無聊了就泡網,盲目如一隻無頭蒼蠅,滿世界亂竄,不經意中撞到一個題為《葬禮》的視屏。剛開始還有點忌諱,猶豫了一會掙紮了一番,最終破除迷信解放思想,其實是好奇心作祟,點擊進去看個究竟,到底哪位不幸作古了。
先是女主人對已故丈夫生活糗事的回顧讓人忍俊不禁開懷大笑,但隨著女主人的娓娓道來,那催人淚下的肺腑之言震撼人心。不知感動為何物的我被感動得稀裏嘩啦,一副鐵石心腸被感化得軟不邋遢,‘淚飛頓作傾盆雨,瓢潑直下三千尺’。
《Funeral》是新加坡的公益廣告,非常感人,不可錯過(原文附後)
男主人不幸被病魔奪走生命。追悼會上,本應大張旗鼓為逝者歌功頌德,高調曆數豐功偉績,蓋棺定論,但出人意外,女主人濃墨重彩、淋漓盡致描繪的卻是其愛人生前雷霆萬鈞的鼾聲和驚天動地的屁聲。
女主人化腐朽為神奇,在她耳裏,令人厭煩的鼾聲不是單純的鼾聲,令人惡心的屁聲也不是簡單的屁聲,那是愛人撥響生命的最美妙的音符,是愛人譜寫生命的最動聽的旋律。
《情人》作者杜拉斯說過 :男人,除非女人很愛他,否則,很難忍受。由此可見,女主人對亡夫的愛可圈可點,鼾聲,屁聲,聲聲入耳。
這份獨具一格的刻骨銘心的回憶,展示了另一片天地:生活中,毫不動人的甚至是俗不可耐的片段可以演繹成最溫馨的篇章; 平平淡淡甚至是索然無味的日子可以定格成最亮麗的風景。
多麽難能可貴啊!愛一個人,不僅僅優點,連帶著各種缺點毛病兼收並蓄,嗬護有加。
(胡謅:‘嫁雞隨雞,嫁狗隨狗,嫁給猴子滿山走,嫁個板凳抱著走’。嫁了有腐臭的,權當噴灑了古龍或夏奈爾。Mmm,沁人心脾,引人入勝。)
追悼會上,女主人最後發出振聾發聵的最強音:Little imperfections make them perfect !不完美才是完美!
眼裏噙著感動的淚花,咀嚼品味著女主人對人生感悟的真諦,我唏噓不已,思緒萬千。
記得英國心理學家蒙台涅說過一句頗具衝擊力和震撼力的牛言:“一樁完美的婚姻存在於瞎眼妻子和耳聾丈夫之間。”, 是不是與Little imperfections make them perfect 多少有異曲同工、殊途同歸之處?
茫茫人海、滾滾紅塵,也許上天安排,也許千年修煉,也許不解之緣,也許複也許,兩個不同環境下成長,有著不同經曆不同個性的陌路人相逢了,兩顆心靈相碰了,如茫茫宇宙,兩顆行星相撞了。
伴著入心入骨的愛的進行曲,念著‘執子之手,與子偕老’八字真言,走進婚姻殿堂。
從此,兩個冤家親密無間,耳鬢廝磨,唇齒相依。同在一棟屋裏‘赤誠相見’,同在一口鍋裏‘胡攪蠻纏’,同在一張床上‘摸爬滾打’,實打實的同一戰壕裏的‘占有’了。
千百年修來的因果啊,才換來今生的同船渡共枕眠。
距離產生美。沒了距離,彼此本性一覽無餘,缺點暴露無遺,惡習層出不窮。原本如童話世界裏完美如詩的才子佳人變質了,在現實世界裏判若兩人,匪夷所思、麵目可憎,不盡人意十之八九。
相愛容易相處難。
追求完美不是錯,但俗話都曰:人非聖賢,孰能無過。
當年唐僧師徒四人西天取經,行程兩萬五千裏,爬火山過莽地戰群魔,風餐露宿,風雨兼程,曆經九九八十一難。最後一劫,經文落水。師徒四人奮力打撈晾曬,由於八戒毛手毛腳導致經文破損。唐僧心痛不已,追悔莫及。孫悟空發表高論為師弟開脫, 同時慰藉師傅:“蓋天地本不全,經文又何全之有,天意也。”
那誰誰誰也高屋建瓴:“天有不測風雲,月有陰晴圓缺,此事古難全。”
日月天地都有缺陷,神仙也難求十全十美,何況人乎?
每個人都有自己的長處,每個人都有自己的短處。既然沒有完美的人,何不用包容的眼光,寬容的心態,去接受一個不完美的人,去欣賞一個不完美的人?況且己乃芸芸眾生一分子,何苦標榜自己為聖人?
如視屏《葬禮》裏的女主人, 對於亡夫生前炸雷般的鼾聲和屁聲,平靜地對待,理智地化解,睿智地經營,彰顯出深沉含蓄之美,情深意切之境。 否則,若過於計較苛求,上綱上線,雞毛蒜皮能引發家庭大戰,芝麻瑣事能升級到人格道德……其後果可想而知。
夫妻之間,對彼此一些無關緊要的缺點和毛病,裝聾作啞、睜隻眼閉隻眼應為上策。如果放大鏡、顯微鏡、照妖鏡等十八般兵器齊上陣, 搞不好上帝都要敗下陣。
Little imperfections make them perfect,這才最實在、最真切!
常言說得好:金無足赤,人無完人。
(揭發:吾乃語言上的巨人,行動上的矮子,深受Easier said than done流毒之害,已不可救藥。 )
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I'm not going to sing praise to my late hu*****and, not today. Neither will I talk about how good he was. Enough people has done that here. Instead,I want to talk about some things would make some of you feel a bit uncomfortable. First of all, I want to talk about what happened in bed.
Everyone has difficulty starting your car engine in the morning. Horrrrr Kaaaaaa Keeeeee Horrrrr Gaaaaaa. That's exactly what David snoring sounded like.
But wait, snoring wasn't everything.There was also these rear end wind action going on as well. Some nights it would be so forceful, it would wake him up. "What was that?" he would ask. "Oh, it's the dog. " I would say. "Go back to sleep dear. "
All you might find these all very funny, but toward the end of his life,when his illness was at his worst, these sounds indicated to me that my David was still alive. And I wouldn't give just to hear these sounds again before I sleep.
In the end, it is these small things you remember, the little imperfections that make them perfect for you. So to my beautiful children, I hope one day you too find yourselves life partners who are as beautifully imperfect as your father was to me.