Pre-marriage Faith in Love Necessary?

Is pre-marriage faith in love essential and necessary? Is it socially acceptable to get involved much in love relationship with more than one partners just because of bachelorship? I strongly agree that everyone is equal in front of God in the pursuit of love, happiness, and freedome. In my opinion, it is totally ok to choose our boyfriend or girlfriend among a couple of candidates before we engage ourselves a lot, but intimate relationship does involve faith or loyalty in love, right?

My friend and her fiance had planned to get married this May.They got to know each other online and chatted 3 hrs a day since their first call.Being a Christian, my friend disagreed with pre-marriage sex at the very beginning. But her boyfriend insisted that it is a trivia since they are going to get married anyway.Struggling between God and her boyfriend, my friend committed a blunder of weak-minded women: Follow her boyfriend. Living 6-hour drive away, her boyfriend had started to visit her very three weeks since this January.

But this March she found that her boyfriend became really surreptitious, always hiding his cellphone below his pillow. Realizing that he had been fascinated with chatting with some other lady (ladies), she got upset. In mid April when she was preparing for her finals, her boyfriend proposed breakup after he turned off his cellphone for three day. She suspected that he visited the lady during that time, although he denied that he has any other woman. In order to find an excuse to say goodbye, her boyfriend even created a story at his own will: He complained to my friend's mother that her daughter spoke ill of him in front of his boss, spread rumors about him, and even tried to do harm to him behind him...

My friend is a noble, kind-hearted, and loving person. When the colleagues of her boyfriend told her that the rumor has been everywhere about her boyfriend due to something indecent and ridiculous committed by her boyfriend towards her, my friend, although heartbroken, realized that only those that hide can find (解鈴還須係鈴人) and thereby wrote an open letter through CSSA speaking highly of her boyfriend, confessing herself, and requesting a well-intentioned understanding from everyone without talking about any of her boyfriend's betrayal of their love at all in order to rescue her boyfriend's reputation.

What do you think of my friend and her boyfriend?

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• Pre-marriage is same as marriage. -Alex的哥們- ♂ (196 bytes) () 06/08/2010 postreply 10:32:13

• i think -closer- ♂ (41 bytes) () 06/08/2010 postreply 12:39:04