need help in California

Hi All
My wife and I are getting divorce. She moved out of our house on 1/5/06. I filed the divorce in Jan, 2006 and she responded in Feb. 06. We both agreed on the paper that I have 100% physical custody and share the legal custody. The visitation will be arranged time to time. I think she was having a boy friend and just want to leave.
During January to early July, she did not want me to know her address, changed her cell phone number and changed her job, so she was totally disappeared. The only communication was done through email. She was visiting our 2yr old son once a week. Normally the visitation was arranged by email and the day, time and location were all specified in email. At beginning, she asked me to decide how long she can keep the boy and I normally set the visitation time from 8:00am to 12:00noon. There was nothing disagreed from her. In March, she asked me to sign a form FL-350 to waive her financial responsibility and me to waive all the rights to appeal. I agreed to her and told her will bring the signed for to the court when the case finalized. In May 2006, she took two weeks vacation with her boy friend and did not visit my son at all during she was on vacation. In June, she sent me another settlement twice with similar statement that I will have 100% physical custody and she wants the join legal custody. I have agreed not asking any money from her for the child support and frankly, during these 7 months, she did not pay any of the child expenses. I though we have had the agreement and just wait for the court to finalize the case. We both finished the parental orientation that required by court. I was waiting for the court to set the mediation which also the court required to my understanding. However, in mid of July, she sent me another version of court paper (FL-120) as AMENDED and asking for 50% of child custody. And ask me to pay for the child support because she has no job now and maybe ask the money for child support and really support herself. I heard she broke up with her boyfriend.
Now, my questions are: (1) Can I keep the 100% physical custody? I am working as an engineer and my parents are moving to my house to help me to take care of the 2yr old boy. We all love him so much. I bought San Jose Zoo and San Jose children discover museum annual pass for my son. My parents take him to local park and library every day. Will this be a plus for me to get full custody?
(2) If my company wants to move me to other states or if I take a job offer from other states, how hard is it for me to bring my son to other states? If she doesn’t agree to me to move out of state, how hard for me to get the court order to move?
(3) What joined legal custody mean? For example, if I want to send my son to school A which is an OK school but not the best in the area. There is a private school B in the area and every one agrees it is the best but cost me an arm and leg if I send my son to there. What about if his mom insists the boy has to go to the best school and if I can not fulfill, she will take over the child custody and ask me to pay for the child support? Can she do that?
(4) My parents are planning a trip to China for a month or two, they have house there. They really want to bring my son along. How hard for me to get court agreement if she does not want my son travel without me or any other reason?
(5) Our 1st mediation will be on 8/11/06, what is going to happen there?
Sorry for the lengthy questions and thanks advance for all your answers. If you want to, please email me [e-mail] , I am open for any suggestions. Thanks again

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