me you didn't spend any time on your hair when you were 15. And no I did spend around 2-3 hours typing a paper and preparing for a test. Video games is a decent proportion of who I am and that just cant be changed. In school I'm not cool because I spend money on games instead of drugs or alcohol. I'm not cool because I don't want to go out to party all night and get wasted. People spend their money and time on much worse things that video games. I never put video games before school. I make sure it doesn't get in the way of my schoolwork. I always reflect on the things and plan on how im going to make myself better but I never see you doing it. We already agreed that I was going to stay home. Ill go to stop and shop the day before, get food and take care of my self at home, You guys can have fun at your vacation, and I'll be at our house nicely heated and supplied with food waiting for you guys to come back. I can take care of myself, Ive done it for 3 weeks alone at our house I can do it for 3 days. From now, I do promise to change my temper and I'll talk things calmly though only if you promise the same. And punishment is not a good way to solve an issue. It makes us both mad. an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMRrCYPxD0I
看完這信我突然覺得我已經不是對手了。。。。。。。。