APAD: A Proverb A Day keeps wisdom in play!
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1) So to start: It's like The Great Gatsby, where Gatsby falls in love with the idea of Daisy (his illusion), rather than her real personality (She did not love him but only herself). (The version The Great Gatsby was cast by Leo DiCaprio.)
2). "If we, like Tom, are more in love with the idea of someone, then we really can't blame anyone but ourselves when they don't meet whatever expectations we've put on them."
So true (500 Days of Summer (2009) - the only love story you ever need to see. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OlG-qKdAKw - Looking at the themes of fate, separation, and the individual—the fact that "we will figure it out" was what Summer and Tom needed from the beginning.
Sometimes God puts people in our lives and then makes them leave to teach us how life can be. No matter how cruel it may seem, guys, just remember it’s always for the greater good.
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The phrase "put her on a pedestal" means to idealize, glorify, or excessively admire someone, often to the point of ignoring their flaws or treating them as perfect. It suggests unrealistic expectations and can sometimes lead to disappointment when the person doesn’t meet those high standards.
Examples:
Romantic Relationships: A man treats his partner as flawless, believing she can do no wrong. If she makes a mistake, he feels betrayed, not because she did something terrible, but because he held unrealistic expectations.
Celebrity Worship: Fans idolize a singer or actress, thinking she is beyond criticism. When a controversy arises, they either refuse to believe it or turn against her entirely.
Historical Figures: A leader or historical figure is glorified in textbooks, with only their achievements mentioned while their failures or flaws are ignored (e.g., worshipping a political figure without acknowledging their mistakes).
Workplace & Leadership: A company admires a CEO excessively, assuming every decision they make is genius. When the company faces issues, employees may struggle to accept that the leader is fallible.
Key Takeaway:
Putting someone on a pedestal removes their humanity and complexity. It creates pressure on the person being idolized and sets up inevitable disappointment when reality doesn’t match the ideal.
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Movie Example: 500 Days of Summer (2009)
In 500 Days of Summer, the protagonist Tom (Joseph Gordon-Levitt) puts Summer (Zooey Deschanel) on a pedestal, idealizing her as his perfect soulmate.
How He Puts Her on a Pedestal:
- He romanticizes every moment with her, ignoring signs that she isn’t looking for the same level of commitment.
- He sees her as flawless, projecting his own desires and fantasies onto her rather than understanding her as a real person.
- When she breaks up with him, he feels deeply betrayed, not because she wronged him, but because she failed to live up to his unrealistic expectations.
???? The Reality Check:
- Over time, Tom realizes that he was in love with an idea of Summer, not the real Summer.
- The movie deconstructs the "manic pixie dream girl" trope, showing how idealizing someone can lead to disappointment when they don’t fit the imagined version of them.
Key Takeaway:
Like in real life, putting someone on a pedestal blinds us to who they really are. 500 Days of Summer shows how unrealistic expectations create disappointment, not the person themselves.
https://youtu.be/blsTV2Wv0s8?si=cn5ojrEnoklJh3_I 3 Interpretations of Summer: "Sometimes people you love are just more compatible with someone else."
@primadonnaqueen3685
2 years ago
A major detail that i love in that movie is at the very end where Summer describes how she met her husband, and she said 'Tom was right'. Showing how Tom changed her perspective a bit just like how she changed him. From her perspective, Tom is the manic pixie dream girl. I love how you can tell there are two completely different stories happening at the same time, but you only see Tom's perspective. Summer still existed even when she was off the screen.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMG_M0PFNAg The analysis explores different interpretations of "500 Days of Summer," focusing on Tom's romantic ideals versus Summer's cynical realism. It highlights how perspectives on love evolve, emphasizing the importance of compatibility in relationships. Ultimately, both characters illustrate the complexities of love and the necessity of understanding differing viewpoints.
https://youtu.be/84Jz-2sbIT4?si=kj9FJAABe8i7QRgR 500 Days of Summer (2009) Movie: Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Zooey Deschanel Love and Heartbreak Review
500 Days of Summer (2009), directed by Marc Webb, is a unique and captivating romantic comedy-drama that flips the traditional love story on its head. Starring Joseph Gordon-Levitt as Tom Hansen and Zooey Deschanel as Summer Finn, the film takes us on a nonlinear journey through their complicated relationship, filled with passion, heartbreak, and self-discovery.
This movie stands out for its fresh take on love and loss, using a non-chronological storytelling technique that keeps audiences engaged from start to finish. The chemistry between the leads is undeniable, and their performances bring the quirky and emotional script to life. 500 Days of Summer challenges the idealized notions of romance and offers a more realistic portrayal of love's ups and downs.
In this review, we'll dive deep into the film’s themes, performances, and innovative narrative style that has made it one of the most memorable rom-coms of the 21st century. Whether you’re a fan of unconventional love stories or just curious about why this film stands out in the genre, join us as we explore the highs and lows of Tom and Summer’s relationship.
Stars: Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Zooey Deschanel
Director: Marc Webb
Genre: Romantic Comedy, Drama
Year: 2009
https://youtu.be/PsD0NpFSADM?si=iPBTddm7Rgy4IbUs
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500 Days of Summer - the only love story you ever need to see
https://youtu.be/KVbaYT_We2o?si=kAy3k-xdfmL52Xq9?
@mjadekn
5 years ago
Some people are meant to fall in love with each other, but are not meant to be together.
Bro.
My heart.
@shannoncollier5768
6 years ago
The color scheme of this move is genius!
Summer is always bright and blue, whereas Tom is always grey, brown, or just plain colors. When he meets autumn, she too is of browns and greys. I think it’s awesome how that shows us (the audience) how they aren’t right for each other. Almost as if their color choice is supposed to represent their personality.
@HierophantMeme
5 years ago
It's like The Great Gatsby, where Gatsby falls in love with the idea of Daisy (his illusion), rather than her real persona and lifestyle.
@Salemwaaa
5 years ago
This speaks a lot to me because I get attached too quickly and have trouble moving on, and I have trouble letting go of moments that are shared between me and someone; it caused me to imagine every moment where I could’ve been with that someone. But then it falls apart, and I’m back to waking up alone.
4 years ago
I know; I wonder if it’s a guy thing. Girls move on so much more quickly, probably because it’s so easy for them to get attention; they just have to let the right guy into their lives.
4 years ago
"You can't force someone to love you back the only thing you can do is give them your all without regrets."
Wow, that hits hard hahah
"Most people describe winter as lonely and melancholy, but if you see it positively, many lifelong bonds, such as marriages, are formed during this season."
I loved this movie. I didn't realize it when I first saw it, but he was me when I was younger... seeing only what he wanted to see, hearing what he only wanted to hear... holding on even though he knew things had changed, fooling himself that everything could change back to the way they were. I think I need to watch it again.
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H/t:
APAD：What goes around comes around
What goes around comes around
Meaning #1:
The way that you behave now will affect how you are treated in the future, even though this may not happen for a long time. Life has a funny way of giving back what you put in.
Example:
- I have helped friends out in the past and I don't really mind — what goes around comes around.
- I believe that what goes around comes around and that one day he will pay for the misery he has caused.
Meaning #2:
Something that is not successful or fashionable now will be successful or fashionable again in the future, or something that has happened in the past will happen again in the future.
Example:
- We have every chance of becoming a great team again. What goes around comes around.
- If I have learned one thing in life it is that history repeats itself, that what goes around comes around.
- https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/what-goes-around-comes-around, with editing
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Ha, "Déjà Vu"!
My impression on meaning #1：種瓜得瓜 種豆得豆 。
"What goes around comes around" because “you reap what you sow", and "revenge is better served cold" if it might not be clear for a short while.
For meaning #2：三十年河東 三十年河西, with a pseudo poem from 西島 
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The sun rises every morning
The moon comes after the sun
No winter lasts forever
No spring skips its turn
Today will become yesterday
Tomorrow stays tomorrow
Everything goes in a circle
What goes around comes around
Enjoy your Wednesday wherever you are!
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APAD: What Goes Around Comes Around?
APAD could stand for different things depending on the context, but if you're linking it to "What goes around comes around," it likely refers to karma, consequences, or fairness in actions.
Possible Interpretations of APAD in This Context:
1?? Acronym Meaning (Speculative):
- APAD = Actions Produce Appropriate Destinies (suggesting that one's actions lead to fitting consequences).
- APAD = A Payback Always Delivers (implying that karma will eventually balance things out).
2?? Philosophical Connection:
- "What goes around comes around" means that your actions—good or bad—will eventually return to you.
- APAD may refer to a systematic or cultural belief in karma, fairness, or universal justice.
3?? Cultural or Religious Meaning:
- In some spiritual traditions, every action has an equal and opposite reaction—whether through karma, fate, or moral justice.
- If APAD is a specific term in a culture, it might emphasize retribution, balance, or justice over time.
Takeaway:
If APAD is linked to karma, it reinforces the idea that your actions shape your future outcomes—so act wisely!
Do you have a specific reference for APAD that you'd like me to explore further?
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