朱海洋的根
(2009-02-04 03:51:55)
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我知道現在寫這個東西已經是過時了,沒人要看了,可是心裏的話不說,憋得難受。上個星期為晉級別趕寫材料,一直隻是看看大家高見。有天晚上真的寫了點東西,花了好長時間,絞盡腦漿,總算寫完;點了發送後,傻眼了:OFF LINE。鬥升腦漿,毀於一“擊”。為報這一擊之仇,還要說,還要寫。
朱海洋利刃拭女同胞,不隻是失戀的瘋狂,不隻是無愛的斷腸,不隻是遭挫的無望,是愛情無知的可悲。而對愛情無知的根源是:他,隻是個書蟲。
愛情,是雙方心靈在被愛浸泡後,碰撞後產生的火花;是流連婉轉,欲言又止的熾熱目光交織後的電光;是欲縮還伸,膽怯羞澀的手指接觸後的暖流。愛情,有時是遠遠的觀看而已,有時是明知無望的等待,有時是無奈的徹夜無眠。愛情,有時是突如其來的驚喜,有時是執著不舍的收獲。愛情會因痛苦而甜蜜,也會因甜蜜而痛苦。愛情,不是肉體上的占有,不是靈魂上的摧殘,更不應該是對靈魂和肉體的消滅。
記得媽媽常說的兩句話:“兩條腿的蛤蟆找不到,兩條腿的人有都是”和“強扭的瓜不甜”。現在才理解明白,相信應該至理名言。
身為書蟲的朱海洋,可以將數學定理嚼透,大部分的時間在背英語單詞。不知他是不是在書海中漫遊時,也讀了“青春之歌”,“簡。愛”,“傲慢與偏見”甚至於曾經讀了讓我淚濕衣襟的“飄”,讓我眼睛紅腫了兩天的“紅樓夢”,讓我哽咽不止的“彩霞滿天”。據說他當年考GRE時,數學幾乎滿分,而且托福也是高分。想必此人無暇問及其它。書海中暢遊的書蟲,不曾有時間去嗅花香吧。
不是書讀得好的人都死讀書,但是有人讀死書。讀書的壓力,使人變得狹隘,偏激,自以為是,為我自尊。不幸的是,楊欣偏偏進入了他的視線。她是他要攻克的數學難關,他要求解!當他意識到世上有這麽一道題,看起來簡單,他卻得不到解。他便以最為簡潔的,自欺其人的手法:擦掉原題。
我本人不是心理學家,但是個人經曆中也遇到一個歇斯底裏的人。當年敬慕他學曆高深,也為其文質彬彬的外表所吸引。結果相處一段時間才發現,此人在待人處事上還處於孩童的階段。他會當著朋友的麵兒,大誇特誇我聰明,漂亮,背後卻常說我無能,不及他,而且會暗示我不夠漂亮。與他分手時,是艱難而危險的過程,我那時也擔心他會傷害我或我的家人。他連著幾天不停地打電話,直到夜裏三四點鍾。害得我躲在好友的家裏,隻求一個安穩覺。事情過後的幾年後,從一個朋友那兒聽說,他當年要買槍殺了我。真是讓人後怕。最讓我痛心的是,他毀掉了我僅有的,也是最為珍貴的幾張兒時的我的照片。
現在國內,又有多少年輕人,為考學而學,為出國而苦讀。缺少感情經曆,沒有感情常識,再加上沒有家長,長輩的引導,結果導致狹隘無知,偏激易怒,精神分裂。
還要說,同胞們,當提及死者時,請不要用不敬的字眼兒!她也曾經是我們海外學子中的一員。
願楊欣小妹妹在天之靈,安息。。。。。。
我,後怕。
Correction: What would other people say about you if what happened to Yang happened to you? From your story, I see a very high probability that your ex-boyfriend would take the same extreme action as you learned from your friend.
Now I have an interesting imagination. If you and/or your family members were killed by your ex-boyfriend, do you think what people would say about you?
You were talking about love. Do you truly think your ex-boyfriend ever loved you?
We no longer know what was in Yang's mind and probably will never know what Zhu thought if he does not what to tell the truth, but we do know what we are thinking. I do not suspect that you 'broke' your heart when you thought of their parents as you wrote.
We should love every person on the earth as Jesus Christ pointed out 2009 years ago, including your enemies (if any) if they are willing to change. At the same time, one should not live for anyone else but oneself, not mother, not farther, not daughter, not son, etc.
This is another social issue we have to consider to improve: too much dependence between parents and their children who are older than 18. Ideally, their parents'daily lives should not change too much. We should treat every one in this world equally, not only our family members, but also others.
活著的人,好好地珍惜你的每一天,珍愛你所愛的人。每天都給你的孩子們至少一個擁抱,每天都告訴你愛的人你愛她(他)。
記住,活著,真好!
A well-written, good essay!
2. Chinese government should suspend 朱海洋's citizenship immediately! ...death penalty twice, from both US and China...
3. 李簡單 must be a Lauzi's good student who has good taste in life.
It is meaningless to discuss only on Yang's tragedy without learning from it and therefore to prevent any similar tragedy from happening in the future.
>>辨明他是個病人,報警、遠離之
You can not call police just because you know someone has mental illness unless that person violates law. Also, it is truly not easy to know this in daily life. Look at Zhu's pictures and listen to what his friends say about him. Quite a normal person, wasn't he?
“山重水複疑無路,柳岸花明又一春”,and“大事化小,小事化了”。 Yang looks very smart and she might know all of these very well, but these are not going to work when you are dealing with people like Zhu.
可憐楊妹妹可能不知道,拿他當了正常人。對一個精神病,切不可用常人的邏輯思維分析。我們能做到的是,及早地敏感地辨明他是個病人,報警、遠離之。怎麽得病怎麽觸發出來的,不在這場楊MM的悲劇範圍內。
真知灼見不少,如:“不是書讀得好的人都死讀書,但是有人讀死書。讀書的壓力,使人變得狹隘,偏激,自以為是,為我自(獨)尊。”“現在國內,又有多少年輕人,為考學而學,為出國而苦讀。缺少感情經曆,沒有感情常識,再加上沒有家長,長輩的引導,結果導致狹隘無知,偏激易怒,精神分裂。”
你清楚地勾畫出了朱海洋這類“有學無知”青年的實質!
精神分裂或人格障礙的人往往並不自知。別人也不一定清楚。一件小事就可能成為他/她們崩潰的誘因。盧剛,朱海洋,陳丹蕾等,那個在加拿大灰狗巴士上斬首的華人,都有類似的特征。被他(她)們殺的,有哪一個是壞人?
為那些第一時間裏不問青紅皂白就往楊欣身上潑髒水的人感到悲哀。是什麽使得這些人缺乏起碼的同情心?
在國內讀書時不喜歡哲學,死背硬記,應付考試。現在才意識到,很多原來學的東西,竟會在不知不覺中成了自身的生活哲學。收益不淺。
如果僅僅是“分手時,......連著幾天不停地打電話,直到夜裏三四點鍾”,竊以為尚可歸於正常。
想起以前一個同學的話,“這孫子,知識分子看你是個流氓,流氓一看你就TMD是個知識分子!”
1) 朱有精神病
If this is true, then what caused him to be ill mentally? It would be the social inequality.
2) 朱強奸了楊, 楊要報警, 朱殺人滅口
If Yang wanted to call police, she did not need to let him know. If Zhu raped Yang, then question is what caused him to do so. Keep in mind, Rape is essentially the same as murder. The deep reason would still be the social inequality.
3) 朱和楊上了床, 楊事後以強奸勒索,要毀了朱, 朱逼急了殺楊.
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1) 朱有精神病
2) 朱強奸了楊, 楊要報警, 朱殺人滅口
3) 朱和楊上了床, 楊事後以強奸勒索,要毀了朱, 朱逼急了殺楊.
When I saw Yang's picture, my feeling is: what a beautiful woman! what an unfortunate fate she had! Why did God make her run into Zhu? Why did not God send her to me? If so, then I would give her my unconditional help and love, then her life would be completely different.
I am currently thinking of something that will change the way people live on the earth. All of us will die someday. Someone dies as heavy as Tai Mountain, while someone dies as light as a fine feather. I want to split the world into different groups (or countries), and people can choose which group to live in. No conflict takes place within one group. My immediate goal is to split China into two parts, one for capitalism, and one for communism. People can freely choose capitalism or communism, of course, they can change their mind and move back and forth, but once they are in one group, they have to follow the rules of that group.
Almost all of the possibilities have been imagined to explain for Zhu's cruel behavior, but few tried to find the reason from the social inequality, which I believe is the main reason. If we do not solve this social problem, then do not surprise sooner or later another Zhu comes in our sight.
I wouldn't dare to make any conclusion to Zhu's behaviou. His background, his life experience and his family culture may be played important part in this tragedy.
怎麽找不到?蛤蟆本來就是4隻腳的啊?!!!應該是‘三條腿的蛤蟆不好找,兩條腿的男人到處有’才對吧?
隻有自身遭受過強奸的人才會有很好的想象力去說豬頭強奸了楊;隻有自身是亂搞的人才會推斷豬頭在報複。
正常的人不會去為一個殺人犯辯護。
也許豬頭從小就被他媽媽強奸,他媽生了七個小孩;看到楊長得像他媽,就殺了她。
報紙上說朱海洋和所居住公寓人員有矛盾(為了什麽呢? 原因呢?如果錯在朱海洋,他為什麽犯錯呢?原因呢?)。
如果一個人在沒有親友的陌生國度裏每天睡不好覺又得不到幫助,他的精神和行為是否會出現偏差呢?審問犯人不也有用疲勞轟炸這一招麽?也許他和楊欣見麵時剛好崩潰失控。
如果他沒有精神病,那就是惡魔。 應該予以毀滅或永遠Lock up
如果他有精神病-應該永遠Lock up
就是這麽簡單。
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特別讚同你對愛情的理解~~~
願楊欣在天之靈得以告慰。。。。。。
首先假設朱沒有精神病,是個基本正常人。哪麽他和楊結下了啥不共戴天的深仇大恨?竟要用這樣的殘酷手段在咖啡廳裏當眾解決?而楊卻沒有一點察覺?正如樓主和前某男的交往的例子,“愛情”的事會一步一步升級的,先是電話騷擾,人身攔截等,女生會感到危險,不敢會麵某男。總之會逐漸惡化,不會突燃就這樣的。
有人說朱可能強奸了楊,楊在考慮報警。朱怕敗露,毀了名聲,前途,所以殺楊滅口。如果真是那樣的話,其碼要遮掩一下吧,僻靜沒人的地方動手。不會如此理直氣壯地,正義在我,我怕誰,大廳廣眾地取了楊的首級。
繼續假設朱沒有精神病,是個基本正常人。那嗎楊對他作了啥,能讓他如此仇恨,如此理直氣壯。恐怕要等進一步調查才能清楚。很明顯朱,楊並不是情人關係,揚和其它男人的關係不會刺激朱如此仇恨。
俗言道“事出有因”,毛說“天下沒有無緣無故的恨”--- 對正常人來說。
朱的行為更象一個精神病人的瘋狂行為。既便如此,他也會坐牢,二三十年或終身。很難“無罪”,除非他(父母)能提供以前“犯病”的醫療證明。
“讀書的壓力,使人變得狹隘,偏激,自以為是,為我自尊。”很欣賞這樣的剖析,我相信,在讀書做學問上,朱海洋肯定是個人才,但生活上,的確很幼稚,特別是對挫折上,承受能力那麽差。
為楊欣惋惜,無論如何,這個美麗的女子就這麽逝去,有點痛心。
願楊欣小妹妹在天之靈,安息。。。。。。
Take it easy, that is her perspective.