You are definitely not alone.

I can understand exactly what you are going through. You and your wife are in a situation that is beyond what you can deal with--- it is too much for both of you. Maybe you can try to get your relatives back home to come and help you for some time, or hire a baby sitter for sometime... Think this way, the money you have in your bank, does not belong to you anymore.. You only have 1/4 of it, if you are extremely lucky.. As a matter of fact, it is on its way to a lawyer's bank. When you start your process of divorcing, you will loose most of it. Then you will pay child support.. and everything else. So hire a babysitter first. Once you have a babysitter, take 2 weeks vacation from work. Don't tell your wife, just buy a ticket and come visit me---I am at the east cost. Disappear! 2 weeks later, your wife will know that you have been under appreciated... For me myself, as I was saying, I hang around Wenxuecity, argue with people I don't know...and dreaming about getting a devorce some day.. You try that...:)