梓萌,
I’m sure most of the girls are on your side and most of the time I’m with them. But today I want to be on men’ side. From what you described, you have at least 50% of the responsibility. It came from your words which made me irritated and write all of this, let me quote “再說了,他足不出戶,就算想接觸異性也沒有渠道,就算他邁出門去,就算他想出軌,在美國這地方,也找不著能看上他的主兒”.
Your man is quite a man. He took care of the kids, meals and home. What he did was the least a man could do without access to a mate, thanks to the technology. Well, the least with a mate. Someone here wrote, “Women have moon for the cycle, men have sun.” He, without a mate, could have masturbated but would you be happy about it?
When a person is single, his/her expectation is low and much of the sex desire is mostly suppressed. But he is married and you are his sex partner.
You did not mention that he had you available for sex. All you said was you needed a lot of sleep. You did not mention how you made yourself available to be with him. If you actually did and forgot to mention it, then you can stop here and don’t have to read more.
You mentioned that he never expected that you would be checking him at midnight, which meant that you never cuddled or kissed him at this hour. Was it difficult for you to do?
Yes, men normally initiate sex, but in your case, I bet he had tried to initiate but you most likely refused because you wanted to sleep. I’m not saying you should not sleep. You can make arrangement, sleep early or even have sex at daytime. Not every day, is once a week ok?
His words during cybersex were reasonable to me. Some dirty words even occur between hu*****ands and wives. You don’t expect a man write a poem to you during sex, do you? Women need to be romantic. What does a man need? Man needs to be wild. If you can let him be wild on you, I’m sure he will have no interest in cybersex. After all, it’s not physical.
Normally, men initiate sex. Your case is a little bit different because you are the “provider”. It changes the relationship and you should be aware of it and more active.
I’m sorry that my words are cruel to you. No matter what degree you have, no matter how high your rank is, no matter how much money you earn, you are still his wife, he is still your man. Before it’s too late, pull him back. Tell him he is so innovative that you want to do it with him. Tell him you love him, want to have sex with him, listen to what he wants, watch porn movies with him and let him be wild on you. Of course, keep it safe.
If this is not enough, go counseling.
Lastly, don’t say “網的那邊是中國,一屏之隔是中國”. I go across 42nd street everyday but that’s only common sense here. American does not lose to Chinese on this.
Good luck.
I’m sure most of the girls are on your side and most of the time I’m with them. But today I want to be on men’ side. From what you described, you have at least 50% of the responsibility. It came from your words which made me irritated and write all of this, let me quote “再說了,他足不出戶,就算想接觸異性也沒有渠道,就算他邁出門去,就算他想出軌,在美國這地方,也找不著能看上他的主兒”.
Your man is quite a man. He took care of the kids, meals and home. What he did was the least a man could do without access to a mate, thanks to the technology. Well, the least with a mate. Someone here wrote, “Women have moon for the cycle, men have sun.” He, without a mate, could have masturbated but would you be happy about it?
When a person is single, his/her expectation is low and much of the sex desire is mostly suppressed. But he is married and you are his sex partner.
You did not mention that he had you available for sex. All you said was you needed a lot of sleep. You did not mention how you made yourself available to be with him. If you actually did and forgot to mention it, then you can stop here and don’t have to read more.
You mentioned that he never expected that you would be checking him at midnight, which meant that you never cuddled or kissed him at this hour. Was it difficult for you to do?
Yes, men normally initiate sex, but in your case, I bet he had tried to initiate but you most likely refused because you wanted to sleep. I’m not saying you should not sleep. You can make arrangement, sleep early or even have sex at daytime. Not every day, is once a week ok?
His words during cybersex were reasonable to me. Some dirty words even occur between hu*****ands and wives. You don’t expect a man write a poem to you during sex, do you? Women need to be romantic. What does a man need? Man needs to be wild. If you can let him be wild on you, I’m sure he will have no interest in cybersex. After all, it’s not physical.
Normally, men initiate sex. Your case is a little bit different because you are the “provider”. It changes the relationship and you should be aware of it and more active.
I’m sorry that my words are cruel to you. No matter what degree you have, no matter how high your rank is, no matter how much money you earn, you are still his wife, he is still your man. Before it’s too late, pull him back. Tell him he is so innovative that you want to do it with him. Tell him you love him, want to have sex with him, listen to what he wants, watch porn movies with him and let him be wild on you. Of course, keep it safe.
If this is not enough, go counseling.
Lastly, don’t say “網的那邊是中國,一屏之隔是中國”. I go across 42nd street everyday but that’s only common sense here. American does not lose to Chinese on this.
Good luck.
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