寫給令一半的話，很無奈，也很傷感

quarrelled again just because I was playing after work, after I cleaned dishes and done homework with kids. Below is the word I want to say to her, but I konw she won't listen. Post here to see if I need to improve in my marriage life.

"you don't care what I did for the family, so you care to criticize my play. what is the point, why live with me? Why not go find a place that you enjoy, instead of quarrelling with me all the time??

Recall all quarrels in our life together, how many times is due to my criticizing on you? how many is due to your criticizing? I don't hope any change from you. But if we keep silent, then our marrige may last longer, which is better for kids, even though none of us feel good. I can't live a life you assign to me, not only because I am myself, but also, I am sure some of your suggestion doesn't make sense at all -- I don't want to quarrel with you on this, no point to do that, it is just different understanding of the world. The only thing I want to say is, if you want to be happy, work your way out, why force others to sacrifice in making it possible for you? Friends stay together because they mutually make each other happy, marriage is so even more."

所有跟帖： 

• 別的先不說，用英文就不對，除非她不懂中文。 -忍到底- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 13:36:32

• calm down -chamberlain- ♂ (79 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 13:38:01

• 你應該私下裏跟她談談，在這說也不解決問題。 -xix- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 13:42:55

• 懲罰一下，讓她知道不尊重老公的後果。 -塞上孤星- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 15:17:34

• How? -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 17:51:44

• 覺得你說的句句在理。解決的方法：婚外戀。 -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 15:29:00

• 回複：寫給令一半的話，很無奈，也很傷感 -好看？- ♀ (124 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 15:56:34

• typo; her, not him -好看？- ♀ (37 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 16:00:55

• 光說是沒有用的。 -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 17:47:25

• 斬釘截鐵地跟她說: 睡前一小時,雷打不動,我的自由時間. -鐵塔哥- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 16:57:57

• 怎麽一進城堡，就隻剩下一小時的自由了呢？自由都沒有了，還談什麽溫暖？ -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 17:50:43

• 得到這一小時,就是質變.將來量變就好辦了,比如開機關機不算時間等等. -鐵塔哥- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 18:02:55

• 這量變，也可能變得隻剩開機和關機時間？ -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 18:17:33

• here is the problem -好看？- ♀ (280 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 18:48:54

• If his wife spends time on housework and kids, or they spend tim -傻大個　- ♂ (349 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 19:51:20

• 有些笨女人是越慣越壞。 -傻大個　- ♂ (54 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 19:54:37

• 我可不主張男人哄女人 -好看？- ♀ (241 bytes) () 09/26/2009 postreply 06:15:40

• 你怎麽知道他LP沒做家務？7 -好看？- ♀ (60 bytes) () 09/26/2009 postreply 06:18:59

• 用語言無休無止地攻擊對方。這種家庭冷暴力是不能姑息的。 -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 21:22:35