What should I do

We married for seven years. He is an American (white). He had 43 jobs and over 20 cars before he met me (we met when he was 39 years old). He told me that I would not have married him if I knew what he was before, but he had changed into a complete different person. He was charming and good looking. I helped him to get his Ph.D. degree (I wrote one chapter of his dissertation). I helped him with his job. I cleared all his debt - his credit card debt, his student loan and his debt with IRS. We had good time in the first six years of our marriage, Then, last July, he told me that he had sacrificed too much for me. He said he had lost his freedom for something that is not worth it. He wanted to get out. He admited that he fell in love with a lady. I tried very hard to keep him. Our little baby was only 15 months old at the time. Then he agreed to stay and would stop his communication with that lady. Last October, I found out that he had never stopped dating that woman, not even for one day. He called her several times a day, everyday. He also had beening dating several other women over the Internet since Feb. He chatted with those women with webcam. He sent money overseas to them. He had set up accounts with several porn web sites. We were in big debt again. One day, he was chatting with the girl that he met on a porn web site in our bedroom. I interrupted him. We argued. He put his hand over my throat. Then, he threw me onto the floor with my little baby girl in my arm. I called the police. But I didnt press charge again him. We went to see a marriage counselor. The counselor told him that he had a diamond at home. We were back together again. This Spring, we had some peaceful time. He was away from home most of the time. He travels a lot. He likes travel. He does not like to be in one place. Home is too boring for him. I take care of my two little children myself. I have been like a single monther with a full time job. He came back home for one week before the labor day. Then he moved out. He said we were not good for each other. He has been proposing divorce ten times in the last fourteen months. This time I decided to let him go. I know he can never stop cheating. He is actually sleeping with a married woman this past month. He likes to tell me that life is too short. He needs to have fun. One thing that I am worried about is if he would do something that hurt my children when they visit him because of his absession with porn web sites, his quick temper and violence. Sometimes, he hits my son on purpose. Not long ago he yanked my six-year old sons arm just to make my son to feel the pain because my son grabbed his sisters arm. I know my children love their father. The days that he came back home were like holidays to them. They need him. With me around, I can watch them and protect them. Without me there, I can only pray for Gods protection. He does not want to divorce through lawyers.I don't know if I should file for sole custody.

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• You got red card and your kids are aemricans -freecall- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/13/2006 postreply 13:14:40

• So you got something from him already -freecall- ♂ (571 bytes) () 10/13/2006 postreply 13:19:36

• 回複：What should I do -單身老貓- ♂ (73 bytes) () 10/13/2006 postreply 13:32:10

• reality check -昭君出塞因地製宜- ♂ (556 bytes) () 10/13/2006 postreply 15:12:34

• 回複：reality check -hurtbyanN- ♀ (1100 bytes) () 10/16/2006 postreply 14:54:52

• 回複：回複：reality check -freecall- ♂ (402 bytes) () 10/16/2006 postreply 15:06:46