I have sympathy for you, but I feel that you and him may have fewer common language...As a lady, you may care more of family issue while he thinks sth else outside the family circle...apperance or net lover etc just an excuse...tell you a trick, if you know his pen-name, you can pretend to be another girl to chat with him online ( provided he is at office and you at a public library ) he may want to tell more of his real feelings if you are 'anoter' person... one day he may even wish to meet you... is that a romantic solution...no money split...haha ( just my imagination)
good luck!
good luck!