“Comparison Between People: Embracing the Journey of Growth, Steering Clear of the Trap of Jealousy”
SeetoMD U.S.A
In China, there’s a saying, “人比人，死得人” (“Comparison between people leads to death”), which emphasizes the importance of not comparing ourselves to others, as it can spark jealousy and negative emotions, leading to despair—especially when we encounter people who are wealthier, more successful, or more beautiful than ourselves. Comparing ourselves to others often generates negative feelings, as their wealth, success, beauty, and happiness can make us feel inferior. When we compare ourselves to others, we often only see a snapshot of their success, failing to recognize the struggles and stories behind it. Particularly today, media often showcases highlights, amplifying aspects of beauty, success, and wealth while neglecting the complex stories that lie beneath.
In this rapidly changing information age, we are more susceptible to external influences, forgetting that everyone’s journey is unique. We should not overlook our own successes and strengths; perhaps others may also feel envy toward us. It is crucial to understand that comparisons should not lead to jealousy and negativity, but rather to the recognition that everyone possesses unique talents, luck, and experiences.
Such comparisons can foster personal growth instead of making us feel inadequate. By appreciating others’ successes, we can inspire ourselves and discover our own unique paths to growth. Thus, maintaining an open mindset and reflecting on our own progress can lead to greater satisfaction and happiness in life.
As we pursue our personal goals, we should often remind ourselves that behind every success lie countless efforts and sacrifices. Let us embrace the journey of growth, respect our own and others’ paths, and uncover the brilliance that belongs to us.
