You are a good parent.

 

經常喊我有壓力。問他具體在哪些事上有壓力。不知道。 Ask him if he feels the pressure is from the parents. Be specific.

現在在申請大學。覺得自己若進不了T5會很遺憾。Think: If I get in, I'd be a lucky dog. (glee).  Realize that most kids don't go to an Ivy.

他覺得附近往年進T5的好多各方麵不如他。Think: They must have a lot of good points. And they were lucky.

昨天又來說今年M 的早申有15000多人，去年隻有9000多人。T5申請人數肯定爆棚。不利的消息越多，孩子越焦慮。

"Do not distract yourself with things you have no control over.  It's a waste of time and energy.  The mind has a way to fool itself because dwelling on those things is an easier task."

He was telling you (the parent) to lower your expectations.  It was a chance for you to let him know that whatever school he gets in, it's a result of his efforts, that is good enough for you and you'd be very proud of him.

平時給他灌輸州大也是挺好的。Say it like you mean it and take him to the school ground for a picnic.

This is hard to do in a short time but worth trying.  Move your (the kid's) "reference point" away from other people and into yourself.  Let the "self" fill your mind.  Ask not "how do I compare with the other person?" but ask "Am I smarter and wiser than yesterday or last year?"

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• 覺得別人都不如自己這個的確需要修煉一下,不然一輩子開心不了。 -aacaac- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/23/2020 postreply 09:20:29

• 很好的建議。謝謝。 -m1688- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/23/2020 postreply 11:48:00