長相和學曆/金錢是相對的. 幸福是相對的.
Let's suppose in YOUR world (both real and imaginary)you are good-looking, smart, rich.
let's suppose happiness = good-looking + Richness + marrying virgin
1. Among the people you could see and imagine, what is the proportion of male who are both good-looking and rich (and of a virgin)?
2. Does a rich good-looking (virgin) male want you, supposedly a good-looking, smart, rich female?
-What if another female who is less good-looking than you but richer than you and this male wants to marry money?
-What if another female who is more good-looking than you but less intelligent or with less money than you and this male wants to marry beauty?
-What if another female who is less good-looking than you but smarter than you and this male wants to marry intelligence?
-What if another female who is less good-looking than you, less smarter than and less rich than you and with less education, but can give better emotional support to the man and this male wants to marry peace?
-What if another female who is less good-looking than you and with less education, less smarter than you and less rich etc. NOW but willing to improve and will be likely to improve, and this male wants to marry potential?
Whether you can fullfill your dream or not, let’s see after 20 years.
In my own opinion, there may be a flaw within your comparison between the female’s beauty and male’s social mobility (education, career and gentry), albeit both are being utilized by both genders as the leverages. What I am trying to point out is that you missed the major element of “time” in your parallels.
By large or cruelty of the nature, the shelf life (radiance of physical attractiveness of female) may only last about 8-10 years, on the contrary male’s social mobility could not only demolish in much slow rate but also, in many cases, advance with time. That is why a males are less likely to be compelled to make theri pick as their counterparts. Which in turn can be misunderstood as rude cockiness or 居然還對女孩子挑三挑四的.
There is other aspect of this unequal equation
Beauty(F) Social Mobility(M), many guys look beyond the beauty of potential mates and search for more important attributes as the criteria at soul-mate seeking time.
However, I do, as other guys there, appreciated your honesty and directness in your writing. That is the beauty would sustain battery of the time. Do you agree, guys ?
我個人雖然喜歡看看美女,嗬嗬隻是看看而已,卻並不羨慕她們,美女的優勢往往給與她們多一些挑選的餘地,但往往挑花了眼的結局就是紅顏薄命.本人不幸親眼目睹過很多類似慘劇.我認識的眾多美女中大部分人並沒有得到幸福,也許是眼光頗高,還在不停的挑選吧.所以我覺得不管是有錢男人還是美女都不要死抱著自己的優勢條件不放,去審視對方和自己配不配.其實條件基本相符就可以了,關鍵是Follow Your Heart
