Know what he thinks

It is true that some men have big ego over love. Some women have it too. It's also unfortunate that you two have not known each other's limit well enough.

Anyway, I think you overreact a little when you say "他竟然叫". The words you use tell me that you have a big ego as well. There was nothing wrong that he asked someone else to convince you. That’s part of the communication.

Commitment or marriage cannot be rushed. If you think you cannot wait and you have other better choices, go ahead. You don't have to be bothered about his reaction unless it hurts you. Of course, you did not say how you talked to him. You could say in a way that took his ego into consideration.

When he said the time was not right, he might mean something, like “I did not have enough down payment for a house”, or “my job was not stable enough to give us security”, or something else. Only you could know. If he was not joking or took it as excuses, it meant he was responsible for you and serious about the relationship. You don't want him to rush to a commitment and later regret. Your age is a problem but knowing each other for a year sometimes is not enough. Striping off a man’s responsibility is a serous offense a woman can do to her man. You would rather say you don’t love him any more.

I advise you talk to him about his timing concern. If his concern is not a concern to you or your concern about your health is more important, tell him that. Most love is selfish in that case whether it's your side or his.

All above assumes that he does not have another serious GF.

Good luck.

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• 謝謝。我會多想想的 -liyiand- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/21/2009 postreply 18:38:14