18/11/08
Last night honey and I were watching Sex and the City episode when we were inspired into a discussion. I said to him that out of all the advices I was asked to give regarding relationship and marriage, I only have one – you need to be with someone who loves you truly because at the end of the day, love is the only thing that you can’t work on. Love is the chemical that you only have it when you have it. Although it’s far not the only thing to make a relationship work, it’s the foundation and destination of everything you do in your relationship. Other things, like financial aspect, social status, living habit, family background, religion choice and so on, are things that we are able to work on hence should come after love in consideration, not before. By saying this however, I don’t mean love gurantees a successful relationship because love is foundation, not magic. A sussessful relationship requires life long efforts, attentions and willingness from both before they see each other together at the end of the road. As the most things, it’s easy in words but hard in action. It’s the compromise that you need to take when you are not naturally willing to. It’s the communication that you have to chanllenge yourself changing in ways to ensure it accurately received in the other end. It’s the support that you need to offer when you seem vulnerable yourself. it’s a group of things that you do when you couldn't imagine doing it before.
Earlier, honey and I were talking about “one plus one”. We both couldn’t agree more that any of us couldn’t get where we are today mainly financially but also generally without each other. I guess that explains why one plus one equels two. But honey said in our case, one plus one equels five because we, bond as one with our passion, love and great deal of teamwork, is sronger than merely doubling individuals. It’s sweet, isn’t it?
