兒子給出的難題, 懇請老貓及有經驗的人士給些建議. 多謝!

事情發生在春假之前，也就是三月份。我兒子在學校的樂隊課間休息時，走到他左後方去和同學說話，另一個同學坐在他背後，手裏拿著小提琴的弓，弓的前端正好放在了我兒子的腳後，我兒子後退一步正好踩在弓尖上，把那位同學的弓尖踩斷了。樂隊上課是大課，當時很多人，大家都在講話。我兒子當時不知道那位同學的弓在他腳後。事後兒子回家沒有告訴我們，一周後老師給兒子一個單子，告訴我們兒子踩壞了同學的弓子，讓我們與對方家長聯係。我們馬上給那位同學的家長寫了單子，告訴他們我們剛剛知道這件事，並附上我們的聯係電話及電子信箱，希望他們與我們聯係，商量 解決辦法。

昨天，也就是一個月後，那位同學的家長送來一封信， 並附了一張replacement appraisal。上麵寫道：“To replace bow/copy of violin/France Pernambucco Silver mounted/ value $500”。

信的內容如下：

Good Day Mr.Xxxx,

I am writing to you on the unfortunate situation of having the bow that Xxxx(我兒子) stepped on replaced. I appreciate you sending your contact information to me earlier. I had obtained an appraisal from a luthier (violin maker” for the replacement cost of the bow shortly after the incident. I chose not to forward the information as it was just before Spring Break and felt that it should not disrupt your family’s vacation time.

The luthier advised that the bow in un-repairable due to the location of the break. Had it been closer to the frog of the bow it may have been repairable but the tip is so slim and takes so much stress and added weight from any repair would greatly affect the playability of the bow.

The appraisal on the bow is $500. This bow has been in my family for approximately 32 years. You may ask why Xxxx(他兒子) had such a valuable bow is because his graphite bow that was valued at over $200 was taken from his violin case earlier that month and as an interim he was required to lock his case and was given this bow until his bow would be replaced. Needless to say the month was a very expensive month for us, as far as, instrument costs.

The bow was one of my 2 personal bows and it is my preferred so I felt it would be more playable for Alan. The only other bow I had was valued over $800 (back in 2000), is a much heavier bow than Xxxx (他兒子) would use, and was not an option.

I trust that you appreciate our loss and we know that the incident was an unfortunate one. I thank you in advance for your prompt response.


Sincerely,

Xxxx



我的問題是：

1．我兒子在這件事上應當應該負多少責任？
2．我們應當如何解決這件事？
3．我們是否應該問他們要那個弓也去做一個appraisal？
4．如果雙方談不攏要上法庭，情況會怎樣？我們應當做些什麽準備？

謝謝各位的建議和幫助!

所有跟帖： 

• 你們沒有保險嗎? -老恐龍- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 12:47:49

• 什麽保險? -養兒不易- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 12:48:51

• 我在德國,基本人人都買一種第三者意外險.就是應付這種事件的. -老恐龍- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/26/2009 postreply 01:42:46

• 回複：兒子給出的難題, 懇請老貓及有經驗的人士給些建議. 多謝! -單身老貓- ♂ (14 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:06:22

• 終於“見“到老貓了，對您肯定不是了，我還真沒經驗。 -養兒不易- ♀ (48 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:11:08

• You are lucky. Some violin may cost 100K+ -jin_yin_hua- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:49:01

• 這麽貴的琴家長就給孩子拿去學校上課用嗎? 看來我們真該多見見事麵了. -養兒不易- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:12:52

• I think she is unlucky. cost too much. -ne0987- ♀ (61 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 19:26:19

• sounds like T"he $67 Million Pants" case to me. -ne0987- ♀ (95 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:12:09

• 回複：終於“見“到老貓了，對您肯定不是了，我還真沒經驗。 -單身老貓- ♂ (861 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:15:03

• 加一句,這個錢應該由您的孩子來出,可以讓他從零花錢中分期扣除 -單身老貓- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:17:48

• 多謝老貓花這麽多時間, 給出這麽具體中肯的建議. 不隻是 -養兒不易- ♀ (170 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:25:58

• 哈哈, 我也是這麽跟他講的, 兒了現十三歲了, 該是學習承擔責任的時候了. -養兒不易- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:28:13

• 500真得不多~~我朋友上高中用的小提琴估價就已經25萬了，家裏傳下來的 -小小巧克力豆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 17:33:49

• 25萬的提琴拿去上課練習？我是少見多怪了！ -dajia007- ♂ (72 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:11:44

• that must be full size. -ne0987- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:13:38

• 不是玩琴的，不了解，但是她當時是first chair，她媽媽家傳的寶貝 -小小巧克力豆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 10:20:56

• 回複：兒子給出的難題, 懇請老貓及有經驗的人士給些建議. 多謝! -peewee- ♀ (177 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:44:07

• 事前兒子不知道弓子放在他身後, 他後退一步不幸中標了~~ -養兒不易- ♀ (28 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:11:13

• 從教育孩子的角度講，老貓的建議是對的。 -peewee- ♀ (262 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 17:34:42

• 謝謝peewee的理解! 你能從我們的角度來分析問題, -養兒不易- ♀ (129 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:38:08

• if two cars hit each other on a private land, -ne0987- ♀ (53 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 21:14:38

• 謝謝你的建議! -養兒不易- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 21:31:49

• bid this one from ebay, US $0.99 now -ne0987- ♀ (325 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:40:26

• this guy have 10 of bows -ne0987- ♀ (267 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:47:42

• neo0987, 非常感謝你的熱心！ -養兒不易- ♀ (176 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 11:28:25

• If you hit a parked car, even unintentionally, you are liable -illogical- ♂ (220 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:03:48

• 要是車趴在高速公路中央，還真不好說是誰的責任。 -如塵- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:16:19

• 那毫爭議地是你的責任! -illogical- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:36:57

• lol -ne0987- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:40:56

• 孩子 will never get hired by an insurance company or lawyer firm : -ne0987- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:49:22

• 跟對方商量一下能不能50/50？那男孩沒把弓放在安全的地方也有責任吧？ -如塵- ♀ (88 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:14:33

• 回複：跟對方商量一下能不能50/50？那男孩沒把弓放在安全的地方也有責任吧？ -養兒不易- ♀ (58 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 11:17:04

• 應該2個孩子一人一半從零花錢扣除. 都是教訓. -老恐龍- ♀ (70 bytes) () 04/26/2009 postreply 04:45:46

• this is reasonable. -hz82000- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/26/2009 postreply 18:35:25

• 琴如果是一套買來的，BOW可能沒那麽貴，單算單配就很貴。 -chaoshou- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 07:56:22

• at least 20 years old 琴. based on IRS calcaulation -ne0987- ♀ (64 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 08:07:48